14 May 2011, 6:46 pm
Fnord wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Fnord wrote:
For all those complaining about how being fat places you at a disadvantage, I have but one question:
Who gets the blame?
Who gets the blame?
It's not a matter of blame. Some of us are this way due to medications, genetics, hormone imbalances, etc. It's just difficult seeing as the western idea of a perfect woman is impossible for most to obtain so the every day man is lusting for the women they see on TV because that's what they're taught to see as attractive.
This "Western idea of a perfect woman" is more of a universal ideal than you may realize.
I dated a few heavier women. Some were very sexy. It wasn't the way they looked, but how they behaved. They made eye contact, stepped into my 'personal zone', were cheerful and up-beat, and touched me frequently.
The only drawback, in general, was their insecurity around more 'attractive' women in public. Then they latched on to me as if for dear life. Their clinginess became very awkward, and their eventual over-possessiveness became a burden I could not bear for long. Each one insisted that I give up my friends as "bad influences", especially if those friends had 'attractive' girlfriends of their own.
Sexy is as sexy does, and desperation isn't sexy.
Universal as in no matter where I'll go, I'll be seen as unattractive? I figured as much. If I had the money, I'd get cosmetic surgery just so I would have a chance against attractive women.
I can't help but feel threatened by more attractive women as they are everything I'm not. I've had two of my previous bfs stolen by gorgeous women and I feel that if I looked like them, the guy may have wanted to stay with me. I have lost weight but I'm 70 pounds away from being remotely attractive. That's at least another 2 years of being ugly. How many opportunities would I have lost in that time? My "soulmate" could have bumped into me around that time but was disinterested by my weight.
Sexy is as sexy looks, as far as dating is concerned.
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14 May 2011, 6:55 pm
Fnord wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Fnord wrote:
For all those complaining about how being fat places you at a disadvantage, I have but one question:
Who gets the blame?
Who gets the blame?
It's not a matter of blame. Some of us are this way due to medications, genetics, hormone imbalances, etc. It's just difficult seeing as the western idea of a perfect woman is impossible for most to obtain so the every day man is lusting for the women they see on TV because that's what they're taught to see as attractive.
This "Western idea of a perfect woman" is more of a universal ideal than you may realize.
I dated a few heavier women. Some were very sexy. It wasn't the way they looked, but how they behaved. They made eye contact, stepped into my 'personal zone', were cheerful and up-beat, and touched me frequently.
The only drawback, in general, was their insecurity around more 'attractive' women in public. Then they latched on to me as if for dear life. Their clinginess became very awkward, and their eventual over-possessiveness became a burden I could not bear for long. Each one insisted that I give up my friends as "bad influences", especially if those friends had 'attractive' girlfriends of their own.
Sexy is as sexy does, and desperation isn't sexy.
I like insecurity, clinginess, over-possessiveness, & desperation. I don't really care about looks or weight as long as she's not unhealthy because of it(if she won't eat when she's hungry or pukes it up after; I'd be very concerned & encourage her to eat more. If she has diabetes & heart problems because she's very overweight; I'd encourage her to eat healthy & stuff) but besides that; as long as neither one of us will squish the other one when we cuddle; weight isn't important to me
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14 May 2011, 6:55 pm
Erisad wrote:
Fnord wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Universal as in no matter where I'll go, I'll be seen as unattractive? I figured as much. If I had the money, I'd get cosmetic surgery just so I would have a chance against attractive women.
I can't help but feel threatened by more attractive women as they are everything I'm not. I've had two of my previous bfs stolen by gorgeous women and I feel that if I looked like them, the guy may have wanted to stay with me. I have lost weight but I'm 70 pounds away from being remotely attractive. That's at least another 2 years of being ugly. How many opportunities would I have lost in that time? My "soulmate" could have bumped into me around that time but was disinterested by my weight.
Sexy is as sexy looks, as far as dating is concerned.
I can't help but feel threatened by more attractive women as they are everything I'm not. I've had two of my previous bfs stolen by gorgeous women and I feel that if I looked like them, the guy may have wanted to stay with me. I have lost weight but I'm 70 pounds away from being remotely attractive. That's at least another 2 years of being ugly. How many opportunities would I have lost in that time? My "soulmate" could have bumped into me around that time but was disinterested by my weight.
Sexy is as sexy looks, as far as dating is concerned.
But if he was your true soul mate, he wouldn't have cared what you looked like at all. He would have gotten to know you.
Look at me for example, I got to know you, and I actually find you as someone I'd like to talk to actively
.You are a good friend, especially when you helped defend me in that other thread, thank you very much, I am still grateful for that~♥
It's the inner beauty that counts, and I'm glad I found this out in 2007/2008, because otherwise, I'd just be really shallow still.
Inside, is a very beautiful girl.
Lets put is this way. Those girls that stole your boyfriends, they're not really nice. You don't go around stealing other peoples boy/girl friends. Their personality is rotten, therefor is unattractive, well to my eyes they are anyways.
It's not all about looks, rather it's about the personality and the heart~♥
Looks is only a bonus
.
But of course, we're all self conscious, even I am still~♥
I'm still blabbing on too much, sorry
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14 May 2011, 6:56 pm
14 May 2011, 7:02 pm
14 May 2011, 7:07 pm
EgyptianCat wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Universal as in no matter where I'll go, I'll be seen as unattractive? I figured as much. If I had the money, I'd get cosmetic surgery just so I would have a chance against attractive women.
I can't help but feel threatened by more attractive women as they are everything I'm not. I've had two of my previous bfs stolen by gorgeous women and I feel that if I looked like them, the guy may have wanted to stay with me. I have lost weight but I'm 70 pounds away from being remotely attractive. That's at least another 2 years of being ugly. How many opportunities would I have lost in that time? My "soulmate" could have bumped into me around that time but was disinterested by my weight.
Sexy is as sexy looks, as far as dating is concerned.
I can't help but feel threatened by more attractive women as they are everything I'm not. I've had two of my previous bfs stolen by gorgeous women and I feel that if I looked like them, the guy may have wanted to stay with me. I have lost weight but I'm 70 pounds away from being remotely attractive. That's at least another 2 years of being ugly. How many opportunities would I have lost in that time? My "soulmate" could have bumped into me around that time but was disinterested by my weight.
Sexy is as sexy looks, as far as dating is concerned.
But if he was your true soul mate, he wouldn't have cared what you looked like at all. He would have gotten to know you.
Look at me for example, I got to know you, and I actually find you as someone I'd like to talk to actively
.You are a good friend, especially when you helped defend me in that other thread, thank you very much, I am still grateful for that~♥
It's the inner beauty that counts, and I'm glad I found this out in 2007/2008, because otherwise, I'd just be really shallow still.
Inside, is a very beautiful girl.
Lets put is this way. Those girls that stole your boyfriends, they're not really nice. You don't go around stealing other peoples boy/girl friends. Their personality is rotten, therefor is unattractive, well to my eyes they are anyways.
It's not all about looks, rather it's about the personality and the heart~♥
Looks is only a bonus
.But of course, we're all self conscious, even I am still~♥
I'm still blabbing on too much, sorry
They didn't actively steal my boyfriends. My bfs cheated on me with those girls, so I call it stealing but it kind of isn't.I'm skeptical when men say that they "don't care what a woman looks like." I've been told that and then cheated on with some stereotypically beautiful bimbo. I feel that men these days don't care about personality anymore as they can't jerk off to personality.
14 May 2011, 7:15 pm
Erisad wrote:
EgyptianCat wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Universal as in no matter where I'll go, I'll be seen as unattractive? I figured as much. If I had the money, I'd get cosmetic surgery just so I would have a chance against attractive women.
I can't help but feel threatened by more attractive women as they are everything I'm not. I've had two of my previous bfs stolen by gorgeous women and I feel that if I looked like them, the guy may have wanted to stay with me. I have lost weight but I'm 70 pounds away from being remotely attractive. That's at least another 2 years of being ugly. How many opportunities would I have lost in that time? My "soulmate" could have bumped into me around that time but was disinterested by my weight.
Sexy is as sexy looks, as far as dating is concerned.
I can't help but feel threatened by more attractive women as they are everything I'm not. I've had two of my previous bfs stolen by gorgeous women and I feel that if I looked like them, the guy may have wanted to stay with me. I have lost weight but I'm 70 pounds away from being remotely attractive. That's at least another 2 years of being ugly. How many opportunities would I have lost in that time? My "soulmate" could have bumped into me around that time but was disinterested by my weight.
Sexy is as sexy looks, as far as dating is concerned.
But if he was your true soul mate, he wouldn't have cared what you looked like at all. He would have gotten to know you.
Look at me for example, I got to know you, and I actually find you as someone I'd like to talk to actively
.You are a good friend, especially when you helped defend me in that other thread, thank you very much, I am still grateful for that~♥
It's the inner beauty that counts, and I'm glad I found this out in 2007/2008, because otherwise, I'd just be really shallow still.
Inside, is a very beautiful girl.
Lets put is this way. Those girls that stole your boyfriends, they're not really nice. You don't go around stealing other peoples boy/girl friends. Their personality is rotten, therefor is unattractive, well to my eyes they are anyways.
It's not all about looks, rather it's about the personality and the heart~♥
Looks is only a bonus
.But of course, we're all self conscious, even I am still~♥
I'm still blabbing on too much, sorry
They didn't actively steal my boyfriends. My bfs cheated on me with those girls, so I call it stealing but it kind of isn't.I'm skeptical when men say that they "don't care what a woman looks like." I've been told that and then cheated on with some stereotypically beautiful bimbo. I feel that men these days don't care about personality anymore as they can't jerk off to personality.
Now don't be that way
.
There's a girl I liked for 3 years now, she was a very cute girl, but over the 3 years, she gained a lot of weight and everyone picked on her, she was having a rough time, but was still positive, strong and happy. Was insecure about herself, but doesn't matter~
I haven't changed my thought about her one bit. She is the beautiful girl I fell in love with 3 years ago.
I've said this in like 2 previous posts, if she handicapped, had no arms/legs, was a vegetable, was paralyzed, or even a horrible accident that happened to her. I'd stand by her side still, and I have for 3 years. She makes me feel so warm, and happy~:heart:
14 May 2011, 7:19 pm
EgyptianCat wrote:
Now don't be that way .
There's a girl I liked for 3 years now, she was a very cute girl, but over the 3 years, she gained a lot of weight and everyone picked on her, she was having a rough time, but was still positive, strong and happy. Was insecure about herself, but doesn't matter~
I haven't changed my thought about her one bit. She is the beautiful girl I fell in love with 3 years ago.
I've said this in like 2 previous posts, if she handicapped, had no arms/legs, was a vegetable, was paralyzed, or even a horrible accident that happened to her. I'd stand by her side still, and I have for 3 years. She makes me feel so warm, and happy~:heart:
.There's a girl I liked for 3 years now, she was a very cute girl, but over the 3 years, she gained a lot of weight and everyone picked on her, she was having a rough time, but was still positive, strong and happy. Was insecure about herself, but doesn't matter~
I haven't changed my thought about her one bit. She is the beautiful girl I fell in love with 3 years ago.
I've said this in like 2 previous posts, if she handicapped, had no arms/legs, was a vegetable, was paralyzed, or even a horrible accident that happened to her. I'd stand by her side still, and I have for 3 years. She makes me feel so warm, and happy~:heart:
Aww, you're so sweet. Does she know that you like her? You'd be real good to her.
14 May 2011, 7:21 pm
Erisad wrote:
EgyptianCat wrote:
Now don't be that way .
There's a girl I liked for 3 years now, she was a very cute girl, but over the 3 years, she gained a lot of weight and everyone picked on her, she was having a rough time, but was still positive, strong and happy. Was insecure about herself, but doesn't matter~
I haven't changed my thought about her one bit. She is the beautiful girl I fell in love with 3 years ago.
I've said this in like 2 previous posts, if she handicapped, had no arms/legs, was a vegetable, was paralyzed, or even a horrible accident that happened to her. I'd stand by her side still, and I have for 3 years. She makes me feel so warm, and happy~:heart:
.There's a girl I liked for 3 years now, she was a very cute girl, but over the 3 years, she gained a lot of weight and everyone picked on her, she was having a rough time, but was still positive, strong and happy. Was insecure about herself, but doesn't matter~
I haven't changed my thought about her one bit. She is the beautiful girl I fell in love with 3 years ago.
I've said this in like 2 previous posts, if she handicapped, had no arms/legs, was a vegetable, was paralyzed, or even a horrible accident that happened to her. I'd stand by her side still, and I have for 3 years. She makes me feel so warm, and happy~:heart:
Aww, you're so sweet. Does she know that you like her? You'd be real good to her.
Well... I'm not 100% sure if she does, but I think she has a hint that I do~♥
Her Birthday is today, and I spent hours making these 5 pictures with her name on it, I spent so much time in Photoshop editing it just for her~♥
She loves them and liked them all on Facebook. She really doesn't ask for much, I like how she is grateful like that, most other girls expect more. It's all I could give to her, if I could I would have called her, but I was so tired and had no credit left on my phone
Edit: Actually, I'll show them to you guys if you want. But in the Member section only bit
Okay? ^^
14 May 2011, 7:26 pm
EgyptianCat wrote:
Erisad wrote:
EgyptianCat wrote:
Now don't be that way .
There's a girl I liked for 3 years now, she was a very cute girl, but over the 3 years, she gained a lot of weight and everyone picked on her, she was having a rough time, but was still positive, strong and happy. Was insecure about herself, but doesn't matter~
I haven't changed my thought about her one bit. She is the beautiful girl I fell in love with 3 years ago.
I've said this in like 2 previous posts, if she handicapped, had no arms/legs, was a vegetable, was paralyzed, or even a horrible accident that happened to her. I'd stand by her side still, and I have for 3 years. She makes me feel so warm, and happy~:heart:
.There's a girl I liked for 3 years now, she was a very cute girl, but over the 3 years, she gained a lot of weight and everyone picked on her, she was having a rough time, but was still positive, strong and happy. Was insecure about herself, but doesn't matter~
I haven't changed my thought about her one bit. She is the beautiful girl I fell in love with 3 years ago.
I've said this in like 2 previous posts, if she handicapped, had no arms/legs, was a vegetable, was paralyzed, or even a horrible accident that happened to her. I'd stand by her side still, and I have for 3 years. She makes me feel so warm, and happy~:heart:
Aww, you're so sweet. Does she know that you like her? You'd be real good to her.
Well... I'm not 100% sure if she does, but I think she has a hint that I do~♥
Her Birthday is today, and I spent hours making these 5 pictures with her name on it, I spent so much time in Photoshop editing it just for her~♥
She loves them and liked them all on Facebook. She really doesn't ask for much, I like how she is grateful like that, most other girls expect more. It's all I could give to her, if I could I would have called her, but I was so tired and had no credit left on my phone
Edit: Actually, I'll show them to you guys if you want. But in the Member section only bit
Okay? ^^
Sure. This is kinda off topic anyway. As long as she isn't in the photo, it should be okay to post it. Not because of her appearance but privacy issues. You can PM them to me if you want. *shrug* I dunno. I'm silly.
14 May 2011, 7:29 pm
Erisad wrote:
EgyptianCat wrote:
Erisad wrote:
EgyptianCat wrote:
Now don't be that way .
There's a girl I liked for 3 years now, she was a very cute girl, but over the 3 years, she gained a lot of weight and everyone picked on her, she was having a rough time, but was still positive, strong and happy. Was insecure about herself, but doesn't matter~
I haven't changed my thought about her one bit. She is the beautiful girl I fell in love with 3 years ago.
I've said this in like 2 previous posts, if she handicapped, had no arms/legs, was a vegetable, was paralyzed, or even a horrible accident that happened to her. I'd stand by her side still, and I have for 3 years. She makes me feel so warm, and happy~:heart:
.There's a girl I liked for 3 years now, she was a very cute girl, but over the 3 years, she gained a lot of weight and everyone picked on her, she was having a rough time, but was still positive, strong and happy. Was insecure about herself, but doesn't matter~
I haven't changed my thought about her one bit. She is the beautiful girl I fell in love with 3 years ago.
I've said this in like 2 previous posts, if she handicapped, had no arms/legs, was a vegetable, was paralyzed, or even a horrible accident that happened to her. I'd stand by her side still, and I have for 3 years. She makes me feel so warm, and happy~:heart:
Aww, you're so sweet. Does she know that you like her? You'd be real good to her.
Well... I'm not 100% sure if she does, but I think she has a hint that I do~♥
Her Birthday is today, and I spent hours making these 5 pictures with her name on it, I spent so much time in Photoshop editing it just for her~♥
She loves them and liked them all on Facebook. She really doesn't ask for much, I like how she is grateful like that, most other girls expect more. It's all I could give to her, if I could I would have called her, but I was so tired and had no credit left on my phone
Edit: Actually, I'll show them to you guys if you want. But in the Member section only bit
Okay? ^^
Sure. This is kinda off topic anyway. As long as she isn't in the photo, it should be okay to post it. Not because of her appearance but privacy issues. You can PM them to me if you want. *shrug* I dunno. I'm silly.
I'll make a new thread, and no, you're not silly
.
If you want to see what she looks like you can, but I'll PM you a picture of her if you want to see what she looks like~ Because I agree with you, it's her privacy, it wouldn't be right to put her on the forums when I refuse to even put myself on it. But either way, it's not right~
14 May 2011, 7:39 pm
14 May 2011, 11:53 pm
- Attractive face and physical shape (which can vary between well-distributed fat and hot amazon, although I prefer slender athletic types);
- capable of intelligent conversation (in other words, willing to talk about my seemingly random interests on various sciences and philosophy);
- ambitious;
- trusting (which should be a given; considering my story until now, only an idiot would be jealous of me);
- tolerating.
If she is asian, likes chest hair and has some geeky interests, it'll be too good to be true. 
15 May 2011, 7:30 am
15 May 2011, 9:46 am
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15 May 2011, 9:58 am
Solvejg wrote:
Women:
Medium to long hair, or very short hair
Smallish nose
Big lips
Large chest
Hourglass shape
Around 5'10" ish
Both:
Hyper intelligent and not just academic smarts
Weird
Unique fashion sense
Similar interests
No Personality disorders
No Buff types.
No athletic types
Nobody with that weird thigh thing where the muscle leaves a groove when legs are spread. YUCK!
Frak! I needz to grow nine inches.
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