jadw wrote:
OP, I have a feeling you might have missed something. Just because a gay guy wanted to take you for a bike ride doesn't necessarily mean your prayer wasn't answered. At any rate, you could just tell him you're straight if he does happen to make any kind of romantic advance. Chances are, he just wanted someone to hang out with.
Anyway, consider this. Maybe you would have gone with him and then both of you met some girl somewhere who happened to want to see you more. Maybe he has female friends. Someone told me that with prayers, things can sometimes appear to go in the opposite direction before coming to some kind of fulfillment.
You also say you struggle to get past a 'second date' with a woman. Maybe dating just doesn't work for you. There are other ways to get to know and be in a relationship with women. Of course, I'm still trying to figure it out for myself but I know there are other ways. Even just aiming to have female friends has a better success rate than dating. Remember that with dating, it's like going for job interviews. They know what you're after and there's almost certainly other men competing for her.
I agree with everything you said. The down side, in my experience, to being friends with gays is, once they realize they can't get you to swing the other way, they kinda drop you. That's happened twice before. I'll still chill with him, but I'm not hoping for a real friendship.