How often do you see an "ugly" person

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Thanks. It's not just the weight per say that makes me feel unwell all the time, the Cushing's Disease basically destroyed every system in my body, so it's a constant battle to feel good. I do the best I can. It's my inner strength that keeps me going on a daily basis.

I don't judge a girl by the numbers that appear as she stands on the scale. And it's none of my business whether her jean size is a 2 or a 20. However, she has to be comfortable in her own skin! Seriously, I feel awkward listening to a girl say, " I look a little flabby/ I'm too big to wear a swimsuit/ if I eat I'll gain weight". What the hell am I supposed to say to her besides telling her I think she looks fine as she is?

I agree with what you are saying, and I am trying to better myself, I have already said that. All I am saying is whenever I go outside my house and go places, there is a shortage of attractive girls. I am just explaining why. Like I said already it is everyones responsibility to take care of themselves.

The same advice your giving me could apply to anyone else. I used to be really chunky myself, and I lost most of that weight.

Instead of "seeing someones inner beauty" and stuff like that, although well-meaning and true to some extent, is still kinda bs.

Some people need to lose weight to be considered attractive, just like I need to lose my mental "weight" lose the social "un-attractiveness" It goes BOTH ways.

...AND I still feel like people are taking this post the wrong way. I am not attacking overweight people.

All I was saying was that I am attracted to nearly all girls who are relatively in shape.

THat is my personal preference. It is frustrating to see more overweight women than not sometimes. But it is only that persons choice and nobody else's.

Whereas alot of NT guys judge a girl based on looks on the 1-10 especially the jock sports guys, I don't as long as they are not bitchy with an attitude.

But if she is that much overweight, I am not going to look twice......sorry

Why is it frustrating? If you can't find what you want move somewhere else. You don't live in a cage do you?

it doesn't matter to anyone present whether you look twice at a fat girl.

you didn't phrase it as being just your preference... you referred to fat people as "ugly", low quality, unattractive, etc... as though your opinion was universal.

it is apparent from the last sentence of your OP that you knew that your thread was inflammatory and negative, yet you felt the need to post it anyway. it seems like you knew exactly what reaction you would get.

I never said that fat people are ugly. I was talking about people regardless of weight were just hopeless. I was saying that almost never never do I see someone that fits in that category.

I never said fat people are ugly. Yes I knew the kind of responses I would get, AND I also expected people like you to mis-interpret what I was saying, which congrats you have proven me correct. People get completely upset whenever the word "overweight" is thrown out there. later this post is done......at least by me anyways I have nothing more else to say

OP, if you truly don't understand how you've come across, please take a look at the excerpts from your last post, and your original post. While it's true that you never used the phrase "fat people are ugly," you equated being attractive to being "in shape" seven different times in your original post. Look, you're entitled to be attracted to whomever you're attracted to - I don't think that concerns anyone here. However, you attributed an awful lot of negative attributes to large women (they don't "care" about their appearance, they don't "take care" of themselves, etc.), and use some pretty derogatory terms to describe overweight people ("Mr. McFatass").

IMO, it remains clear that you're directing some irrational anger at these women, and again IMO, I think that's what people are reacting to. Overweight women are overweight for a multitude of reasons (including serious physiological and psychological disorders). While it's commendable that you've lost your excess weight, it doesn't mean that your solution can be applied universally to others; it doesn't mean that the root of your weight problem is the root of anyone else's weight problem; it doesn't mean that you're somehow a better person than someone who is carrying extra weight. Those women may be just as sad, lonely, and miserable as you seem to be....a little compassion toward others might translate to more relationship success IRL. Just a thought.....

i thought he used the word "ugly" in the subject line of the thread as a reference to fat people.

That's me exactly, and I'm probably single because of it, but the alternative (dating people you aren't attracted to) is literally impossible - I've tried too...

I understand only a tiny bit of how hard that must be (I have been going through major mental and accompanying physical health issues myself this year, which are hopefully temporary). I truly admire your courage, and try myself to stick to that philosophy.

I would like to apologize to MR about my slight outburst. I don't like being called a liar when it comes to size and gender issues and I apologize.

Yes, I have seen one girl who was absolutely ugly. She wasn't very nice either, but I don't blame her.