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12 Feb 2012, 2:03 pm

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So by this thread we can conclude that hyperlexian has big boobs while mv doesn't?


Well, what's "big"? I have fairly large breasts (DD, American). I think your science is faulty, Boo... :wink:



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12 Feb 2012, 2:04 pm

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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
So by this thread we can conclude that hyperlexian has big boobs while mv doesn't?


Well, what's "big"? I have fairly large breasts (DD, American). I think your science is faulty, Boo... :wink:


Pics or it's not true.



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12 Feb 2012, 2:06 pm

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well, if they don't know how it works they'd need a demonstration right?

on topic... Frieslander, i think the issue here is that you have some anger and resentment towards this individual for how he treated you in high school, and you still find his actions offensive. your best bet is to defriend him as applicable and leave him to his strangeness.


I thought he had grown up once when I allowed him to be FB friends with me. Trust me, there were a lot more hurtful things done to me in junior high and high school that. I don't think I was that hurt by the teasing about the condom... I just thought it was dumb tease me in the first place.

I don't think that's the main issue in this thread, hyperlexian. I just wondered what women thought. I wouldn't like it if I were a female. Seems to me you're overanalyzing me a bit.

Frieslander, i wondered why you cared so much what women would think of this guy, and now it makes sense. it's often more interesting to look at why people ask certain questions than the content of the questions themselves.

i get what you mean, mv. i get the impression that the man in question may have special needs of some kind, or may be extremely socially awkward. an awful lot of men post pictures oin FB of women they find hot, and some also randomly compliment women in non-socially-acceptable ways.

it actually reminds me of someone in my aspie group that literally asked me out in the first sentence he spoke to me. this man is generally put down for being "creepy", but i understood that he simply doesn't know a better way to express attraction. of course i didn't go out with him (i don't even know him), but i just thanked him and politely explained why i would not go out with him (just like i would do on FB).


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12 Feb 2012, 2:11 pm

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mv wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
So by this thread we can conclude that hyperlexian has big boobs while mv doesn't?


Well, what's "big"? I have fairly large breasts (DD, American). I think your science is faulty, Boo... :wink:


Pics or it's not true.


I'll friend you on FB and then you can look your fill. :wink:



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12 Feb 2012, 2:12 pm

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well, if they don't know how it works they'd need a demonstration right?

on topic... Frieslander, i think the issue here is that you have some anger and resentment towards this individual for how he treated you in high school, and you still find his actions offensive. your best bet is to defriend him as applicable and leave him to his strangeness.


I thought he had grown up once when I allowed him to be FB friends with me. Trust me, there were a lot more hurtful things done to me in junior high and high school that. I don't think I was that hurt by the teasing about the condom... I just thought it was dumb tease me in the first place.

I don't think that's the main issue in this thread, hyperlexian. I just wondered what women thought. I wouldn't like it if I were a female. Seems to me you're overanalyzing me a bit.

Frieslander, i wondered why you cared so much what women would think of this guy, and now it makes sense. it's often more interesting to look at why people ask certain questions than the content of the questions themselves.

i get what you mean, mv. i get the impression that the man in question may have special needs of some kind, or may be extremely socially awkward. an awful lot of men post pictures oin FB of women they find hot, and some also randomly compliment women in non-socially-acceptable ways.

it actually reminds me of someone in my aspie group that literally asked me out in the first sentence he spoke to me. this man is generally put down for being "creepy", but i understood that he simply doesn't know a better way to express attraction. of course i didn't go out with him (i don't even know him), but i just thanked him and politely explained why i would not go out with him (just like i would do on FB).


Totally get it, I just think you've done more work and are more kind-hearted/objective as a result. That's a compliment! That doesn't involve your looks!



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12 Feb 2012, 2:19 pm

mv wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
mv wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
So by this thread we can conclude that hyperlexian has big boobs while mv doesn't?


Well, what's "big"? I have fairly large breasts (DD, American). I think your science is faulty, Boo... :wink:


Pics or it's not true.


I'll friend you on FB and then you can look your fill. :wink:

obama said share the wealth



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12 Feb 2012, 2:22 pm

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Totally get it, I just think you've done more work and are more kind-hearted/objective as a result. That's a compliment! That doesn't involve your looks!

i don't like how you've objectified me with that compliment, mv. :wink: jk jk thanks for that.


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12 Feb 2012, 2:35 pm

mv wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
mv wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
So by this thread we can conclude that hyperlexian has big boobs while mv doesn't?


Well, what's "big"? I have fairly large breasts (DD, American). I think your science is faulty, Boo... :wink:


Pics or it's not true.


I'll friend you on FB and then you can look your fill. :wink:


But FB is too censored for my liking.



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12 Feb 2012, 2:50 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
mv wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
mv wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
So by this thread we can conclude that hyperlexian has big boobs while mv doesn't?


Well, what's "big"? I have fairly large breasts (DD, American). I think your science is faulty, Boo... :wink:


Pics or it's not true.


I'll friend you on FB and then you can look your fill. :wink:


But FB is too censored for my liking.


Wouldn't matter. *Never* has a naked picture been taken of me. :lol:



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12 Feb 2012, 3:15 pm

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I guess I see it this way: a compliment from someone without much discrimination in his taste is no compliment at all. Instead, it feels like he's singling out people just to single them out and make them feel objectified and uncomfortable, since he can't be bothered to be picky or tasteful.


This pretty much sums up my opinion.

Gross flattery is not a compliment. Not even close. It's not really even flattery, as he's just talking about "shag of the day" like, hey, there's an object I would happily stick my dick into (and since he does it with so many people, it's just like looking at women as mass pieces of meat) not "so and so is attractive".

If it was one specific person it might not be as pathetic, but he's still singling them out as just something to shag, and it's not like he's telling you, he's broadcasting it on facebook for the world to see. I don't see how that's flattering.



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12 Feb 2012, 3:18 pm

mv wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
mv wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
mv wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
So by this thread we can conclude that hyperlexian has big boobs while mv doesn't?


Well, what's "big"? I have fairly large breasts (DD, American). I think your science is faulty, Boo... :wink:


Pics or it's not true.


I'll friend you on FB and then you can look your fill. :wink:


But FB is too censored for my liking.


Wouldn't matter. *Never* has a naked picture been taken of me. :lol:


It's not too late yet.



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12 Feb 2012, 4:09 pm

I find it rather interesting how many of the women here, and even some of the men, seem to identify with what is socially acceptable, and would be weirded out by someone who expresses attraction in ways that the majority would find creepy.

I for one, would be very relieved if a woman came up to me and said "You have a nice looking butt. Can I squish it? I wonder what your penis looks like." It lets me know that she will be easy to tak to, because she is "breaking the ice" by breaking social norms first, making anything I say after that OK, and even more importantly, showing a childlike, innocent openness. Social norms, and the rejection or even prosecution by moralist forces in society for being different, are a far bigger threat than someone who is interested in my body, even if I don't really like the person.



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12 Feb 2012, 4:22 pm

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I find it rather interesting how many of the women here, and even some of the men, seem to identify with what is socially acceptable, and would be weirded out by someone who expresses attraction in ways that the majority would find creepy.

I for one, would be very relieved if a woman came up to me and said "You have a nice looking butt. Can I squish it? I wonder what your penis looks like." It lets me know that she will be easy to tak to, because she is "breaking the ice" by breaking social norms first, making anything I say after that OK, and even more importantly, showing a childlike, innocent openness. Social norms, and the rejection or even prosecution by moralist forces in society for being different, are a far bigger threat than someone who is interested in my body, even if I don't really like the person.


I do that to people in real life.

It's not the same as a weird stranger you don't even talk to objectifying you on face book.

I don't find it childlike or cute when some guy I don't know or who I'm not attracted to talks about me being "f*ckable" on facebook. I find it simply annoying and it shows a lack of respect.

Then again, I'm not attracted to childlike and cute anyway.



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12 Feb 2012, 4:35 pm

biostructure wrote:
I find it rather interesting how many of the women here, and even some of the men, seem to identify with what is socially acceptable, and would be weirded out by someone who expresses attraction in ways that the majority would find creepy.

I for one, would be very relieved if a woman came up to me and said "You have a nice looking butt. Can I squish it? I wonder what your penis looks like." It lets me know that she will be easy to tak to, because she is "breaking the ice" by breaking social norms first, making anything I say after that OK, and even more importantly, showing a childlike, innocent openness. Social norms, and the rejection or even prosecution by moralist forces in society for being different, are a far bigger threat than someone who is interested in my body, even if I don't really like the person.

i told my friend that her breasts looked awesome in her new shirt, does that count? i realised my social faux pas when she looked at me funny, so i apologised and asked if my comment was offensive. she said, "from anyone else, yes. but not from you." and she laughed and hugged me.

(yes, women CAN be creepy. perhaps that is why i have some understanding of the guy on FB?)


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13 Feb 2012, 4:13 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
biostructure wrote:
I find it rather interesting how many of the women here, and even some of the men, seem to identify with what is socially acceptable, and would be weirded out by someone who expresses attraction in ways that the majority would find creepy.

I for one, would be very relieved if a woman came up to me and said "You have a nice looking butt. Can I squish it? I wonder what your penis looks like." It lets me know that she will be easy to tak to, because she is "breaking the ice" by breaking social norms first, making anything I say after that OK, and even more importantly, showing a childlike, innocent openness. Social norms, and the rejection or even prosecution by moralist forces in society for being different, are a far bigger threat than someone who is interested in my body, even if I don't really like the person.


I do that to people in real life.

It's not the same as a weird stranger you don't even talk to objectifying you on face book.

I don't find it childlike or cute when some guy I don't know or who I'm not attracted to talks about me being "f*ckable" on facebook. I find it simply annoying and it shows a lack of respect.

Then again, I'm not attracted to childlike and cute anyway.


I see--I thought he was doing that with his friends. And I am attracted to childlike and cute (both in partners, and being that way myself).