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kruger4
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08 Dec 2010, 10:32 am

Well I haven't read all the posts but, if a guy goes and talk to a woman in a bar here's only 1 intent. It has nothing to do with how a guy acts, if he comes and talk to you it's obvious what is going on. Now obviously most women know this but that doesn't mean they will reject you, they'll definitely give you a chance if they feel like it.



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08 Dec 2010, 7:01 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
ZakFiend wrote:
Harpist wrote:
ZakFiend wrote:
It's best to default to if a man is by himself and talking to you he has an interest in you. Most women always assume men who don't have any genuine other reason like say some task at work for talking to them is hitting on them.


What the hell? Some people do actually like to just be friendly y'know... :(


You don't understand the majority of men do you? Having sexual interest in a girl and being her friend are not mutually exclusive, hence most guys have one mode... women they have not yet had sex with.

it seems like you are contradicting yourself, or it may be that i am misunderstanding. are you saying that men cannot possibly be both friends and sex partners with women? or are you saying that it is possible?

when you say they are not mutually exclusive, it seems to mean that a man can have both kinds of feelings about a girl. but then you say that men have only one mode. confusing.


ZakFiend has clarified, but I will paraphrase just so maybe it's easier.

There is generally only one "mode" because the two feelings are not mutually exclusive. In other words, if being friends AND sex partners is no different from being friends, only better, then it doesn't need a separate "box".

Though I'd say there IS a second mode for guys, and that is "sex partners but not friends". There is no mode for most men that is "never sex partners, under no circumstances, even if good friends", but for most women, this seems like the category that most men fall into.



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08 Dec 2010, 9:54 pm

I'm glad other people have trouble reading this kind of socio-sexual subtext. I have absolutely no idea I'm being hit on, and apparently it's very awkward for men, who have to resort to grabbing me by the shoulders and declaring "I find you attractive and am interested in you!" I'm usually inclined to ask why they never said so before, even if they've been obviously making moves for hours. :(