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10 Apr 2012, 4:42 am

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perhaps give Mr Boo a call


I would reject her.


Ouch ;)


I might only reconsider after few attempts combined with some flirting (maybe some eroticism), determination is sexy, but my approval isn't guaranteed.


You set the bar high. I admire your standards.


The one million dollar question tho: are you "tall" enough to reach my high bar? Maybe yes but most probably no.



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10 Apr 2012, 10:02 am

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so any guy actually been scared off by a girl being to forward? anyone know any guy who has?


For some people, the challenge or pursuit is more interesting than the goal itself, some people need someone that keeps them on their toes.

Some people are like cats, they chase a ball of string until the ball is in their hands. The string is only intriguing from a distance, from the perspective that they are chasing it from. They build expectations and have an insatiable hunger for something they can't have at that present moment instead of being content, only to find out that it isn't really as fulfilling when they truly hold it.


I understand the "why" someone might be scared/turned off by it, I just question if its realy that common of a thing we guys are supposedly turned off by.

so do you know guys who are? and/or are you turned off by being pursed?

cause honestly their are alot of things that can turn me off from a girl but being pursed ain't one of them


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10 Apr 2012, 3:14 pm

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so any guy actually been scared off by a girl being to forward? anyone know any guy who has?


For some people, the challenge or pursuit is more interesting than the goal itself, some people need someone that keeps them on their toes.

Some people are like cats, they chase a ball of string until the ball is in their hands. The string is only intriguing from a distance, from the perspective that they are chasing it from. They build expectations and have an insatiable hunger for something they can't have at that present moment instead of being content, only to find out that it isn't really as fulfilling when they truly hold it.


In this thread, I am the alpha ball of string.



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10 Apr 2012, 5:27 pm

Zinnel wrote:
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so any guy actually been scared off by a girl being to forward? anyone know any guy who has?


For some people, the challenge or pursuit is more interesting than the goal itself, some people need someone that keeps them on their toes.

Some people are like cats, they chase a ball of string until the ball is in their hands. The string is only intriguing from a distance, from the perspective that they are chasing it from. They build expectations and have an insatiable hunger for something they can't have at that present moment instead of being content, only to find out that it isn't really as fulfilling when they truly hold it.


I understand the "why" someone might be scared/turned off by it, I just question if its realy that common of a thing we guys are supposedly turned off by.

so do you know guys who are? and/or are you turned off by being pursed?

cause honestly their are alot of things that can turn me off from a girl but being pursed ain't one of them


I have a male friend who told me that guys are scared off by girls being too forward. I don't really know how else to show my interest though, clearly I do it subconsciously around the wrong people.


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10 Apr 2012, 6:05 pm

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perhaps give Mr Boo a call


I would reject her.


We all know it's for the best :wink:


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10 Apr 2012, 7:10 pm

sunshower wrote:
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so any guy actually been scared off by a girl being to forward? anyone know any guy who has?


For some people, the challenge or pursuit is more interesting than the goal itself, some people need someone that keeps them on their toes.

Some people are like cats, they chase a ball of string until the ball is in their hands. The string is only intriguing from a distance, from the perspective that they are chasing it from. They build expectations and have an insatiable hunger for something they can't have at that present moment instead of being content, only to find out that it isn't really as fulfilling when they truly hold it.


I understand the "why" someone might be scared/turned off by it, I just question if its realy that common of a thing we guys are supposedly turned off by.

so do you know guys who are? and/or are you turned off by being pursed?

cause honestly their are alot of things that can turn me off from a girl but being pursed ain't one of them


I have a male friend who told me that guys are scared off by girls being too forward. I don't really know how else to show my interest though, clearly I do it subconsciously around the wrong people.


Well I know that alot of girls play the role of being submissive around guys they like. But I know plenty of women who are forward with guys and have never scared them off. Shoot the Last girl I dated was nothing but forward with me. So I think its more of an individual case than a general rule that guys are turned off by being to forward.

Maybe its just the way your being forward with them...


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10 Apr 2012, 7:55 pm

Upon reflection I can understand Hperlexian edited my "insult"

To be honest with you I thought she would edit my suggestion of a sexing buddy it's nice to know where on the same page their. Wheres the problem as long as you don't spread diseases or put out unwanted babies, And please don't invoke God because I'm not intrested , if you do I will invoke my religion and you will be sanctimoniously lectured of your evil ways.*

* I even had a "friend" today tell me if he had to slaughter an animal/was in the presence of it he couldn't /wouldn't eat it, far better to outsource your guilt to some one else I suppose ? though I doubt it judging by the character of the people that work in the industry . Many notorious killers have worked as slaughter "men"

Does the industry attract unstable people or do the psychological problems occur later on ? A little from column A and a little froim column B I can only imagine.

Sorry for being off topic.


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10 Apr 2012, 8:35 pm

There's nothing wrong with you. You just know that no relationship is better than a mediocre one, and in my opinion, that's the only way to be.

I will reject people until the day I die unless I'm totally mad on them, I might die single, but at least I'll die happier than if I had been with a guy I wasn't really into.



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10 Apr 2012, 8:41 pm

^^^
well how do you know if you have not tried it.

Just saying.


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10 Apr 2012, 8:55 pm

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There's nothing wrong with you. You just know that no relationship is better than a mediocre one, and in my opinion, that's the only way to be.

I will reject people until the day I die unless I'm totally mad on them, I might die single, but at least I'll die happier than if I had been with a guy I wasn't really into.


That makes me feel better, put cleanly and simply like that. I think I am more emotionally unstable right now than usual which makes me more discontent. But we are who we are, and to force feelings I believe is wrong. It's hard sometimes to make peace with this. I don't know.


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10 Apr 2012, 9:09 pm

Rejcet the people that you see having no relationship with.



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11 Apr 2012, 1:07 am

Zinnel wrote:
sunshower wrote:
Zinnel wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
Zinnel wrote:
so any guy actually been scared off by a girl being to forward? anyone know any guy who has?


For some people, the challenge or pursuit is more interesting than the goal itself, some people need someone that keeps them on their toes.

Some people are like cats, they chase a ball of string until the ball is in their hands. The string is only intriguing from a distance, from the perspective that they are chasing it from. They build expectations and have an insatiable hunger for something they can't have at that present moment instead of being content, only to find out that it isn't really as fulfilling when they truly hold it.


I understand the "why" someone might be scared/turned off by it, I just question if its realy that common of a thing we guys are supposedly turned off by.

so do you know guys who are? and/or are you turned off by being pursed?

cause honestly their are alot of things that can turn me off from a girl but being pursed ain't one of them


I have a male friend who told me that guys are scared off by girls being too forward. I don't really know how else to show my interest though, clearly I do it subconsciously around the wrong people.


Well I know that alot of girls play the role of being submissive around guys they like. But I know plenty of women who are forward with guys and have never scared them off. Shoot the Last girl I dated was nothing but forward with me. So I think its more of an individual case than a general rule that guys are turned off by being to forward.

Maybe its just the way your being forward with them...


I don't know about that, I have ignored girls that have persistently sent me text messages after going on dates and I have ignored girls in public. I dislike it when someone becomes needy or clingy, I tend to withdraw and become detached.

I guess it's easy to be overwhelmed when people are too pushy or clingy, I have a difficult time with it and I can't figure it out myself.



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11 Apr 2012, 1:29 am

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There's nothing wrong with you. You just know that no relationship is better than a mediocre one, and in my opinion, that's the only way to be.

I will reject people until the day I die unless I'm totally mad on them, I might die single, but at least I'll die happier than if I had been with a guy I wasn't really into.


I personally don't like that kind of ideology. Don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong with being single

It just I prefer to get to know people and let attraction build instead of asuming it all to be there from the start. And if I meet someone who is interested in me, I don't turn them away if I'm not 100% interested in them back. No, I get to know them and get to learn who they are and where they're going. You'd be surprized how by opening yourself up to people who are interested in you, you can find things you weren't expecting or didn't see before.


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11 Apr 2012, 1:37 am

Wolfheart wrote:
Zinnel wrote:
sunshower wrote:
Zinnel wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
Zinnel wrote:
so any guy actually been scared off by a girl being to forward? anyone know any guy who has?


For some people, the challenge or pursuit is more interesting than the goal itself, some people need someone that keeps them on their toes.

Some people are like cats, they chase a ball of string until the ball is in their hands. The string is only intriguing from a distance, from the perspective that they are chasing it from. They build expectations and have an insatiable hunger for something they can't have at that present moment instead of being content, only to find out that it isn't really as fulfilling when they truly hold it.


I understand the "why" someone might be scared/turned off by it, I just question if its realy that common of a thing we guys are supposedly turned off by.

so do you know guys who are? and/or are you turned off by being pursed?

cause honestly their are alot of things that can turn me off from a girl but being pursed ain't one of them


I have a male friend who told me that guys are scared off by girls being too forward. I don't really know how else to show my interest though, clearly I do it subconsciously around the wrong people.


Well I know that alot of girls play the role of being submissive around guys they like. But I know plenty of women who are forward with guys and have never scared them off. Shoot the Last girl I dated was nothing but forward with me. So I think its more of an individual case than a general rule that guys are turned off by being to forward.

Maybe its just the way your being forward with them...


I don't know about that, I have ignored girls that have persistently sent me text messages after going on dates and I have ignored girls in public. I dislike it when someone becomes needy or clingy, I tend to withdraw and become detached.

I guess it's easy to be overwhelmed when people are too pushy or clingy, I have a difficult time with it and I can't figure it out myself.


So maybe thats it maybe sunshower is coming acrossed clingy. Cause it is a pretty fine line of what is clingy and what is just being forward.


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11 Apr 2012, 1:53 am

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well how do you know if you have not tried it.

Just saying.


I tried dating a guy once hoping love and attraction would grow. I will never do it again.



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11 Apr 2012, 1:54 am

sunshower wrote:
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There's nothing wrong with you. You just know that no relationship is better than a mediocre one, and in my opinion, that's the only way to be.

I will reject people until the day I die unless I'm totally mad on them, I might die single, but at least I'll die happier than if I had been with a guy I wasn't really into.


That makes me feel better, put cleanly and simply like that. I think I am more emotionally unstable right now than usual which makes me more discontent. But we are who we are, and to force feelings I believe is wrong. It's hard sometimes to make peace with this. I don't know.


I think with you, you are in a place when feeling like that seems wrong because it's not normal, as most people tend to date for the sake of it. I was fortunate enough to grow up with a mother who absolutely drummed it into myself and my sister to be picky and don't date drips simple because you can.

If I didn't have that I would feel a lot less supported.