Where are all the men?

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God, your aspie meltdowns must be mild.

Right, women monitor relationships more than men. And they initiate the divorces.

Also I think there is a subtle belief that men are the source of problems in relationships. If a problem is publicly discussed by a man there will often be a reaction of, "why did you make her do that?" Or "what have you done to make that happen?". Or, "If I was your wife and you said that behind my back, I'd divorce you". So I think men say less about issues because any blame will often be redirected back to them anyway.

We might leave, but talking about it publicly isn't profitable for us.

No, my ex-wife's hissy-fits were violent, loud, and lasted for hours.

And stop calling me 'God'.

This is why men don't post:

"I'm having problems with my Aspie wife."

"Get a divorce, and point her to eligible odd bodds."

Not to say this happens, but um.... there might be more incentive...

Is it that what men thinks?

If he is loyal.. If he is.... (what in men equals "cooking good food" in women?) and he has good skills on love-making...

If even he has good social position and wealthy..(your opinion again, the one we have the same ideas about.
I am not only consider about these two factors!!)

It would be a very sad thing, even much more sad than if the love has never occured...and it would be indeed a pity that I cannot understand him.....

I have experienced similar things with an AS young man before...

But I would never complaint about it. If I can never make so, I would leave him and find somebody who can have the mutual understanding with me, at least...

O, why do AS people would not show it?

I can understand and accept... I have already known some part about human nature...human defect...

And it is not necessary for me to accept it if I can understand it.. But I can accept many things...

Is this a reason that AS people don't want to be simple? Inner thoughts may become simple to tell out(using it in a very complex sense).......

This can be my reason... I am actually afraid about if I am simple..

Didn't anyone learn anything from the 90s?

Men are from Mars. So if you want to find where the men are, try Mars.

Ok, bad joke.

It seems to me that AS men in general are more desperate than AS women so maybe they are willing to put up with more. I doubt that every AS female ends up marrying an AS guy, and AS guys already outnumber AS chicks. I would bet that if it were put to a study, the percentage of men with AS who are unmarried is higher than the percentage of women with AS who are unmarried. Women also just seem a little more nit picky in general, maybe that's just me.

So numbers, desperation, and gender differences are what I will chalk it up to.

They are in the doghouse.

Since I'm drawn to quirky, original, honest women you wouldn't hear me complain to much.

As for any issue's that come up

If i get told, "you wouldn't understand", I would research/ discuss it with other people to find out more, but other than that I would just wait for a quiet oppurtunity, make her a cuppa and wait for her to tell me about whatever herself.

Most of the general advice I've been given over the years has been way off the mark, it's really only been people who have "been there done that", that were helpful. One of the reasons I like this site so much.

I work in a nearly all male environment, and women/relationship discussion is rare, most of that being about blokes saying how awesome their girlfriends are. You only really hear about the negative stuff in a relationship after they have seperated. The typical NT male response to this is normally just politely agree, buy them a beer and change the subject to sports etc as soon as possible.

I'm here Baby

I almost chocked on the root-beer I was drinking

This is generalizing out the wazoo.
That being said, I think it's spot-on.

Except insofar as the relationship difficulties are implied to be a result of an incompetency on the part of the AS man-
in such a situation, male or female, AS or NT, it is rarely the case where one partner's not understanding the other is not mutual.

Don't get me started on the "Theory of Mind" BS constantly-asserted about Auties by NT's who would never apply it to NT's understanding of Autistics.

And that's why you don't have a girlfriend. Women hate desperation in guys.

Why do women hate desperation in guy I like desperation in women

Because if you date someone desperate, there's a good chance that they are with you just for someone to be with, not because they like you. People want to be valued for themselves, not as placeholders.

I really think desperate women would genuinely like me after a while so I have a hard time understanding why women don't feel that way about desperate men