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25 Mar 2012, 6:15 am

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25 Mar 2012, 7:28 am

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That's disturbingly cynical. Do you really believe the feelings associated with love only evolved recently? Or that couples in "love" historically didn't have sex?

Sex without love is not new... but that doesn't prove that their is not an association.

EDIT: Also, just because I want to share some David Mitchell humour: the Phrase 'Rape and Pillage' | David Mitchell's SoapBox
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uJqEKYbh-LU[/youtube]


The OP didn't assert an association,
he asserted MUTUAL INCLUSIVENESS.


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25 Mar 2012, 7:34 am

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25 Mar 2012, 8:00 am

nat4200 wrote:
ValentineWiggin wrote:
nat4200 wrote:
That's disturbingly cynical. Do you really believe the feelings associated with love only evolved recently? Or that couples in "love" historically didn't have sex?

Sex without love is not new... but that doesn't prove that their is not an association.

EDIT: Also, just because I want to share some David Mitchell humour: the Phrase 'Rape and Pillage' | David Mitchell's SoapBox
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uJqEKYbh-LU


The OP didn't assert an association,
he asserted MUTUAL INCLUSIVENESS.

Oh, I figured by page 4 the OP's assertion had been well and truly dispelled and we'd be going off on tangents based on the more interesting of the replies; as such I was replying strictly to your statement: "It's actually only recently that emotions, or at least a concept of "love" (whatever that is) has come to be associated with the act."

Like the new avatar BTW :)


I don't believe the chemicals associated with pair bonding are a recent evolution, no,
nor that (some) historical couples in love didn't have sex.

Thanks. :)


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25 Mar 2012, 8:22 am

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To me sex I found it as a physical fun! Exercising and the feeling in your genitalia!

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25 Mar 2012, 8:28 am

I so very much wish I could do FWB, emotionally, but I cannot. I would never criticize someone else's choices, as long as all parties are on the same page and consenting. I have seen all kinds of FWB relationships, some people are totally fine with it, others are deluded as to what's going on. Everyone has responsibility for themselves, ultimately.

Yes, I think my life would be a lot easier if I could do FWB.



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25 Mar 2012, 2:27 pm

I had a friends with benifits when I was in high school but she wanted to date me but I didnt want that then I tried it with a guy and well it didnt work either id like a friends with beniftis if its a hedonistic relationship then it could work and their be no emotions towards each other just sex and nothing else.



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25 Mar 2012, 3:54 pm

Its fun and feels good and all, but no where near as good as being with someone and being serious plus in a real relationship, you have the emotional fulfillment and comfort as opposed to friends with benefits. It is like compairing a diet coke float with non fat imitation ice cream to a vanilla coke float with gourmet icecream. Friends with benefits is the diet coke float lol. :D


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25 Mar 2012, 4:24 pm

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Its fun and feels good and all, but no where near as good as being with someone and being serious plus in a real relationship, you have the emotional fulfillment and comfort as opposed to friends with benefits. It is like compairing a diet coke float with non fat imitation ice cream to a vanilla coke float with gourmet icecream. Friends with benefits is the diet coke float lol. :D


You are comparing the wrong things. It isn't FWB vs a relationship. It's FWB vs being alone and masterbating. Which is better in the latter comparison?



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25 Mar 2012, 4:38 pm

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Its fun and feels good and all, but no where near as good as being with someone and being serious plus in a real relationship, you have the emotional fulfillment and comfort as opposed to friends with benefits. It is like compairing a diet coke float with non fat imitation ice cream to a vanilla coke float with gourmet icecream. Friends with benefits is the diet coke float lol. :D


Thats true and all but some of my past relationships with girls in high school was a hedonistic one hell we didnt even like each other would never talk to each other in school but we would have sex with each other and do nothing else after we got done it was a fun experiment while it lasted :wink:



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25 Mar 2012, 4:39 pm

AspieOtaku wrote:
Its fun and feels good and all, but no where near as good as being with someone and being serious plus in a real relationship, you have the emotional fulfillment and comfort as opposed to friends with benefits. It is like compairing a diet coke float with non fat imitation ice cream to a vanilla coke float with gourmet icecream. Friends with benefits is the diet coke float lol. :D

I'll take the diet coke and imitation ice cream- a delicious treat without (as much) huge diet fallout. I think maybe that's a perfect analogy, if one wants a FWB because they don't desire the trappings of a relationship. :)
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You are comparing the wrong things. It isn't FWB vs a relationship. It's FWB vs being alone and masterbating. Which is better in the latter comparison?

Hm. Isn't it all three of those things, "vs" one another, really?
Depending on what someone wants?


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25 Mar 2012, 5:12 pm

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AspieOtaku wrote:
Its fun and feels good and all, but no where near as good as being with someone and being serious plus in a real relationship, you have the emotional fulfillment and comfort as opposed to friends with benefits. It is like compairing a diet coke float with non fat imitation ice cream to a vanilla coke float with gourmet icecream. Friends with benefits is the diet coke float lol. :D


You are comparing the wrong things. It isn't FWB vs a relationship. It's FWB vs being alone and masterbating. Which is better in the latter comparison?


You're right, as I said, for non-asexual people, it's better than nothing.

But...


I think those who can have FWBs...don't usually have trouble in getting gfs/bfs.



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AspieOtaku wrote:
Its fun and feels good and all, but no where near as good as being with someone and being serious plus in a real relationship, you have the emotional fulfillment and comfort as opposed to friends with benefits. It is like compairing a diet coke float with non fat imitation ice cream to a vanilla coke float with gourmet icecream. Friends with benefits is the diet coke float lol. :D


You are comparing the wrong things. It isn't FWB vs a relationship. It's FWB vs being alone and masterbating. Which is better in the latter comparison?


You're right, as I said, for non-asexual people, it's better than nothing.

But...


I think those who can have FWBs...don't usually have trouble in getting gfs/bfs.


Thats not always the case I have had a FWB but I am so picky about who I date that I some times choose to stay single for a long period of time.



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25 Mar 2012, 6:29 pm

I hope I get a chance one day. This uni makes me boring. People drink drink drink and do s**t. Nothing make sense. Its terrible. Maybe its Australian culture.



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26 Mar 2012, 6:58 pm

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I hope I get a chance one day. This uni makes me boring. People drink drink drink and do sh**. Nothing make sense. Its terrible. Maybe its Australian culture.


To get a fwb's in an Aussie uni culture.

Go on pub crawl. Get drunk. Flirt and drink with drunk girl. Suggest sex. Get sex. Take her out for drinks next week. When she is half drunk and all flirty say that you are scared of relationships due to (insert random reason here, a good one is that your heart has been broken by another girl) drink more together. Have sex. Next week ask her over to your place for drinks. After a few, ask if you are fwb's. Have sex if she says yes. You now have a fwb's.

Also don't go for the hot hot chicks. They have it covered. Go for the less then average to increase your chances of success.

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27 Mar 2012, 4:38 am

ahaha