26 Oct 2011, 6:51 am
SoulcakeDuck
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26 Oct 2011, 9:11 am
MR20 wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
tronist wrote:
bro. the only 'problem' with you is how you look at yourself. you compare yourself to others entirely too much.
take a step back, and stop re-enforcing your constant plunges into self-pitty with 'NO IM NOT GOING TO THINK ABOUT THIS' every SINGLE TIME it happens.
you have GOT to stop that line of thinking because it is destroying you. every time you think 'im not good enough' or 'im worthless' or anything like that you have to tell your brain 'im not going to think about this' so you dont constantly re-build your self-loathing (because this pushes you further and further into the darkness that you so obviously, and desperately want to escape).
people need to bathe. they also need to be able to change their clothes daily, and wear clean clothes. hygiene is important.
dont give anyone nonsense like 'i cant do it' because YOU CAN. you just CHOOSE NOT TO or make EXCUSES. stop with the excuses and DO IT. excuses will get you no where, much like how telling yourself you are worthless does the opposite of whats ideal for any person in the entire world. you're destroying your chances before they can even arise.
if you want me to give you some step by step instructions on how to bathe, i'll be glad to do that, just PM me. im sure you know how to put on clothes, its just a matter of doing it. washing clothes might be something you'd need to work on, however.
i'd like to refer you to a website: joesgoals.com
this website lets you build a 'goals sheet' (for free) to check which things you've done in a day. at the end of the day, when you complete your goals, you'll feel good about yourself. keep doing them, even if you dont want to, and dont make excuses for not doing things because in the end, you are only hurting yourself and others around you who dont want you to feel this pain that you are in.
stop giving up on yourself, and start TRYING. do your BEST all the time, and im sure your quality of life will improve. someday it might even meet your standards.
"If you saw me as a random person in public, you'd probably point, giggle, and laugh at me with your friends, because of how my face looks and how I dress."
no. the only people doing this are despicable people who you shouldnt listen to in the first place. im sorry if people have laughed at you before. i think thats happened to everyone at some time or another, and its never fun. its hard, but you have to not care about what others think of you. what you think about YOURSELF is the ONLY important thing.
take a step back, and stop re-enforcing your constant plunges into self-pitty with 'NO IM NOT GOING TO THINK ABOUT THIS' every SINGLE TIME it happens.
you have GOT to stop that line of thinking because it is destroying you. every time you think 'im not good enough' or 'im worthless' or anything like that you have to tell your brain 'im not going to think about this' so you dont constantly re-build your self-loathing (because this pushes you further and further into the darkness that you so obviously, and desperately want to escape).
people need to bathe. they also need to be able to change their clothes daily, and wear clean clothes. hygiene is important.
dont give anyone nonsense like 'i cant do it' because YOU CAN. you just CHOOSE NOT TO or make EXCUSES. stop with the excuses and DO IT. excuses will get you no where, much like how telling yourself you are worthless does the opposite of whats ideal for any person in the entire world. you're destroying your chances before they can even arise.
if you want me to give you some step by step instructions on how to bathe, i'll be glad to do that, just PM me. im sure you know how to put on clothes, its just a matter of doing it. washing clothes might be something you'd need to work on, however.
i'd like to refer you to a website: joesgoals.com
this website lets you build a 'goals sheet' (for free) to check which things you've done in a day. at the end of the day, when you complete your goals, you'll feel good about yourself. keep doing them, even if you dont want to, and dont make excuses for not doing things because in the end, you are only hurting yourself and others around you who dont want you to feel this pain that you are in.
stop giving up on yourself, and start TRYING. do your BEST all the time, and im sure your quality of life will improve. someday it might even meet your standards.
"If you saw me as a random person in public, you'd probably point, giggle, and laugh at me with your friends, because of how my face looks and how I dress."
no. the only people doing this are despicable people who you shouldnt listen to in the first place. im sorry if people have laughed at you before. i think thats happened to everyone at some time or another, and its never fun. its hard, but you have to not care about what others think of you. what you think about YOURSELF is the ONLY important thing.
^^^this
SoulcakeDuck wrote:
There is no ugly. Just people attractive to different looks, and ofc warped by media to love a certain shape more then another.
There are soon 7 billion people on earth and a good percentage of that would love you to death.
Be happy and ignore public opinion.
There are soon 7 billion people on earth and a good percentage of that would love you to death.
Be happy and ignore public opinion.
and this^^^
there's nothing wrong with your looks, MR20 - in fact i could point out all of the good things i see... but i do not think you would believe me anyways as my opinions do not validate your own self-hate.
The reason you don't won't to point anything out is because you can't. You're just hiding behind a weak lie. Just tell the truth and say that I'm fugly and retarding looking, and that's why you don't want to point anything out.
You just want to hear negative things about yourself from others so you can fuel your imaginary self hate.
I CAN tell you your looks are fine and there is NOTHING wrong with any of your facial structures/features etc etc etc.
What I CAN'T do is tell you to groom yourself, showers and bad skin and all that stuff you have to fix, I'm not going to wash you.
soooo jee. Have a good day.
Is there any point of convincing you otherwise, or are you hellbent on not believing any of us. We are very smart, you know that don't you?
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26 Oct 2011, 12:12 pm
Wolfheart wrote:
MR20 wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
MR20 wrote:
Now do you believe me when I say I look like a ugly ret*d? Or are you going to make some white-lies just to make me feel better about myself.
Please, none of the decent girls here would date a person with a face like that. Do not start with the BS.
Please, none of the decent girls here would date a person with a face like that. Do not start with the BS.
Not at all, women aren't as visual as men, circumstances or looks aren't as attractive as security or being self assured in yourself. In actual real life, how many times have you seen an attractive girl with a guy that looks like Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp? Women want the attention, they don't want a guy that gets more attention so that's another positive. If you can make a girl laugh and feel good in herself, if you can become a positive person to be around, people will sense that and you will become more attractive. It's simply a matter of self belief and changing your outlook of yourself.
You also have a similar facial structure to Lee Haney, 8x Mr.Olympia and here's a quote from him "You can be a beautiful physical specimen, but you're empty as far as what it takes to be a person, and that shows up real fast." In other words, show heart and a fight in who you are.
Lee Haney
Yeah you can spout all this stuff about personality, positive attitude, and whatnot, but there is a line to as to how ugly you can be. You have to look at least halfway normal in order to get a girl to be interested in you in THAT way. Also with making just plain friends.
Just by looking at me people think I'm ret*d and slow. (which I am) Look at League_Girls post. It's hard for people to respect and treat a person like that as equals.
It definitely doesn't help that I lack the other stuff you mentioned; I suck at humor, I lack charisma, I don't have anything interesting to talk about and I"m not an interesting person. I've often been told that I'm annoying and irritating to be around.
Be yourself and start being comfortable in yourself because you will become more confident and attract girls that are similar to you. You won't meet them sitting in your home, wallowing in self pity and loathing because you're not giving them a chance to judge you or get to know you, you're telling them who you are through your self defeatist attitude, you aren't giving your positive traits and strengths a chance to grow and shine through.
It's not about being an interesting person, it's about self belief, when I was younger, I was teased and bullied for how I was, some people are just plain shallow and arrogant to judge people without getting to truly know them. I used to think there was something extremely wrong with me, I completely understand why you say you feel inadequate or incapable, I went through line after line of school Councillors and psychoanalysts until I was diagnosed at the largest mental institution in the United Kingdom. I took it upon myself to improve my life, It was only when I started believing in myself, becoming more assertive and making a change in my life that people started to see me as a more desirable and confident person, If anything, It gave me more fight and heart to prove people wrong and achieve success. Your goal should be to prove people wrong and show them that you are an achiever and you deserve a fair chance just like anyone else.
Start building confidence in who you are, people will only patronize you and call you names if you let them, people will only treat you wrongly if you let them and don't take any action. If someone doesn't accept you for you, they simply aren't worth your time and if they are the type of person that gets one over on you by feeding on your insecurities, you should just disregard them and move on.
I've been out in the past and I've talked to a bunch of girls. Most of them did judge and none wanted to get to know me in that kind of way. All of them basically viewed me as this ugly, poor, slow, stupid, and halfway-retarded bum who was beneath them. They could never respect a person like me. They'd humiliate and try to embarrass me, They would make fun and talk down to me in front of my "friends" (it gets contagious)
BTW, what goals can I achieve? I've never accomplished anything in my life because I'm so pathetic. Prove people wrong, about what? They were right then and they are right now. They said I'd be a good for nothing, poor, pathetic loser that would never date and still be living off his parent well into his thirties. They haven't been wrong about anything yet.
BTW people will always call me names, make fun, and talk down to me. It's just the way that I look, think, talk, and act. It's just very hard for people to respect and treat a person like that as equals.
I made a decision that it wouldn't be worth all the pressure and being treated like s**t just to be friends with people, so I locked myself in my house and kept to myself.
That was over 3-4 years ago.
Joker
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26 Oct 2011, 2:09 pm
I think your hot I would love to vistit your chocolate factory 
26 Oct 2011, 2:27 pm
Joker wrote:
I think your hot I would love to vistit your chocolate factory
What is this I don't even......
26 Oct 2011, 3:06 pm
The_Face_of_Boo
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26 Oct 2011, 3:14 pm
MR20 wrote:
Joker wrote:
I think your hot I would love to vistit your chocolate factory
What is this I don't even......
You got your first fan already.
26 Oct 2011, 4:19 pm
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26 Oct 2011, 10:01 pm
MR20 wrote:
886 wrote:
No, but you're ugly on the inside to women if you need to post this, insecurity drives off women faster than anything else.
Yeah it's not like me being an ugly, slow, poor, friendless, uneducated, good for nothing bum had anything to do with that. No, It's just insecurity.
Also, I don't think me being a 25 year old video game, anime, and porn addicted hermit that still lives at home and can't drive had anything to do with it either.
Self-loathing does too..
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Do you expect girls to just feel bad for you for all your insecurities and date you? Do you think you can just GUILT a girl into dating you by complaining about how pathetic you are? It's not going to happen. Women are attracted to confidence above everything, and it's no wonder you can't attract a woman with the way you talk about yourself.
I couldn't of said it better myself, and I agree from years of personal experience.
26 Oct 2011, 10:09 pm
MR20 wrote:
886 wrote:
No, but you're ugly on the inside to women if you need to post this, insecurity drives off women faster than anything else.
Yeah it's not like me being an ugly, slow, poor, friendless, uneducated, good for nothing bum had anything to do with that. No, It's just insecurity.
Also, I don't think me being a 25 year old video game, anime, and porn addicted hermit that still lives at home and can't drive had anything to do with it either.
Wow you sound like me
You look good I think black people hardly ever look ugly, unless their really really fat thats kinda revolting.
26 Oct 2011, 10:14 pm
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