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Craig28
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01 Jan 2011, 5:51 pm

Kilroy wrote:
I would change, because I care about her


I would also care about the woman I would be with, but there is a line that can easily be crossed where she changes a couple of things about you and you don't protest, she'll carry on changing you because she thinks it acceptable and that "you seemed to be okay with it".



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01 Jan 2011, 5:53 pm

never been in that situation



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01 Jan 2011, 6:01 pm

Kilroy wrote:
never been in that situation


I'll never be either, I would never get a girlfriend.



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01 Jan 2011, 7:54 pm

why is it assumed I thought I wouldn't get a girlfrinend



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01 Jan 2011, 8:14 pm

You thought I was talking about you. I reread my post a few posts up and I can see now my mistake.



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01 Jan 2011, 8:54 pm

The OP's suggestion of initially hiring prostitutes to effectively gain sexual confidence does make sense. One of the things that i fear in a relationship is sex - it just doesn't work for me in the same way as it does others.

I do recognise that sex is very important tho because my last long(ish) relationship went wrong because I failed to keep things interesting in the bedroom. However my plan is not sleep around for 'practice'. I'm simply going to keep sex out of my next relationship for as long as possible, then gradually introduce it



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01 Jan 2011, 9:20 pm

You never hear anyone talking about cold dates, do you?


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01 Jan 2011, 9:25 pm

Moog wrote:
You never hear anyone talking about cold dates, do you?


i think that involves Rohypnol :pale:



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01 Jan 2011, 9:27 pm

bucephalus wrote:
Moog wrote:
You never hear anyone talking about cold dates, do you?


i think that involves Rohypnol :pale:


Or the morgue :twisted:


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01 Jan 2011, 9:28 pm

Craig28 wrote:
Kilroy wrote:
you've said a lot how you want and need one...I donno
and its really not my concern


Human behaviour through the ages makes having a partner the normal thing to have. Its society that interprets how you behave and feel.


Really? Human behaviour determines human behaviour?
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01 Jan 2011, 9:35 pm

Moog wrote:
You never hear anyone talking about cold dates, do you?


I'd think a cold date would be preferable. You could do something fun like sledding or snowboarding and then have an excuse to get cozy together afterwards. Perfect! If the date is hot, you might be all sweaty and blech and who wants to be touchy then? Not me, that's who.


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02 Jan 2011, 3:28 am

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Well, Space, since you weren't exactly playing nice in another thread...

A 27-year-old has no business dating a 20-year-old. Go find someone your age, someone who knows better and isn't easily thrilled by the mere fact that she's going out with "an older man." What with you emphasizing the sex aspect of the date with a significantly younger girl, you are coming across as creepy.


Is that against the rules? :roll:



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02 Jan 2011, 3:40 am

I'm trying to make an unbiased reply (I'm not a fan of the member space, threads about using women and leading them on come to mind) but I think its a good way for a guy to go about functioning in the real world and learning about life. A lot of people could learn a lot from the original post, but choose not to. Good luck to those who do.