RICKY5 wrote:
Esteban wrote:
Admittedly I gave up on dating a long time ago, but even if not kids would be a deal breaker for me. I don't think I could avoid the feeling of being taken for a ride for raising another man's kid. It wouldn't be a problem with adoption, as we'd both be on the same footing, but it would be with a stepkid. I have the suspicion it would be a situation where I'd be a parent when it comes to obligations, but when it came to rights I'd just be the fool who sleeps with Mom. And if you don't bond with the kids, that means trouble, and if you do and the relationship doesn't work out well, you're not the real Dad...
You'll get sex in the first few dates when she is trying to sucker you in. After you are snared, then it dries right up.
Im sorry but leaving aside the bitterness of your post it makes no sense.
If a male is interested in sex in a relationship and said event stops most males try to talk things with their partner/find a more suitable partner.
The assumption that most males would remain in a relationship like the one you mention makes no sense to me and to most sociologists nowadays. Ive read books that said that a similar attitude may have been predominant in the past with the genders swapped because females only wanted to their basic needs covered(food, a roof to live under...) but that stopped happening decades ago when most people put their personal priorities before basic needs.
I understand there may be some males that would remain in a relationship like the one you mention but it is a very low number and they are most likely to be asexual