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emlion
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14 Jan 2011, 5:56 pm

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Pstt pretending to like pop culture is not changing, it's faking.
And you know that.
Excuses, excuses.

THEY ARE NOT EXCUSES. Stop chastising me, you're just like every other girl I've met. Get out of my thread and live me alone

I know excuses - i've spent YEARS hiding behind them.
Blaming everyone else for my own problems and issues.
And getting past it was the hardest thing i've ever done, but totally worth it to get my life back.

You're right. I'll leave you to your sorrow and awful life :roll:

Goodbye.

Not worth my time, bringing other people down is not cool.

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14 Jan 2011, 5:59 pm

MR20 wrote:

emlion wrote:

Pstt pretending to like pop culture is not changing, it's faking.
And you know that.
Excuses, excuses.

THEY ARE NOT EXCUSES. Stop chastising me, you're just like every other girl I've met. Get out of my thread and live me alone

What reason have you given her to act any other way toward you, you have rejected and belittled someone trying to reach out to you and give you a hand ....albeit over the internet.

Can't you see a lot of your misery is your own doing (?) and therefore YOU have the power to make it better. I haven't even seen you say thank you to anyone who's tried to comfort you. You don't have to be smart, good looking, or interesting, or a millionaire to be polite.

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14 Jan 2011, 6:02 pm

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Can't you see a lot of your misery is your own doing (?) and therefore YOU have the power to make it better.

Your words have a good effect, even on me. I spend a lot of time brooding because real life people i've been myself around don't want anything to do with me. I asked someone directly for answers and he told me that people get sick of dealing with someone who is always miserable and depressed, so I figured out it was me with the problem.

Of course you are going to get people who will always hate you, no matter what you do. But if "being yourself" means being a depressive mopy mess then its yourself you need to work on and improve before you turn to others.

I'm not saying this because I think it will help, i'm saying it because i've been there, I am there, and I'm trying to work myself out of it.

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14 Jan 2011, 6:13 pm

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I've read them. I remember reading and thinking that changing the superficial things isn't going to help.

Changing your attitude is. Contacting social services is.

So what is the game? You don't want change.

I'm not the one that needs attitude changing. It's other people. They're the ones that have sex w/o marriage. They're selfish, egotistic and rude. They're the ones who giggle, laugh, and talking about people behind their back. They're the ones who shun and alienate people who are different than them.

In reality they need the changing not me

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14 Jan 2011, 6:15 pm

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Denial is the first step.

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14 Jan 2011, 6:18 pm

I keep myself busy else those negative thoughts start to set in on me too.

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14 Jan 2011, 6:19 pm

hyperbole wrote:

Can't you see a lot of your misery is your own doing (?) and therefore YOU have the power to make it better.

It's not by my own doing. I'm this way because of other people. People have shunned me and laughed at me my whole life. It's their fault.

I don't have the power to accomplish anything, I'm an useless bum.

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14 Jan 2011, 6:21 pm

MR20 wrote:

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Can't you see a lot of your misery is your own doing (?) and therefore YOU have the power to make it better.

As long as you believe things are hopeless, they will be.

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14 Jan 2011, 6:24 pm

MR20 wrote:

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Can't you see a lot of your misery is your own doing (?) and therefore YOU have the power to make it better.

Who cares what those other people are doing. You cannot control their behavior. You can only control yours. Instead it is easier to be a victim. I agree it is.

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14 Jan 2011, 6:27 pm

hyperbole wrote:

MR20 wrote:

hyperbole wrote:

Can't you see a lot of your misery is your own doing (?) and therefore YOU have the power to make it better.

Who cares what those other people are doing. You cannot control their behavior. You can only control yours. Instead it is easier to be a victim. I agree it is.

(cut myself off LOL) You know the best revenge is living well, prove them wrong. Prove youself wrong.

and don't give me some sob story, you can walk and talk and aren't in a f***ing diaper, which I am since my stroke. Pity parties get you nowhere.

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14 Jan 2011, 6:28 pm

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I can play video games well. I can watch anime, the Disney and Nickelodeon channel, and listen to Christan and grunge music for most of the time throughout the day.

OK. Lots of people do that stuff. Go to game stores, anime showings, and concerts. But do it because you like to. Not to because you expect to meet people.

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14 Jan 2011, 6:32 pm

The reason others can tell you with confidence that you can improve is because they've done it themselves.

You don't post your age, but I'll wager I'm more than twice as old as you, and I can tell you things can change because I've suffered through the same self-pity addiction and defeatism you're clinging to now and eventually I got past it. Its called growing up. One thing it requires is changing your circumstances and putting yourself out there where the people are, not lurking in your room behind a keyboard. And yes, you'll be rejected and ignored over and over, boo-effin'-hoo. One day, though, when you least expect it, something will change. You may not even notice it at first, but one day you'll look around you and realize you've actually made a friend or two. And then, it might take years, but one day you'll find yourself talking to someone who actually seems to be flirting with you!

So stop lying on the floor drowning in your own tears. One of the problems younger Aspies suffer from is a warped perspective of time. We have a learning disability. It sucks, but the social successes that regular guys (and girls) have just take LONGER for us. A LOT longer. I know that drives you insane when your hormones are raging just like everyone elses and telling you it has to be NOW, NOW, NOW. Chances are your NOW is going to be delayed significantly. But it will come. So can the despair.

And being ugly does not stop people from hooking up. Not everyone is so judgmental, and most who think they're ugly are not. I thought I was a dorky looking young man, too, and I realize now that I was just stupid for thinking that. What I saw in the mirror was just my negative attitude looking back at me, and probably caused me to miss a lot of opportunities. Its funny now, but there were a couple of girls I would have loved to have dated when I was younger, but I knew I was too dorky looking to interest them, so I never asked. Years later, they tell me how bad they were crushing on me because I was so cute, but I never would ask them out. That happened more than once, so who knows what you might be missing right now because you're BLINDED by your own self hatred.

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14 Jan 2011, 6:54 pm

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You don't post your age, but I'll wager I'm more than twice as old as you

I'm 23, turn 24 this year

. One thing it requires is changing your circumstances and putting yourself out there where the people are, not lurking in your room behind a keyboard. And yes, you'll be rejected and ignored over and over, boo-effin'-hoo.

I've put myself out there in the past and it didn't work out. People shunned, laughed, talked down to me and treated me like a special ed ret*d. (which I am) Besides I shouldn't have to leave the stuff at home that I love to do to go out and impress idiot people.

One day, though, when you least expect it, something will change. You may not even notice it at first, but one day you'll look around you and realize you've actually made a friend or two. And then, it might take years, but one day you'll find yourself talking to someone who actually seems to be flirting with you!

Here we go with this optimists crap, none of this stuff is true for me.

And being ugly does not stop people from hooking up. Not everyone is so judgmental, and most who think they're ugly are not. I thought I was a dorky looking young man, too, and I realize now that I was just stupid for thinking that. What I saw in the mirror was just my negative attitude looking back at me, and probably caused me to miss a lot of opportunities. Its funny now, but there were a couple of girls I would have loved to have dated when I was younger, but I knew I was too dorky looking to interest them, so I never asked. Years later, they tell me how bad they were crushing on me because I was so cute, but I never would ask them out. That happened more than once, so who knows what you might be missing right now because you're BLINDED by your own self hatred.

First, I don't want sex. Sex w/o marriage is evil. Second, I am ugly, poor, jobless, uneducated, I stink and I have emotional and mental problems. No girl would want to be seen in public talking to me let alone dating me. There has never been any "opportunities" for me. No girl has wanted to date me in the past and no girl wants to date me now

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14 Jan 2011, 6:58 pm

well you recognise the problems and don't do anything about it. What do you want us to say?

If girls don't like you because you stink, wash yourself.
If they don't like you because you're uneducated, apply for funding and train in something.

There is someone for everyone, but there is no-one for someone who refuses to take a step forward.

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14 Jan 2011, 6:58 pm

deadeyexx wrote:

MR20 wrote:

I can play video games well. I can watch anime, the Disney and Nickelodeon channel, and listen to Christan and grunge music for most of the time throughout the day.

OK. Lots of people do that stuff. Go to game stores, anime showings, and concerts. But do it because you like to. Not to because you expect to meet people.

Like i have money for that stuff. I use the money left over from my crazy check to by video games. I usually send my mom to the store for me.

I have a huge problem with crowds of people going back to my middle school days.

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14 Jan 2011, 7:01 pm

Well why don't you use it to save up to make your life worth it?

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