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13 Nov 2011, 3:02 pm

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The truth is, there's no universal way to tell what kind of a smile it is. But it's worth checking. If she doesn't want to be approached, she will show that in other ways. But a smile is definitely not a "back off!" sign. That's why I said it was a green light.


If you've got the confidence, ask every (single) girl in sight for her number, and imply a date later to pre-screen them. Expect about a 20% success rate.

Even if they didn't smile.

no. according to the only legitimate study of any kind, a man must approach thosands of women to get a handful of numbers.

and it would be a douche move anyway. i recommend getting to know women as humans instead.



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13 Nov 2011, 3:03 pm

i never understood the importance of getting someones number. :?



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13 Nov 2011, 3:04 pm

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I do have a sense of entitlement and get everything I want. But why shouldn't I when I am doing everything right: fantastic body, smart, good school, nice clothes, good appearance, good look, etc. But what I can't figure out is why if I think I am so perfect I am not approaching and having lots of sex with girls or regularly sex with a hot girlfriend.

because... you're not perfect. 8O and thinking that you are perfect is a big turn-off for most women.



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13 Nov 2011, 3:07 pm

I see what you're saying, but I am not going out with these women..they don't get to know me at all.



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13 Nov 2011, 3:09 pm

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I see what you're saying, but I am not going out with these women..they don't get to know me at all.

become proper friends with all sorts of real women in authentic circumstances like college classes instead of simply seeing them as dating targets.

and recognise your flaws.



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13 Nov 2011, 3:19 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
become proper friends with all sorts of real women in authentic circumstances like college classes instead of simply seeing them as dating targets.

and recognise your flaws.


I agree. The main problem here seems to be the fact you (the original poster) don't see women as real, human beings. Women as being individuals and different to each other. You only see them as targets and objects. You don't seem interested in them as people.

You need to get to know them in casual situations. Cold approach and objectification are bad and rarely, if ever, work. It's not something that should be your goal.



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13 Nov 2011, 3:56 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
no. according to the only legitimate study of any kind, a man must approach thosands of women to get a handful of numbers.

and it would be a douche move anyway. i recommend getting to know women as humans instead.


A man listening to a woman for dating advice makes him date like a woman.
This man dates like a woman. He sits around, hoping that someone. Anyone. Will ask him out on a date.
Approaching thousands of women would get him a woman.

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I want to have sex with beautiful young women. I am reaching the end of my youth and soon that won't be possible unless I use hookers.


He's desperate. Hookers are there, and they're a last resort.

Porn is a refuge, not an education. It's better to have a girlfriend. And her looks don't matter as much as you might think. And you won't need as much sex as you think.



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13 Nov 2011, 6:46 pm

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ahhhh, jobless, grade-less and PICKY too?? Why do you think a hot girl would even want you? Just for your aspie humor and your doux yeux? Land on earth already.



PS: my 1st post was edited.*
Cause I'm an underwear model?



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13 Nov 2011, 10:13 pm

SoftlyStepping wrote:
A man listening to a woman for dating advice makes him date like a woman.
This man dates like a woman. He sits around, hoping that someone. Anyone. Will ask him out on a date.

nonsense. i don't make things up or quote PUA - i speak from personal experience, talk to men IRL about their dating techniques and history, and observe real-life interactions, then impart that information here. i would not suggest that anyone should sit around and wait. that is just silly.



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13 Nov 2011, 10:15 pm

daveydino wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
ahhhh, jobless, grade-less and PICKY too?? Why do you think a hot girl would even want you? Just for your aspie humor and your doux yeux? Land on earth already.
Cause I'm an underwear model?

if you're getting paid to model underwear then you are not jobless, are you?