Was married 10 years, had dated him, 1 1/2 years before, so was with ex for 12 years. He is NT, but with chronic pain. As it turned out, we both had incompatible "disabilities" and my social skills improved over time, while his pain worsened.
Currently in a long-distance relationship. Have been seeing him for 4 years. He functions well and is attractive, but took an Aspie test and came out borderline.
Prior to my marriage, had a few relationships. One lasted 2 years, on and off, and another lasted 1 year. All others were short.
All were normal hetero relationships.