i give up.

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If there's a hell, I might be going there for this one.

Maybe you are trying to hard, maybe you are just messaging the wrong women perhaps. Some will only register on their to get their own ego's stroked by all the messages they receive (some you can spot a mile off if you read through what they write carefully) or in the hope that 'mr perfect' who has is own car/house/well paid career will take notice of them (some of them even ask for that although written slightly differently in the criteria of a man they are looking for)

Can I ask what type of women it is you are messaging as well and what it is they are putting in their profile?

The reason I ask this is because I have just registered on a free dating site called Plenty Of Fish (not sure if it's just a UK site or not) and not had much luck as of yet.

But one of the biggest things that annoys me on there is how most of the women on there will claim they only want someone who 'likes them for them' This in my opinion is just a smokescreen because if that were true, then the majority of them wouldn't be single and need to register on a dating site in search of a relationship. Is Ok Cupid similar in this sense?

So overall if you want more success then you might want to think more carefully about what it is you are writing in the messages you are sending out. But at the same time go through the info of those women that you want to message more carefully.

Some of them will be genuinely looking for love, some will be registered on there expecting too much or think they are too good for anyone who messages them and some of the women on there won't be taking the site or the men who message them seriously at all. In the case of the last one, don't take it personally.

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I'll be back in 48 hours to see the replies.

Well, just make sure you're on decaf, that way you won't be stuttering and wired .

BTW, if you do have an IT job, I still think that if you end up doing network admin or something along those lines that it would be a department of a larger company?

I remember when I chose my current position I was in a showdown between a mid-sized public accounting firm and a very small firm that does a very narrow and comprehensive audit of one cycle in particular. The first offered me a three month employment, temp to hire, unfortunately 45 minutes away, crappy weather for the drive, though at the same time - I kid you not - it looked like the Playboy bunny ranch in there. The other option was almost in walking distance, I didn't have to drive across the city, promised permanent hire as well as good salary topped with comission, work with great and down to earth people, travel a lot - obviously I went the later.

I guess what I'm saying though, its not always necessarily an intuitive call what you'll find where. IMO you don't exactly have to be doing IT work for Victoria's Secrets to be in luck with having interesting and attractive coworkers (and from what I've heard, Victoria's Secrets corporate office is....meh). If you go to work perhaps for a larger company, they have a corporate office where you are, and you'll be working in close proximity to the financial analysts, to marketing, and to accounts receivable/payable - there you go.

It's a small startup.

I need help. Lots of it. Not just for dating. But for social interactions.

Maybe I should just toss in the towel with dating. Delete my okcupid profile. I'm just as hopeless as TOS/nick007/Bataar.

I'm just not capable of love, and this god-forsaken forum has proven to me aspie males are NOT capable of being someone's partney/boyfriend/etc.

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I agree with this. Women generally don't like emotionally needy men any more than men like emotionally needy women.

Most women want to be "the" one special enough to catch his attention. His as in he, and he as in the guy they fancy.

I'll never win. I guess I'll ask my doctor for a Lupron shot to kill my sex drive and put me on some industrial strength psychiatric meds. Or I should just kill myself.

very few people ever "win" - by and large they just reach a suitable level of stalemate that the parties involved can live with. and if you decide to live long enough, your sex drive will go away all on its own, no scripts required.

How's the cycling club coming along? Sure, most of the people may be 40+, but age is just a number. They can be any age to socialize with and befriend. I had some friends from swing dancing that were 50+, and their friendship was totally worthwhile.

I've been spending more time on my snowboard - my bike is mothballed for the season. Spandex isn't good at keeping you warm.

But anyways, I made 1 riding buddy which I'm sure will grow into more during the spring and summer.

way to go

Alright, we got you from "Or I should just kill myself" to a smiley face within the span of an hour! muwahahaha Seriously though, that's good to hear.

Hope the conditions around Tahoe are good so far. I haven't been up there since... oh nevermind, I went to Northstar last season.

I'm back in the Bay Area - I only had my Kindle and my iPhone to keep me connected. Heavenly was quite simply, for a lack of a better word heavenly. My new snowboard - performed above my expectations. I guess Burton has lost a customer for boards.

And I made $50 at the casino.