Who is attracted to you/flirts with you?

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Usually? Girls who are...giggly.

>.<

A lot of them are very...nice, but I just prefer girls who are a bit more...serious? Deep? Eccentric? Something like that. Unless they make me laugh all the time--that's attractive. But a lot of them are just silly and laugh at things but aren't...really all that funny. Most of them also tend to be very conventionalist/conformist, which is a real turn off for me.

Oddly enough the girls I DO like tend to like me--except as a friend. (Curses!)

I work at a pizza place on the weekends. This pizza parlor just happens to be located in a lower income area of my city and as a result more Blacks work at this place than Whites. I, myself, am white and have come to the realization that I may have AS. These two facts make it incredibly difficult to fit into the predominating rap/hip-hop culture that prevails at this place that I work.

Now, this doesn't prevent me from being friendly or being an effienct worker. It's just that I find that culture to be more "sexualized" than say the normal geek culture that i usually surround myself with (which is highly UNsexualized in comparison IMO).

Over the past nine or so months that I have been working at this pizza parlor, I've been hit on by this one 18 year old girl that is quite attractive. But, in true AS style, I am completely oblivious to her flirting. It was only when one of my friends told me that she really likes me that I actually realized what was going on. In fact, she even asked me if I was gay because I never talk about sex, make sexual jokes, or desire to get laid. To make matters worse, she's actually very intelligent, honest, talkative, caring, etc. which would make her highly desirable to almost any man (IMO atleast).

It's not like I can do anything about it either. As I mentioned earlier, my work atmosphere is based on the hip-hop culture which she is very much a part of. She loves dancing, partying, and smoking pot, which I simply do not do. I'm just a geek who loves to sit in front of his computer, play games, surf the internet, immerse myself in the world of technology and not much else. I tried to change years ago, but I just can't. These things are just too close to my heart and everything else is just out there. When I mention "Cisco", they think of "The Thong Song" when I'm actually talking about a multi-billion dollar corporation.

*sigh* Anyway, in regards to the topic, I don't really get hit on all that much now that I'm out of high school and college (to some extent). Like my story from above, I've been hit on by all sorts of girls. I'm assuming here obviously because I've only ever noticed flirtations after someone has pointed them out to me, which has not always been the case most of the time.

Hello, hello.
(This is my first post after the introduction forum)

Slapula. I recognize myself truely in your story except for the hiphop and all that jazz. I was working at McDonalds at a time and quickly caught the eye of a very hot co-worker. I was oblivious until some other guys concluded I was gay because I "ignored" her flirting. It was actually a bit of jealousy involved there because they couldn't get her in spite of their best efforts. First time a sane and very attractive girl took interest in me. I felt that this time I shouldn't blow it so naturally I did nothing and she lost interest.

Maybe it was because of the absurdity of the situation. Normal women aren't attracted to me so it felt surreal. I guess it was because we were all struggling in the same trenches of fast-food hell.

Every other girl that has been attracted to me has been either psychotic/depressed/on meds/very weird or any combination of the above. It's probably because I don't give a s**t about their condition that they like me. I'm immune to the grief of others so I can come up with good logic answers to self-pity stuff. "He's so understanding. He really sees me". Ha ha ha. Wrong!

I just got hit on my one of my female friends not too long ago.She's only 12,too....


-SpaceCase

There's no doubt about it, there are a lot of females who are interested in me, or who flirt with me. However the problem is:

a) I'm at a loss to know how to respond to the interest/flirting, or how to take their interest a stage further. At what point, for example, do I ask for a number? There's no hard and fast rule, and because of that I'm a bit lost. I also have no idea how to flirt.

b) Very often they are married or have boyfriends. It makes me wonder what their approaches are trying to accomplish. I realise of course some are just being friendly, but I do detect more from some attached women at times.

c) Who to choose? From a number of females who at least look like they're interested, I don't instinctively know who to home in on.

I have the unfortunate tendancy to attract and be attracted to slightly different types. I tend to attract too much "white trailer trash". While I'm attracted to the "cute librarian" type. I did have one budding relationship with a Ph.D in psycology. Unfortunately my relationship with her familyand friends got in the way though.

Well, a few guys on school have hit on me, but I didn't realize it until afterwards. An old, creepy man in Kentucky hit on me too, which was rather...different (I'm 15).
There's one guy who I can't figure out if he's flirting with me, or just overly-friendly, though I suspect the latter. Not that my friends' constant "Oh you should date ________" helps.

Nobody. Drunk chicks. Cute boys.

Nobody flirts with me yet.

I just recently reliazed that more boys flirt with me than girls. 0_0;;;


-SpaceCase

No-one that I can remember.