What Is Most "Attractive" To You?

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My criteria - it just has to feel right; ie. I need an intuition that I'm doing the right thing by her and by me.

for me its all about the interest level. if a person is boring then im not sure if i even really want to know them as more then an friend of a friend or a stranger on the road.

personally i dont think 'physical appearance' should be on your scale at all. when people arent physically attracted to each other its hard to make it work between them.

past this, however, the thing i seek the most is intellect and 'nerdiness'. girls that play the same games that i play are uber attractive to me, especially if they are either good at them, or are really dedicated towards getting better. i hope to marry a girl that im attracted to that i can play games with. ideally she would also be able to hold a good conversation about nerdy topics with me.

oh, and if she doesnt like to cuddle it probably wouldnt work out. it wouldnt have to be right away though, im sure most people would 'warm up' to cuddling with me if they just tried it. im pretty snuggly .

I would say the immediate attraction definately revolves around physical attraction - however, one of the niceties about being an aspie is that it is really easy for me to figure out who I go along with and who I don't. Some people I can talk to, and some people... well... it just gets awkward. I've been trying to figure out why it is this way, and I think a lot of it has to do with similar interests and the same outlook on life.

(What I'm trying to say is that just because I'm physically attracted to a person doesn't neccessarily mean I'd go along with them.)

In some ways I envy the people who are able to overlook and/or see beyond the physical aspect(s)... they probably have a much easier time finding partners. Unfortunately I was never amongst them.

As for some of the other ones (in order of importance);

Artistic talent
Knowledge and wisdom
Friendliness
Sensuality
Political affiliation
Modesty

Nothing I find people as unattractive as they find me, aspies are hard wired from birth not to be in relationhships so why fight it ?

What is wrong with you ?

I have better things to do with my time than make myself likeable to you, apparently most of you don't .

How about some one that doesn't cheat on you, beat you up or scab money of you and is willing to accept you just the way you are , if you where to find such a person you'd be doing better than 75% + of the worlds couples, alas no most of you seem just as indecent as Nt's it's all about money,looks and "funny guys"

I used to find Clarkson (Jermay) of Top Gear fame amusing now I find him to be a irritating and condescending bore, most 'funny" people are depressive anyways

Would you want to spend the rest of your life with a manic depressive?

First is and will always be good looks second is being freindly and third is a combination of there religious and political affiliations 4th is any cool skills or talents they have a can respect


However as I get to know a person its not that Looks become less important rather I start to find girls that like for others reasons better looking.

But also just clicking with someone is the biggest thing and I often can not put my finger on why it happens

Intelligence and a thick emotional skin. It takes a lot to be with an aspie I assume, so my humor is always critisized - and it would be nice to be with a girl who could tennis comments back and fourth or at least take a joke.

Looks
Height