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The_Face_of_Boo
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31 Oct 2010, 5:34 am

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Either way, that is a fantasy image and not the sort of guy I end up with. If you don't like someone you know, when you fantasise about being together with someone, you just have to make up some non existant guy in your head. The people I end up liking never look like that, because I like people for their personalities, and a unique look which does it for me.

Unlike what you think of us (us being so ret*ds who need slaps to understand), we (me, Moog ,TOS and so the other guys) totally understood the symbolism behind posting celeb's pics (since the beginning in fact) : they represent the ideal features and the attributes of your ideal imaginary guy.

That raises the question, if you end up with a guy who has nothing to do with your ideal imaginary guy that you were used to fantasized about ....and then all of the sudden , a guy who's very close to your ideal model of guy appears in your life and start showing interest in you...

.... what will happen =)?

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31 Oct 2010, 6:07 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

That raises the question, if you end up with a guy who has nothing to do with your ideal imaginary guy that you were used to fantasized about ....and then all of the sudden , a guy who's very close to your ideal model of guy appears in your life and start showing interest in you...

.... what will happen =)?

Nothing. Because like I said, I connect with people for who they are, not what they look like. I don't get aroused or attached by looks.

The "model" guy is generic because it's way to hard to imagine stuff (thats not a specific person) without refiing the attributes, which I can't. I like a variety of things, not a certain "look".

That guy only exists in the fantasy as a basic placeholder.

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31 Oct 2010, 6:12 am

If it doesn't matter to you, why the picture of Christian Bale? I'm confused... :scratch:

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31 Oct 2010, 6:14 am

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If it doesn't matter to you, why the picture of Christian Bale? I'm confused... :scratch:

Because thats similar to the generic placeholder. Doesn't mean its what I go for. Like I said above, I don't have a certain set of physical traits that I go for.

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31 Oct 2010, 8:39 am

^ you're making little sense. Certainly you have certain sets of physical traits that you go for and Christian Bale is one of those guys who has a set of traits similar to one of those sets.

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31 Oct 2010, 8:44 am

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^ you're making little sense. Certainly you have certain sets of physical traits that you go for and Christian Bale is one of those guys who has a set of traits similar to one of those sets.

whats in my head and what I actually end up going for aren't the same.
Its a generic place holder.

If it doesn't make sense, well sorry.

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31 Oct 2010, 8:51 am

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I hope you don't mind if I reply to this, too. I don't think you are "ret*ds". On the contrary, I really like the guys here and find you all very intelligent and great company.

Regarding who you end up with, I don't think I would find a guy who had none of my ideal qualities attractive anyway. So I don't think I could end up with a guy like that for the long term. An ideal guy (handsome lead singer in a band) did come along once and try to get me to dump my bf but he in no way compared. He was extremely handsome, but lacked the inner beauty that I saw in my bf.

A strong, long term relationship is about caring for the other person and wanting to protect them and make them happy. It's tender. And you both have to realize that there are ups and downs to the relationship. There are cycles of affection and less affection, closeness and drifting apart and doing your own thing sometimes. Even if a beautiful superstar comes along there's a great deal of work to do in establishing a relationship.

At the same time, I don't see anything wrong with admiring physically beautiful men. It doesn't mean I think less of men who aren't considered physically beautiful (see my 3rd pic). Nobody understands why I think he's so cool.

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31 Oct 2010, 1:16 pm

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At the same time, I don't see anything wrong with admiring physically beautiful men. It doesn't mean I think less of men who aren't considered physically beautiful (see my 3rd pic). Nobody understands why I think he's so cool.

Just make sure that, if you happen to be in a relationship with a man, that he's okay with it. And if he's cutting you some slack, be sure to reciprocate :wink:

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31 Oct 2010, 2:10 pm

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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

your 3rd pic?

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31 Oct 2010, 2:44 pm

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your 3rd pic?

This one....

The mathemagician:

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Just make sure that, if you happen to be in a relationship with a man, that he's okay with it. And if he's cutting you some slack, be sure to reciprocate :wink:

I've always been up front with my husband and he knows what kinds of guys I find attractive. That's not to say he can't get jealous. And he can look at or talk to whomever he wants. If he wants to sleep with someone I'd just like to know that she doesn't have any diseases. He's had a few female admirers before with whom it was clearly reciprocal. It wasn't a big deal. He's human.

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31 Oct 2010, 4:52 pm

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If he wants to sleep with someone I'd just like to know that she doesn't have any diseases

Too much sainthood.

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31 Oct 2010, 4:54 pm

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If he wants to sleep with someone I'd just like to know that she doesn't have any diseases

Too much sainthood.

I didn't know that wanting to not get a sexually transmitted disease makes you a saint... the bar must be set really low these days...

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31 Oct 2010, 4:57 pm

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If he wants to sleep with someone I'd just like to know that she doesn't have any diseases

Too much sainthood.

I didn't know that wanting to not get a sexually transmitted disease makes you a saint... the bar must be set really low these days...

nah...but tolerating sexual infidelity to that extent is certainly an act of sainthood.

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31 Oct 2010, 5:20 pm

Based on the stereotypical appearance associated with personality traits that I'm attracted to, probably something like this:

My last boyfriend was a very overweight computer geek. I'd post a picture of him, but I'm pretty sure he doesn't want his picture all over the internet.

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31 Oct 2010, 5:42 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

ToadOfSteel wrote:

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If he wants to sleep with someone I'd just like to know that she doesn't have any diseases

Too much sainthood.

I didn't know that wanting to not get a sexually transmitted disease makes you a saint... the bar must be set really low these days...

nah...but tolerating sexual infidelity to that extent is certainly an act of sainthood.

It's not infidelity if he has permission. Mine has permission to have sex with whoever he wants, too. Pushing your morals onto others... not cool.

And... it's The Face Of Boe. God, that felt good to get out.

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31 Oct 2010, 6:01 pm

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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

ToadOfSteel wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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If he wants to sleep with someone I'd just like to know that she doesn't have any diseases

Too much sainthood.

I didn't know that wanting to not get a sexually transmitted disease makes you a saint... the bar must be set really low these days...

nah...but tolerating sexual infidelity to that extent is certainly an act of sainthood.

How calling it an act of sainthood is pushing my morals onto others? and in my opinion it's infidelity but hmm...you're not entitled to accept it , so no pushing here.

Your false interpretation....not cool.

Btw, do you have the permission to have sex with whoever you want too?

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