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13 Jan 2011, 1:33 pm

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What, I'm not allowed to enjoy video games, or talking to people about them? :P


No, you're not allowed to have a different point of view from Kilroy, otherwise he's going to openly hate you, because apparently he can't tolerate people that don't think like him...

Actually I was commenting on Hale Bopp calling me a trainwreck. :P

And like Kilroy said, it was just friendly banter.



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13 Jan 2011, 1:38 pm

dunbots wrote:
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What, I'm not allowed to enjoy video games, or talking to people about them? :P


No, you're not allowed to have a different point of view from Kilroy, otherwise he's going to openly hate you, because apparently he can't tolerate people that don't think like him...

Actually I was commenting on Hale Bopp calling me a trainwreck. :P

And like Kilroy said, it was just friendly banter.


HB didn't call you a train wreck, she meant that thread had veered off topic!



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13 Jan 2011, 1:58 pm

Oh, my bad then. Image :mrgreen:



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13 Jan 2011, 2:00 pm

Grisha wrote:
dunbots wrote:
ToadOfSteel wrote:
dunbots wrote:
What, I'm not allowed to enjoy video games, or talking to people about them? :P


No, you're not allowed to have a different point of view from Kilroy, otherwise he's going to openly hate you, because apparently he can't tolerate people that don't think like him...

Actually I was commenting on Hale Bopp calling me a trainwreck. :P

And like Kilroy said, it was just friendly banter.


HB didn't call you a train wreck, she meant that thread had veered off topic!


and I suplexed said train



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13 Jan 2011, 2:02 pm

Kilroy wrote:
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dunbots wrote:
ToadOfSteel wrote:
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What, I'm not allowed to enjoy video games, or talking to people about them? :P


No, you're not allowed to have a different point of view from Kilroy, otherwise he's going to openly hate you, because apparently he can't tolerate people that don't think like him...

Actually I was commenting on Hale Bopp calling me a trainwreck. :P

And like Kilroy said, it was just friendly banter.


HB didn't call you a train wreck, she meant that thread had veered off topic!


and I suplexed said train


Kinky! What's suplexed mean, is it dirty?


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13 Jan 2011, 2:47 pm

UrbanDictionary says it's a wrestling move. :shrug:



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13 Jan 2011, 4:13 pm

Grisha wrote:
Thanks for the interesting replies, and the gaming stuff is fun to read too even if I haven't got the slightest idea what they're talking about...

Just to clarify, I had interacted with them on the boards, they were in my age group, and there were absolutely no romantic overtures beyond the simple fact that I am male and they were female. I didn't write anything that I wouldn't think twice about writing to a guy - and I certainly was NOT looking for a "hook-up", or even a real-life date at that point. I couldn't possibly conceive of writing a more polite, non-threatening message.

Really, I was only interested in getting to know them in a more personal way because I thought it would be fun to see what other Aspies are like.

That's why I was so baffled/shocked, and quite frankly, offended by the response I got. When it happened again, I thought I must on to something. Either way, I won't be doing it again, unless they PM me first.


I'm a female Aspie and I wouldn't have reacted that way, even though I am reeling from a horrible breakup of a Internet-beginning relationship at this point and going through awful obsessional withdrawal. So, no, not all female Aspies are not like that. I would have simply said it's a very very bad time for me, can we remain friends?

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13 Jan 2011, 4:55 pm

dunbots wrote:
ToadOfSteel wrote:
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What, I'm not allowed to enjoy video games, or talking to people about them? :P


No, you're not allowed to have a different point of view from Kilroy, otherwise he's going to openly hate you, because apparently he can't tolerate people that don't think like him...

Actually I was commenting on Hale Bopp calling me a trainwreck. :P

And like Kilroy said, it was just friendly banter.


Actually I was not calling you a trainwreck. That picture represented the derailing of a thread.



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13 Jan 2011, 4:58 pm

Yeah, I misunderstood. Grisha cleared it up for me. :)

On-topic, it's going well I think. 8)



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13 Jan 2011, 5:00 pm

I hope you tipped for the service



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13 Jan 2011, 5:23 pm

Meow101 wrote:
Grisha wrote:
Thanks for the interesting replies, and the gaming stuff is fun to read too even if I haven't got the slightest idea what they're talking about...

Just to clarify, I had interacted with them on the boards, they were in my age group, and there were absolutely no romantic overtures beyond the simple fact that I am male and they were female. I didn't write anything that I wouldn't think twice about writing to a guy - and I certainly was NOT looking for a "hook-up", or even a real-life date at that point. I couldn't possibly conceive of writing a more polite, non-threatening message.

Really, I was only interested in getting to know them in a more personal way because I thought it would be fun to see what other Aspies are like.

That's why I was so baffled/shocked, and quite frankly, offended by the response I got. When it happened again, I thought I must on to something. Either way, I won't be doing it again, unless they PM me first.


I'm a female Aspie and I wouldn't have reacted that way, even though I am reeling from a horrible breakup of a Internet-beginning relationship at this point and going through awful obsessional withdrawal. So, no, not all female Aspies are not like that. I would have simply said it's a very very bad time for me, can we remain friends?

~Kate


I would have been totally OK with that: just a polite, respectful reply to a polite, respectful message. Instead I get "f*ck off, pervert". Nice to know there are girls like you out there, and "get well soon" as far as your breakup goes :)



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13 Jan 2011, 5:36 pm

Hell no. I'd get too nervous. D:



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13 Jan 2011, 5:49 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
I think its because people don't come here to hook up. I would date another wp member, only if we lived close to each other and hit it off, which is most likely extremely rare.


she makes a valid point. most of us are scattered around, and that being said, even meeting up is hard enough. much less anything more.

I have never tried it myself. actually, to answer your question



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13 Jan 2011, 6:00 pm

Sorry to hear you had two bad experiences, Grisha. Maybe they saw that you frequent this forum a lot and jumped to conclusions too quickly about your intentions?

Many women with AS do have a history of being taken advantage of by men due to an inability to read social situations, having poor self-esteem, etc. and can be extra defensive as a result sometimes, so I hope you'll keep that in perspective and try not to take the severity of their responses too personally.

To answer the original question, I have dated people who are members here. One relationship in 2008 lasted about a year and ended for reasons that had nothing to do with this site. We actually met in person and later learned we were both members here, though. So, I don't think there is anything wrong with it necessarily, it's just very tough for most people to meet others on WP who are living in their area, like I did by chance.



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13 Jan 2011, 6:09 pm

Grisha wrote:
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Grisha wrote:
Thanks for the interesting replies, and the gaming stuff is fun to read too even if I haven't got the slightest idea what they're talking about...

Just to clarify, I had interacted with them on the boards, they were in my age group, and there were absolutely no romantic overtures beyond the simple fact that I am male and they were female. I didn't write anything that I wouldn't think twice about writing to a guy - and I certainly was NOT looking for a "hook-up", or even a real-life date at that point. I couldn't possibly conceive of writing a more polite, non-threatening message.

Really, I was only interested in getting to know them in a more personal way because I thought it would be fun to see what other Aspies are like.

That's why I was so baffled/shocked, and quite frankly, offended by the response I got. When it happened again, I thought I must on to something. Either way, I won't be doing it again, unless they PM me first.


I'm a female Aspie and I wouldn't have reacted that way, even though I am reeling from a horrible breakup of a Internet-beginning relationship at this point and going through awful obsessional withdrawal. So, no, not all female Aspies are not like that. I would have simply said it's a very very bad time for me, can we remain friends?

~Kate


I would have been totally OK with that: just a polite, respectful reply to a polite, respectful message. Instead I get "f*ck off, pervert". Nice to know there are girls like you out there, and "get well soon" as far as your breakup goes :)


Thanks, and sorry about the bad grammar(not all female Aspies are not like that...LOLOL)...I was at work and not paying too much attention...:)

~Kate <----language geek


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13 Jan 2011, 6:12 pm

blueroses wrote:
Sorry to hear you had two bad experiences, Grisha. Maybe they saw that you frequent this forum a lot and jumped to conclusions too quickly about your intentions?


I was thinking that. Grish, you do spend most of your WP time here in L&D, trying to work out how to get with the laydeeez... maybe they made a contextual judgment.

It's like talking to women at a Pick Up Artist convention, you know? Your intentions might be perfectly honourable, but the context...


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