How to talk to Asian girls?

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You might want to consider how you dress. That is, if you wear Abercrombie & Fitch and/or wear preppy, WASPy clothes that totally might attract the attention of a lot of asian american girls. But the bottom line is this: If you decide to approach an asian girl and manage to chat it up with her, treat her as you would treat a girl of the same race as you and not as if she's some kind of exotic foreigner. But yeah, definitely move to a large coastal city where there are lots of asians.

I do wear preppy clothes. :/

Also, with Asian girls, many do seem to have boyfriends, as I said in my brief story of attempting to talk to one, so then there's the Chris-chanlike issue of "boyfriend free girls." I think some of it is socioeconomic, though, with the preppy clothes thing. Like, the "poorer" Asian girls, ie, the Hmong, are friendly to me, and the ones that were actually foreigners were friendly to me, but then alot of the second or third gen aren't. I was thinking this was cultural, but now I see that a white girl whose father drives a new BMW 750il would be just as unfriendly to me. Especially being foreigners, they usually come to the United States with the goal of making more money, so socioeconomic factors, now that I look at it, have more of a role than race or culture does in these problems. Thanks for your comment on preppy clothes, it has made me come to this realization.

I was thinking just move to Japan. Then I could drive a Nissan Skyline and a Honda CBR250RR.

Move to China instead. White men are viewed by chinese women as being very exotic and are highly sought after. Too many asian men there.

But then no Nissan Skyline.

I would disagree. China's One Child Policy has left a serious dearth of females. Plus, based on my experiences in Taiwan, Chinese typically don't like to form romantic liaisons with non-Chinese.

Give some thought to Thailand, Cambodia, Vietnam and the Philippines.

Chinese women do exist! There may be a dearth of them but they are often found in cities and many of them prefer to date western men. Chinese men on the other hand also like white women; and many are moving to Russia in order to find a wife.

As for southeast asian women, particularly the indochinese, many of them dislike white Americans. And especially white men from America looking to take them as brides. Women from poorer asian countries will only consider you if you have a lot of money as they are looking to marry rich men and get US citizenship(AKA Golddiggers). Funny enough, filipinas seem to like Black men a lot more than white men.

I figure it'd be best if I move to Japan and marry an "old" (28 ) and "fat" (25BMI) Japanese girl.

Well, give it a try. But: don't miss out on Thailand.

Here is a little write-up on Taiwan.

http://www.happierabroad.com/forum/view ... hp?t=14561

It was written by a Taiwanese, and I find it to be very accurate. I thought that Mainland Chinese culture would be about the same: I may very well be wrong.

There is a new movie, Seeking Asian Female, which seems like it might be a hoot.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3kbGrQe17cU[/youtube]

Another place that I would recommend considering: the Northeast part of Thailand

http://asiansweetheart.blogspot.com/200 ... -thai.html

http://www.bangkokdiaries.com/2008/03/2 ... tion-good/

In my younger days, I spent some time there, and thoroughly enjoyed myself. The food is great. Expenses are very low: you can live for a long time on very little money. It is a very easy-going, fun place. And, the women are absolutely delightful. I felt like I was one of the most handsome and sexiest men on the planet. Quite a let down when I eventually returned to the USA.

I remember coming across something of a colony of American Vietnam War veterans in Ubon Ratchathani. They had their own Veterans of Foreign Wars (VFW) club. They had married Thai women, and found that their military pensions went a lot further in Thailand than would be possible in the USA. During the war, Thailand's Northeast housed serveral American military bases, from which B-52 bombers would be sent to rain death and destruction down upon their neighbors in Indochina. During the war, Thailand was also famous for raunchy entertainment for American soldiers on their "Rest and Recreation" (R&R) visits.

Now, it appears that a fair number of retired Europeans are choosing to settle down there. There are quite a lot of younger women who would be more than happy to marry them.

I'm an east-asian female married to a white male so maybe I could weigh in?

I used to be one of those asian girls that only hung out with asians back in high school, and as you say it created a very weird effect on my mentality hanging out exclusively within my ethnic group like that. I think I agree with you that it pretty much bordered on xenophobia, except it's not that I distrusted people for being white but it's more like I presumed a white guy would probably judge me because I do things differently than he would, yet at the same time I'm painfully aware that I am a minority in 'their' country and this made me even more defensive.
If a white guy were to approach me back then it would've only worked if he was friends with my friends first, or at least he would need to have a lot of asian friends for me to feel comfortable that he understands the quirks of asian culture. You could try making friends with the asian males that the girls are friends with first and become seen as 'one of them' before you try to approach any of the girls. If this isn't a possibility, you will need to try to catch her alone somehow because this would be when she feels less tied in to the ethnic group and more like herself. Some common activity (that is not asian in nature) I think would help, like if you happen to smoke together or you happen to walk your dogs together, something like that. I wish it didn't have to be this hard for you but this is the only thing I can think of.

There are people saying 'learn their language' and this can be kind of cute but has to be done tastefully and respectfully, and it's definitely not a deal maker. Nothing is more annoying to me than guys that yell out 'NI HAO~~' at me (I'm not chinese).
Please don't hit on girls while in an asian supermarket, this has happened to me before and it's not attractive. I think this just makes it too obvious you're in there just to hit on asian girls and that seems desperate and borderline creepy.

I happen to be distrustful of guys that only go for asian girls because I wouldn't want a guy to like me only for my 'asian' trait as I believe I am more than just my ethnicity, but I know plenty of asian girls that don't really mind.
I think the good news in context of ASD is that in asian cultures women don't desire men that are super alpha and macho, they actually prefer pensive and intellectual.

I suppose you could go teach English in Japan and Korea and try meeting girls that way, or you could move to one of the big cities with big asian populations (i.e. New York, LA, Toronto) where there are a lot more asian girls that have integrated outside their ethnic groups.

Where should one go, then, to hit on Asian girls?



I can corroborate this. As we all know all too well, people who do well in school and actually take school seriously in the USA are reviled as nerds. When I was English-teaching in Taiwan, I noticed that people there actually aspire to be nerds.



I suspect that a lot of these girls would be more Americanized, and thus more interested in the alpha/macho types.

Well, I go to the Asian markets to buy my:
Bean sprouts
Lychees
Persimmons
Mochi from Taiwan because it's cheaper than Japanese mochi (jdm tyte tax)
Iced tea
Tea
Chinese medicine

Actually, if I had my way, I'd probably just do ALL my shopping at the Asian supermarket, but alas I don't have my own way.

As far as my "hitting on" I simply asked a girl what she thought of a drink I was going to buy, to which she replied "I have a boyfriend."

Here is one Asian woman's take on her preference for non-Asians

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m8pEcOhsdjY[/youtube]


I don't know how much the size of the sausage really enters into a woman's evaluation of a man, but, hey, one point in our favour. We'll take what we can get.

Anyway, beauty standards in much of Asia call for light skin, long noses, and round eyes: features with which those of us with European ancestry are born. A lot of women will spend money on surgeries to enhance the nose (flat noses are considered unattractive), and many go in for blepharoplasty

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OOcSJSJWD60[/youtube]

Skin whitening products have a huge market in Asia.

http://edition.cnn.com/2002/WORLD/asiap ... whitening/

Look at Miss Thailand here



I'm guessing that either she has some European ancestry, or she had a nose job. Plus, she obviously stays out of the sun.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VF9U_l_NZdM[/youtube]

^ Nicely done video.