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27 Jan 2012, 11:44 am

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Yea, it's certainly cultural, women here are usually extremely marriage-oriented. In other term they see that the final goal of any date or any relationship is usually marriage. The dating_for_marriage is the default type and not dating_for_fun_and_then_maybe_marriage-one_day, are you getting the difference?


Would this be the case regardless of whether she already had children? It sounds like it would be.

It's just so dehumanizing, to see women thrown away as prospects solely because they have children already. I'm so glad it's not like that here. :wink:



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27 Jan 2012, 11:56 am

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It's just so dehumanizing, to see women thrown away as prospects solely because they have children already. I'm so glad it's not like that here. :wink:


I think single parents are overlooked and avoided everywhere, not just in the mid-east, hence why I keep seeing them complaining about this on the net.

But I've already explained my reason, it's me not her, and it's nothing dehumanizing.

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Yea, it's certainly cultural, women here are usually extremely marriage-oriented. In other term they see that the final goal of any date or any relationship is usually marriage. The dating_for_marriage is the default type and not dating_for_fun_and_then_maybe_marriage-one_day, are you getting the difference?


Would this be the case regardless of whether she already had children? It sounds like it would be.



Yes, it's usually the case.

Why else do you think she cancelled the date on Sat then she later told me on Sunday she has kids? If she just wanted fun, and not something potentially serious, then she wouldn't even care to let me know in the very beginning and she wouldn't feel embarrassed for not mentioning it before.



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27 Jan 2012, 4:42 pm

Update: Hmmm, I should start reading about the "women flaking out in the last minute/day/one-day-before".

*shrugs* I didn't show much reaction; I'll play it indifferent.



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27 Jan 2012, 5:05 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Update: Hmmm, I should start reading about the "women flaking out in the last minute/day/one-day-before".


This is where you accept the flake like the gentleman that you are and think of other potential prospects, confidently thinking she will come back to you one of these days ... when you're finally over her ...

Ah, how easy it is to just say words, lol.

But, yeah, flaking sucks and has probably happened in every man's dating life. You just have to get used to it (and not show at all that it affects you) when they do flake. Almost every man has to face this one.



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27 Jan 2012, 5:13 pm

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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Update: Hmmm, I should start reading about the "women flaking out in the last minute/day/one-day-before".


This is where you accept the flake like the gentleman that you are and think of other potential prospects, confidently thinking she will come back to you one of these days ... when you're finally over her ...

Ah, how easy it is to just say words, lol.

But, yeah, flaking sucks and has probably happened in every man's dating life. You just have to get used to it (and not show at all that it affects you) when they do flake. Almost every man has to face this one.


Getting over her? lol , don't worry, I am not like in love with her; I would just count her as prospect and maybe later a friend, but nothing more in the time being.



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27 Jan 2012, 5:14 pm

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It is up to Boo what he chooses to do here.


Nobody was telling him what to do. My comments were merely suggestions.



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27 Jan 2012, 5:32 pm

MCalavera wrote:
But, yeah, flaking sucks and has probably happened in every person's dating life. You just have to get used to it (and not show at all that it affects you) when they do flake. Almost every person has to face this one.

corrected for accuracy (bolded). being flaky is not unique to women.

Boo, it's obviously entirely your decision. but at your age most women have children, so you'd be severely limiting your dating prospects by not dating single mothers. of course you can't be faulted for having that preference, just be aware of the effect it would have on your dating pool.


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27 Jan 2012, 5:44 pm

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MCalavera wrote:
But, yeah, flaking sucks and has probably happened in every person's dating life. You just have to get used to it (and not show at all that it affects you) when they do flake. Almost every person has to face this one.

corrected for accuracy (bolded). being flaky is not unique to women.

Boo, it's obviously entirely your decision. but at your age most women have children, so you'd be severely limiting your dating prospects by not dating single mothers. of course you can't be faulted for having that preference, just be aware of the effect it would have on your dating pool.


Commitment with a woman with children (especially if they're already in school) = staying in Lebanon for the rest of my life (or ending the commitment at some point in a dramatic way).



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27 Jan 2012, 5:52 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
MCalavera wrote:
But, yeah, flaking sucks and has probably happened in every person's dating life. You just have to get used to it (and not show at all that it affects you) when they do flake. Almost every person has to face this one.

corrected for accuracy (bolded). being flaky is not unique to women.

Boo, it's obviously entirely your decision. but at your age most women have children, so you'd be severely limiting your dating prospects by not dating single mothers. of course you can't be faulted for having that preference, just be aware of the effect it would have on your dating pool.


Commitment with a woman with children (especially if they're already in school) = staying in Lebanon for the rest of my life (or ending the commitment at some point in a dramatic way).

yeah that is totally reasonable. unless you date single mothers from other countries.


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27 Jan 2012, 6:12 pm

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hyperlexian wrote:
MCalavera wrote:
But, yeah, flaking sucks and has probably happened in every person's dating life. You just have to get used to it (and not show at all that it affects you) when they do flake. Almost every person has to face this one.

corrected for accuracy (bolded). being flaky is not unique to women.

Boo, it's obviously entirely your decision. but at your age most women have children, so you'd be severely limiting your dating prospects by not dating single mothers. of course you can't be faulted for having that preference, just be aware of the effect it would have on your dating pool.


Commitment with a woman with children (especially if they're already in school) = staying in Lebanon for the rest of my life (or ending the commitment at some point in a dramatic way).

yeah that is totally reasonable. unless you date single mothers from other countries.


Yea, unless if you want me to be jerk and give false promises, which is something I wouldn't do.



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27 Jan 2012, 6:25 pm

This lady is playing the Mouse&Cat with me, and more accurately the pull-push.

I admit, the whole thing is starting to be amusing (seriously).

So what they call that? the 'game'? hmmm.



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27 Jan 2012, 6:41 pm

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It's just so dehumanizing, to see women thrown away as prospects solely because they have children already. I'm so glad it's not like that here. :wink:


I don't think it's dehumanizing to not want to raise and support some other guy's children.



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27 Jan 2012, 6:42 pm

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mv wrote:


It's just so dehumanizing, to see women thrown away as prospects solely because they have children already. I'm so glad it's not like that here. :wink:


I don't think it's dehumanizing to not want to raise and support some other guy's children.


I have to point out that I have no problem in raising some other guy's children - if I am financially/psychologically ready for this, which I am not.



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27 Jan 2012, 6:44 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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It's just so dehumanizing, to see women thrown away as prospects solely because they have children already. I'm so glad it's not like that here. :wink:


I don't think it's dehumanizing to not want to raise and support some other guy's children.


I have to point out that I have no problem in raising some other guy's children - if I am financially/psychologically ready for this, which I am not.


Well then, you're a better man than I am, Gunga Din.



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27 Jan 2012, 6:45 pm

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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
mv wrote:


It's just so dehumanizing, to see women thrown away as prospects solely because they have children already. I'm so glad it's not like that here. :wink:


I don't think it's dehumanizing to not want to raise and support some other guy's children.


I have to point out that I have no problem in raising some other guy's children - if I am financially/psychologically ready for this, which I am not.


Well then, you're a better man than I am, Gunga Din.


Yes, sure I am, you're just a rabbit.



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27 Jan 2012, 6:47 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
mv wrote:


It's just so dehumanizing, to see women thrown away as prospects solely because they have children already. I'm so glad it's not like that here. :wink:


I don't think it's dehumanizing to not want to raise and support some other guy's children.


I have to point out that I have no problem in raising some other guy's children - if I am financially/psychologically ready for this, which I am not.


Well then, you're a better man than I am, Gunga Din.


Yes, sure I am, you're just a rabbit.


Actually I'm a gestalt collective of rabbits attempting to pass as a human being..