"he is a really sweet guy"

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The kiss of death

The one girl I liked the most told me I was nice and sweet. (She also said at one point that I was sexy, handsome and had a nice ass, but I killed any attraction she had for me by being naive - never again). She was a genuinely gorgeous girl too, she had the long black curly hair and a pretty face (she had the greatest pair of tatas ever....).

Point being, it never pays to be the sweet guy. Save that for the actual relationship - if you manage to get into one. All the things I did without trying to be sweet was working for me and I didn't even know it. I'm naturally nice anyway, but when I over did it, it was clear I was going to end up with blue balls at some point loool

Yeah I've always been genuinely nice ( as in I'm nice because that's the kinda person I am, not because I want favors in return) yet I get shitted on by girls and watch them date douchebag bullies and other as*holes.

There's nothing wrong with being genuinely nice at all. But as you get older, you will begin to realise that there are a plethora of attributes you can allocate to your character (it's likely that you already have some on top of being "nice")

I started to amplify other sides of my character and I began to flourish socially, but because of my initial lack of confidence around girls, I would shrink into nice mode and that would be the only side of me they see.

Try and cultivate other sides of your personality, buy books, attend free seminars & courses or whatever, just seek to do something that you enjoy or that you think will benefit you. And tell anyone who thinks your stupid to F*** off or just ignore them . Take up a martial art, that will put a stop to the insults lol

very wisely put, also if a girl ever says "ur so sweet" its not a dead end, if u want her more than just a friend and are willing to gamble with that in mind, just take a break from her, spend sometime with some friends focus on a hobby, i hav found that in most cases, if theres realy something there, doing this usualy brings the life back into the relationship

Oh yes, I certainly agree (have seen this happen)

Lots of women have said that I'm really sweet but almost none of em were actually interested in me so I think few women are attracted to sweet guys but I was extremely lucky & found a woman who is & she's soo sweet herself that I cant help but be sweet with her

I agree with the boo here. It generally attracts women who want to mother you, not date you. And that isn't a proper relationship. They want to boss you around and do stuff for you and speak for you, not get "sexually excited" by you.

I think I shouldn't have used the word childlike cause that brings up all kinds of weird incestuous/pedophiliac connotations.

I don't want to boss anyone around. I just find sweetness attractive.

Like... sweetheart. I think I use words that contain "sweet" in a way different to most people. I don't use it the way waitresses who aren't even paying attention to you use it with both sexes. And not like mothers use it with their kids. I don't know. To me it means endearing in an enthralling sort of way.

It can mean a lot of things, most often though I think they're just saying that that guy is a great human being and that he's worth knowing.

I think they mean considerate and overall good boyfriend material, but they don't want to date him because they are in a relationship or aren't attracted to them sexually/romantically.

I think one of my neighbors called my other neighbor a "sweet guy" once, and he did have many qualities a lot of women seem to look for in a man, such that even I started to wonder why he was single because I couldn't really see any reason why he'd have trouble getting one except for bad luck. I think he just wasn't seeing anything he liked at the time though. He's no longer single.

I think that's most often the culprit.

Not always. I fit that definition of sweet & it's NOTHING like what hale_bopp mentioned with Megz . I think she likes me because I'm very caring, supportive & would do most anything for her. She is NOT like a mom with me at all

I think you are a rare case. You managed to find someone who is sexually attracted to sweet guys, which is a good thing for you both.

She says she doesn't experience sexual attraction so that cant be it. I DEFIANTLY think it's a good thing whatever it is

I'd like a mother figure who is sexually attracted to me. Maybe I just have really strong repressed Oedipal desires

Thats what I look for in a man yummy thats all I can say