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Awesome!

Now, to satisfy my own selfish indulgence...did you use any of my suggestions, or did you find another way to make it happen? I know it's childish, but I'm dying to know what worked so well...

Ultimately, though, it doesn't matter whatcha did...what DOES matter is that you made a move, it worked perfectly, and you're moving forward instead of giving up and bowing out to the other guy -- as so many other suggested that you do. GOOD FOR YOU, MAN!

You still haven't landed it, dude. She could be playing you.

Get laid, then claim victory. I've been jerked around by enough women to tell you that the above means nothing -- she could be a big flirt and used to working multiple guys. You're the right age for it too.

Btw, my example chick from my own life, which I put out there before you started being a dick in this thread? Did the 1990s equivalent (we didn't have texting yet back then). So.... nothing proven.

i don't recall that the OP's goal was to "get laid". he is interested in this girl, and has gotten to know her quite well. presumably he is interested in actually dating her, and success would then be measured differently than whether or not he had sex with her.

she understands.
See, the goal isnt to get laid. Its to find someone I can relate with, and eventually date. thats is sucess.

In any case bill, That is why you are diffrent than I. You are Unable to love. You just want to f**k other people, and cheat on your wife.
as*holes finish first, but trust me, not with the crowd i side with. You are only proving to me, and everyone else here who reads your posts how awful you are.

at cmjust, I joked around with her. Said I was her "white knight" sarcastically. and left it up to her to interpret. I get little hearts sometimes when she texts me.

Lol, well I would hope that sex came into it somewhere if you're going to date her. Otherwise, will you be happy if you're "dating" her and "loving" her while that other guy is riding her like a pony? Don't get me wrong, I'm all about a relationship, and I hope that's where things are headed.

You're still an ass though. I'm getting so tired of getting lectured about life from a person almost half my age with 0.01% of my experience. It's nice that you're finally getting somewhere, or think you are, but don't deign to lecture me about love or anything in that area -- you're the amateur here, not me. You don't know me, you hear one viewpoint out of many that I hold, and I've been in the same place as 90% of the people here, yet am a happier person now. If you don't want my advice, please f off, because there are people here who do appreciate my advice and do reach out to me privately.

I'm married to the person I love, who understands that life is not just black and white (though I'm trying to explain this to the "White Knight," so maybe I am just wasting my breath), and that good people sometimes do bad things. No one is perfect, or you would have to indict some of our most famous historical figures for the same sins you are accusing me of.

So really, little kid, just shut it. Report your progress here (honestly) if you want to make your point -- your revenge should be living well and dating this girl. And if she ends up still nailing the other guy, behind your back or in front of your face, or uses you, please don't think about me too much while you're crying into your pillow. You know exactly what I mean.

Bill...the more I read of your posts, the more miserable you sound.

Then again, I'd be miserable, too, if I were married to someone who didn't even love me enough to try to keep me in her bed.. What a miserable, unfulfilled existance it must be to feel so compelled to continuously whore yourself out to try to get your own wife's attention, only to realize -- time and again -- that she really doesn't care. I couldn't live like that, personally...

If you had even an ounce of integrity, you'd leave her and endeavor to find someone who could actually love you...but you won't do that....you'll never do that because, deep down, you hate yourself, and you know that you could never have anything but complete disdain for someone who could truly love something as disgusting as you.

Don't you have some oreos to go eat to plug the hole in your soul?

I can't make heads or tails of what you wrote above -- does it bear anything on what I said earlier? Like, I can't make any sense of it -- can you go back and proofread what you wrote? Maybe it sounded better in your head after the first scotch...

sex may come into it, but it is not his ultimate goal.

you can speak of his youth as though he is somehow clueless, but i think bewarethebob has a pretty amazing perspective with a great attitude. he is using his own approach with his own techniques, and i admire him because of his integrity. he will be able to respect himself in the end, and i would defnitely listen to what he says, regardless of his age or life experience.

he already has a leg up - his revenge (if he cared about something that shallow) is that he isn't bitter or angry. his youth has nothing to do with that - many users of his age have already gotten the rage and bitterness approach locked down. he is already living well, regardless of whether it works out with this one girl.

Hyperlexian, I appreciate your viewpoint and somewhat non-partisan answer here, but read earlier in the thread to see how this mud-flinging contest got started. Bob and I actually have more history from a few months ago. I tried to answer him initially by putting that behind us, but he cranked it back up again, thus triggering my ire.

The common thread in my reaction to both cm and bob -- being absolutely rude and insulting to me in response to what was supposed to be a nice or otherwise constructive post, and without cause. When people insult me, they invite trouble into their lives, and I do hold grudges. In both cases with Bob, he clearly has no experience, yet is all over me about my advice, yet I'm the one in the position he and 90% of the others here want to be in!! Married, happily (despite problems, which happen in all relationships), good job, a home, and now a child. But he and cm keep pouring it on, so I bite back. At this point, I'm torn between seeing how ridiculous bob will make himself with this whole thing, vs. getting tired of arguing with what essentially is an ant in my world.

So -- I don't know if cm and bob are just extreme examples of Aspies being Aspies (e.g. socially abrasive and clueless), but whatever the cause, they should know that their reaction to people is potentially hazardous to their health, and based on the experiences of other who have crossed me, potentially bad karma as well (I mean this sincerely -- people who cross me often die, lose their jobs, get diseases, etc. -- it's eerie).

people die, lose their jobs, get diseases, etc. even without crossing you. that's hardly a reason for anyone to listen to you. and it's frankly a little strange for you to bring it up.

No comment on the rest though, eh? I take back my part about you being non-partisan - I guess you couldn't think of some way to insult me, or couldn't be bothered to look up who was in the right.

And I bring it up because it happens more than ordinary --like within a week of the event. Just saying. I'm on a server full of f*****g weirdos and I can't say one weird thing?

your final comment came across like a strange karma threat. after reading that, i disregarded everything else you wrote.

Wow -- so much for second chances. I dub you ant #3, and will no longer regard anything you write as serious. I had some warnings before that you weren't what you appeared to be, but this insult cemented it. Enjoy your karma

you seem to have forgotten that we have argued before. i am not neutral, nor would i pretend to be such in any situation where i perceive someone to be engaging in what i perceive to be bullying behaviour* (in this thread and previously). nice job alluding to other people's opinions, as though that would matter to me. but it doesn't.

*by bullying behaviour, i mean threatening people with some strange karmic events because they disagree with you. and telling me that there are other people talking about me behind my back is also bullying behaviour.

edit: i just realized you told me i didn't insult you, then you told me i did insult you. i am not sure which one is the case, but i edited my most recent comment to explain myself as i don't want to be unnecessarily mean.

note: were you seeking a second chance with me? i don't give second chances without an actual apology.

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Don't you have some oreos to go eat to plug the hole in your soul?

I can't make heads or tails of what you wrote above -- does it bear anything on what I said earlier? Like, I can't make any sense of it -- can you go back and proofread what you wrote? Maybe it sounded better in your head after the first scotch...
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You understood perfectly. The fact that you can't formulate any better response than this tells me I was spot on.

You understood perfectly. The fact that you can't formulate any better response than this tells me I was spot on.


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No, not really. You blabbed something about my wife not caring enough to keep me in her bed.... ??????

Makes no sense. In reality, she wants me in her bed so badly that she would put up with a lot of pain, anguish, and emotional upheaval. Your logic is backwards.

Btw, for clarity's sake, you've been married how long...????