Good places for Asperger's men to meet women

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That's how I feel too. I feel that if I have to go to a place I'm uninterested in or do something I'm uninterested in, I'm just going to be really irritated when/if I do meet anyone and probably won't be very good company. Unfortunately, when I go places I'm interested in and do stuff I'm interested in, only guys show up.

Church or church invents are how I meet most women or by playing sports I like to play soccer and some of the girls I know like to play soccer too.

Why assuming that?

Church is a good place if you like religion, if you aren't inclined to agree with every one of their beliefs, they are more likely to show you the door depending on the church. Soccer is great, I love playing soccer, however it's more of a male sport here but more and more girls are getting into it. If you're into sports and fitness, it's best to get a girlfriend that supports that lifestyle, even if she doesn't participate in it.




I agree, don't go with the intention of getting laid but go with the intention of developing a social circle that might lead to a relationship or developing social skills which will help in most aspects of your lifestyle. It will lead to a more active lifestyle and build comfort in social situations as well.



Because i've got the chick magnet looks, women swoon instantly, just kidding I wish.



Thanks, that's not the first time I've heard some call me Keanu Reeves or Neo, not sure about the hotter part though, he's a great actor and he seems like a great guy .

Because although being good-looking doesn't guarantee success with dating, it does usually give people an advantage.

You're 'kidding' but you know you probably know it's true.




It's the most important advantage, in fact. For men and women.

This is true. Looks make it easier. But too many people take it to mean that, without those looks, their situation is hopeless. Not the case. I've seen some seriously fugly dudes (and before anyone says, no they're not rich) end up with some great women.

Edit: and I've seen some truly beautiful people who, though they may have an easy time meeting people, cannot keep anyone interested for longer than a month or two.

Good looks are an advantage, but they are not a guarantee of success. Nor is the lack of looks a guarantee of failure.

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^^I know this is totally off-topic, but I love that Mumford and Sons song in your signature, mds_02. You have good taste!

Thank you.

"saw" them live last year. With Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros. Didn't actually see, but heard them. A show, at an outdoor venue, just a few blocks from where I was living, found a good spot very close by without having to pay.

They were awesome.

Daryl is right about the strip club part, at least in the context he describes. I went on two dates with strippers because the novelty of being respectful took them by surprise. Having said that, don't get your hopes up (not that you need to be told that, but still) Communication is all about instinct and reflex, and since strippers have to listen, they always find me interesting. Of course, I haven't been to one for a few years. But if you want to practice getting a girl's number, practice on strippers. I would ask all kinds of questions about strip clubs and bad customers, not to make talk with her, but because I actually wanted to know. They detect lies for a living, so they knew I was honest and real.

Oh, oh, I HATE you. I'm so jealous.

That's you? I wasn't sure if that was you or if that was the actor that plays Carter in ER.

We can't decide who you look like can we? But you are a very nice looking boy.

My best chance to meet women as of late is when I go to the gym.

That's probably a good place, but not everyone likes going to the gym...
And there are some people who go deliberately just for that, too.

Who goes to the gym and not work out? (Ges cold chills and shakes) WOW that is kinda creepy I dont think I will go to the gyn monday just stay home and work out in the backyard.

Or go to a bar and drink until I for get you told me that.

Guys hold your horses.

I go to gym all the time. It is certainly great place to meet women. I go to do body pump fitness class once a week, the class is always full of good looking girls! BUT remember that, checking out girls at the gym is VERY offensive. As most guys go to the gym is usually body workout to show off guns to women. So don't try anything like that. Just go like hi but keep busy, if she responds to you and want to talk, then respond to her.

Social rule for aspie guys in the gym: Never approach a girl at gym sessions and/or fitness classes. Let them approach you, if not, don't worry about it.

I tell you what, from my experience for meeting girls:

1. University library: Yes there are full of them! However, if they look busy. Don't interrupt.
2. Social sporting programs (mixed company): They are fun, team effort and workout is biggest role in meeting them. Sporty girls tend to be very open.
3. Travelling programs: Like overseas working holidays and vice versa etc; this is BIGGEST opportunity, if you take summer program or a full year program. They are likely to be with you most of the time. You will likely to meet someone from overseas, someone will be much better than in your country itself depending on the population basis. I highly recommended for most aspie guys (and girls of course) to do travelling programs!

Those three play major role in my life at the moment. But heres a list of places that NEVER CONSIDER to meet women are:
1. Nightclubs
2. Gym
3. Community awareness programs (they indeed can be picky)