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01 Jan 2011, 9:49 pm

nick007 wrote:
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My cat crawls into his lap when he visits....which is weird,,,and not something she is prone to do...either that or she wants to sit between us....(this is a cat who has, in the past attacked people without provocation)...she is also prone to run up to him in greeting...and also occasionally walk him to the door when he leaves...
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Usually my pets have a better judge of character than I do.


I am a horrid judge of character, and I get hurt all the time because of it...maybe I should run everyone i meet by Renesmee (cat) =^..^= My other cats and my dog are too socially promiscuous :) Nessie is picky...LOL.

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Did you see that movie There's Something About Marry? Mary's grandmother tells her that her dog is a great judge of character & a private investigator who has a thing for Marry overhears that & slips the dog some narcotic so he will be calm :lol: I don't think animals are great judges of character sometimes because some of em just like to be fed or something


That's why I said one specific cat. My dog will be happy with anyone who will pet or feed him, and the same is more or less true for my other cats, one more than the other. But my female cat doesn't like just anyone... :)

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01 Jan 2011, 11:28 pm

I don't know about "high". I feel affection for people but it's not like a "high" at all. It manifests itself as a form of anxiety instead. It's the standard affection; it is never different between people. So I can't tell if I "like" a person or if I "Love" them because there's no difference.



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02 Jan 2011, 10:00 am

That is all it is. Biochemical reaction to promote reproduction. In our culture, we make too much of "romance". For someone like me, that is impossible to deal with. In some cultures, marriages are simply arranged for the benefit of the families involved. Same results are achieved, children are created. No need for long, tedious, and ultimately deceptive "connections" and communication that are not even possible for me.
I have tried the whole dating and romance thing. Unless I am "putting on an act" or being deceptive myself, they lose interest quick. Seems a stupid way to procreate.



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04 Jan 2011, 11:16 pm

Shebakoby wrote:
I don't know about "high". I feel affection for people but it's not like a "high" at all. It manifests itself as a form of anxiety instead. It's the standard affection; it is never different between people. So I can't tell if I "like" a person or if I "Love" them because there's no difference.


I am also plagued with the anxiety..and feelings of inadequacy...and if I GET to the point of actually being able to "like" somebody....as in more than a friend...than it will be likely that I will be able to love them...

Things can go awry though...likesay..I have been the one to break up with most of my romantic partners...for various reasons...

but i am friends with many of them still....


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05 Jan 2011, 5:55 pm

I don't want to sound like the materialistic jerk but I see absolutely no evidence that suggests that the attraction felt between a man and a woman is somehow not physical or is not (at least partially) in the brain. I believe that attraction is also a physical phenomenon that is occuring in the body much like thirst and hunger.



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06 Jan 2011, 10:07 am

It's a biochemical reaction for anyone. There's no spirituality behind it, it is literally chemistry at work when 2 people are attracted to each other. It seems pretty obvious what with people being sort-of-half-sometimes monogamous and all.
The "spiritual" or "deep" connection when falling in love is how our own doo-lally minds perceive it.


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