Misconceptions about online dating

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Other than the issues with your family, what do you not like about Christianity?

You mentioned homophobia. Some denominations (particularly Unitarians, Episcopalians, and Lutherans) even ordain gay pastors, and officiate at same-sex weddings (wherever it's legal).

Just wanted to say, I've recently been put on Buspar, which is taking some time to adjust to, and tonight I've also happened to be on a powerful muscle relaxer for an unrelated physical strain; the muscle relaxer isn't agreeing with me at all (I'm honestly starting to wonder if I'm allergic to it) and the combination has had very strange effects on my behavior and mental stability. I've always had frequent manic episodes and mild psychosis, but was having a very unusually severe attack, I wasn't in my right mind at all, and I sincerely apologize for my irrational, uncalled for replies.

You would actually be surprised about how many liars, nutters and weirdos use them. Mainly liars. There are SOOOO many liars on dating sites it's not funny. They lie about their age mainly, then their education, their photos, whether they are married or not, send out the same message to 100 girls pretending it's exclusive, what they are looking for, their child situation etc.

I've been on dating sites for 8 years and believe me, some of these aren't stereotypes.

Well to be honest there are even a lot of people in their 20's that have married and divorced once or twice these days.If I were you I wouldn't be nearly as worried about having' the 'scraps of another woman' as I would trying to find a good man that will love you for who you are.It's just like how certain people say they will only settle for virgins.Don't get me wrong,I would be grateful to marry an inexperienced woman so we could learn intimacy together.But modern reality says that in most cases if you find a person you like,odds are that they've been with another man/woman sexually before.That doesn't mean that I wouldn't want to be with them though.

Same deal with the divorce thing.If I truly loved a woman I wouldn't let the fact that she was married before or had a child by another man get to me that badly.It may be awkward at first yes,but it shouldn't stop me from pursuing a relationship.



You're doing fine I'm sure.The only way you could possibly 'fail' is if you let yourself and others persuade you to quit.I thought I would never be able to get my driving certification either.But i picked at my fear bit by bit untill finally I had that license in my hand.




One thing I've found is that if you merely apply you're unlikely to get the job.Hundreds of people do the same as you every month.The best course of action is to apply to a whole lotta places and then frequently call or visit the places you would most like to have a job at.They seem to much highly respect people whom will press the issue after the initial application.






That sounds very selfish.
Seems she considers everything about her,and never thinks that a young person needs their own freedom and independence.You should ask her why making a grown woman bend to her expectations and you asking for your own space is in anyway disrespectful to her.

I wonder if you could show me ONE instance where I said these faults apply directly to you?

I said that in general these are the attributes that make people come away with negative outlooks on online dating.Maybe YOU have been honest with others online,but that doesn't mean the people you write will be.All it takes is one to be unfaithful or dishonest and the relationship will start falling apart.I was just trying to give my friendly 2 cents but after your rude little outburst there,you struck a big Neg chord with me as well. Seems to me that you're the one sounding like the A hole my friend.

Thats sad about your mom,hope the best for her.I've seen both my parents die in front of me at an early age,and I tended to my grandmother with Alzheimers until the day she died.You're not doing anything a lot of other people have done.Take a chill pill and stop jumping down my throat.

Unless the guy just straight out says he just wants to "kidnap" you and hookup a bunch of times.

I'm sorry for your losses. I missed the context of what you said, I was not in my right mind in the least, and I apologize.

Apology accepted.
I got a little heated too,happens to everyone sometimes I suppose

If I may interject I believe that she doesnt have a problem with christianity itself, however she was forced/is somewhat forced right now to be a christian in several ways and when you get things shoved down your throat from an early age several people begin to develop some sort of hate towards them.

For example as a child I was put into golf classes(dont ask), I had to wake up very early every saturday to my class so when I was 12 I begun considering leaving it and I told my parents so, they said I couldnt leave it. Two years later I had stopped the classes and while I was at it I made a point on making sure I wasnt associated to it at any time(changed my style of clothing...)

Several years later I was with my parents watching golf tournaments live because instead of forcing me to go there with them they had invited me along to a near country for a couple of days to watxh the world competition(dont know the propper name)and I wasnt expected to dress a certain way any longer etc.

LULZ @ the presumption that "God" is de-facto the Christian one, and religiosity is default.

Ok, I have read through all of the posts, and here's what I think, for whatever it's worth. One, your mother does seem controlling and unhelpful. Almost 22, and you still have rules and things you're not allowed to do? Two, it would be very beneficial for you to depend on her less. Three, not having a car or job is hurting the chances at being less dependent on your mother. So here are my practical steps on how you could help this situation.

1) Move out of her house.
2) Move into a city with public transportation. Maybe the nearest city to your rural area?
3) Get a job, even if it's at Starbucks or a restaurant. Your profile says college graduate, I bet you could get something like that, and restaurants are nearly always hiring.
4) Find safe and solid roommates you can share rent with. There are plenty of websites to help with this.
5) Live like you've never lived before.

Just my thoughts, this is what I would do. Best to you.

that its easy

Well it's true that everyone has a right to their own opinions,that's what makes debating great.But indeed through my own opinions and experiences I have concluded that Jesus is the son of God.