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30 Mar 2011, 4:36 am

Daredevil-Aspie wrote:
Looks are important to men. I am a man.

She needs to be 7.8 + in looks for me.

Far as personality traits go, she needs to be assertive, compassionate, and intelligent. And devious.


I cannot WAIT for the day when people don't seek to speak for their entire sex.


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30 Mar 2011, 4:37 am

Bethie wrote:
Daredevil-Aspie wrote:
Looks are important to men. I am a man.

She needs to be 7.8 + in looks for me.

Far as personality traits go, she needs to be assertive, compassionate, and intelligent. And devious.


I cannot WAIT for the day when people don't seek to speak for their entire sex.


LOL. Good luck being alive for that.



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30 Mar 2011, 12:06 pm

emlion wrote:
Bethie wrote:
Daredevil-Aspie wrote:
Looks are important to men. I am a man.

She needs to be 7.8 + in looks for me.

Far as personality traits go, she needs to be assertive, compassionate, and intelligent. And devious.


I cannot WAIT for the day when people don't seek to speak for their entire sex.


LOL. Good luck being alive for that.


That will never happen its sad but its the truth



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30 Mar 2011, 3:38 pm

Bethie wrote:
Daredevil-Aspie wrote:
Looks are important to men. I am a man.

She needs to be 7.8 + in looks for me.

Far as personality traits go, she needs to be assertive, compassionate, and intelligent. And devious.


I cannot WAIT for the day when people don't seek to speak for their entire sex.


I'd rather see the day where people don't claim to know everything about the opposite sex.



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30 Mar 2011, 4:26 pm

Bethie wrote:
Daredevil-Aspie wrote:
Looks are important to men. I am a man.

She needs to be 7.8 + in looks for me.

Far as personality traits go, she needs to be assertive, compassionate, and intelligent. And devious.


I cannot WAIT for the day when people don't seek to speak for their entire sex.


I said for me. :?



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30 Mar 2011, 4:28 pm

you said to men.



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30 Mar 2011, 4:30 pm

Looks are important for men. Now I can't say which looks are important for what man. But generally, that's the case. And if you find some dude who says looks aren't important, he's an exception, not the rule.



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01 Apr 2011, 5:11 pm

My girlfriend is not that attractive at all but I still love her because of what she is on the inside. I can care less about her looks.


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01 Apr 2011, 6:11 pm

Daredevil-Aspie wrote:
Looks are important for men. Now I can't say which looks are important for what man. But generally, that's the case. And if you find some dude who says looks aren't important, he's an exception, not the rule.


I like burritos, and I have a vagina.
Therefore, vagina owners de facto love burritos,
and if they don't....pft. They're losers.

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02 Apr 2011, 2:15 am

Bethie wrote:
I like burritos


I'm guessing veggie burritos?



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02 Apr 2011, 3:27 am

Bethie wrote:
Daredevil-Aspie wrote:
Looks are important for men. Now I can't say which looks are important for what man. But generally, that's the case. And if you find some dude who says looks aren't important, he's an exception, not the rule.


I like burritos, and I have a vagina.
Therefore, vagina owners de facto love burritos,
and if they don't....pft. They're losers.

:lol:
I like burritos too, and I have a penis.

Therefore, penis owners de facto love burritos.

Therefore, everyone loves burritos.



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02 Apr 2011, 8:36 am

dkittens wrote:
My girlfriend is not that attractive at all but I still love her because of what she is on the inside. I can care less about her looks.


You don't care about looks at all, or are you only saying that because you feel that an unattractive girl is all you could ever get anyway?



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02 Apr 2011, 8:41 am

I'd wager that most Aspies who say they aren't at all bothered about a woman's (or man's!) looks on some level are lying. They certainly matter to me and it plays a part, though it wouldn't be the be the start, beginning and end as with many regular people.



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02 Apr 2011, 8:45 am

Tequila wrote:
I'd wager that most Aspies who say they aren't at all bothered about a woman's (or man's!) looks on some level are lying. They certainly matter to me and it plays a part, though it wouldn't be the be the start, beginning and end as with many regular people.


Thank you. Finally, someone else on this forum besides me that's willing to tell it like it is.



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02 Apr 2011, 2:39 pm

looks matter to me but they are not the #1 criteria in my attraction to someone. i expect that looks would matter to my partner as well. that's not to say that my mate should look like a stereotypically hot person or that he/she should want me to "perfect", but that person needs to be hot in my eyes and i want to be hot in his/her eyes.

in my experience, love makes a person appear more attractive. the things that look like "flaws" to other people are what make the subject even more good-looking to a person in love.



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02 Apr 2011, 6:20 pm

I always hear people say it's not looks that matters, but personality, etc. That's true to a point, but for me, if I'm not attracted to a woman's appearance, I'm never going to get to know her personality because I won't be motivated to talk to her. If you see a woman (or man) and all you know about that is that you're not attracted to them, then you don't have anything else to base your opinion of them on.