Helping a girl to work out

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LOL, no I haven't probably because it's the one I hate the most

I tend to answer questions like that with "What do you think?" if it sparks a negative reaction it's usually much less intense than if you'd given an expected or truthfull response.

I really find it quite difficult personally to answer questions less-than-honestly when asked.

That being said, "Do I look fat?" can alternatively be answered with either "Yes, your @ss looks huge" or "I think your green dress compliments your figure more than that one".



To OP: you're not your girlfriend's mother. If she's out of shape she either knows it and doesn't give two sh*ts about becoming your arm candy, or she's too busy living life to think about how much space she takes up at all- you're not interested in "helping" her: your very question involves how to best broach a topic to her because it bothers you.

What I find really tough is to figure out what someone is really asking me when they ask me the kind of questions we've been discussing.


Oh, I think there are lots of additional alternatives, aren't there? And I'm not picking on the specifics, here. How about, "your ass looks spectacular -- now get over here!"???

That's because --v


Or, put another way and as I said above, my girlfriend knows to the ounce what she weighs. She has a scale that gives her data; she doesn't need my interpretation of that data(!)

My feeling is that questions like this just can't be taken literally. They're not designed to elicit information; they're designed to elicit affirmation -- or something like that. No one is more critical of a woman's ass than the woman attached to it, in my experience. I'm just not inclined to help her be critical by laying on more "truth."


This I (and just about everyone else who has posted) agree with for sure!

If you can't accept her for who she is regardless of her weight, that says more about you than it does about her. :/

I agree.

If you want her to work out because you care about her and want her to be healthy that's one thing, but you're pushing her to meet your standards.

AND REMEMBER! People have different body makeup and chemistry. Two people can have excellent eating habits and exercise regularly, and still have different body shapes. One person's "healthy" can look different than another's.

Firstly, "helping" a girl to "work out" sounds like a naughty film. As far as asking a girl to do that, it's all in your delivery. There are 99.71 other things (by hilarious calculation) that would be less like a mine field to ask, like coffee or a movie. The fact is, EVERYONE is a work in progress, but very few people recognize that fact - especially women. This is like giving your mate a treadmill or grooming kit for their birthday - very bad idea. It sends the message that you do not like their appearance, or their "current status" if you will. Never mind that this person will continue to grow mentally and physically regardless of what they may think, they will fixate on that fact, and mark you because of it.

Basically, ask her to something else.

I couldn't agree more. I think people take offence at the suggestion because they prefer to see themselves as their own project, not someone else's. Even when they are not