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Kurgan
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02 Jun 2012, 7:21 pm

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It's very difficult at times not to be cynical. I have seen woman after woman date stupid, using, sometimes abusive guys over and over, passing up or simply refusing to date good guys.

That said; you have to step back and remember that this one might be different. Don't judge a book by it's cover and do unto others as you would have them do unto you.


of course, you're a "good guy" aren't you


How do you know he's not?

What he said was immature, but you're linking him to a derogatory internet stereotype that isn't common in real life.

(This started out as a nice thread BTW. A good idea from metaldanielle.)



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02 Jun 2012, 7:32 pm

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I hear so many guys here talk about being lonely. It makes me sad. I just wanna give them a hug. So hugs so all the sad lonely guys! (Girls too if they want.)


Do you seriously care? does it seriously upset you?


Believe it or not, there really are good-hearted people who genuinely give a sh** about the people around them. Even when they're relative strangers.

I wish more people here could put aside their cynicism once in a while and see that.


I can't help it, the world is too vile.


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02 Jun 2012, 7:38 pm

thewhitrbbit wrote:
It's very difficult at times not to be cynical. I have seen woman after woman date stupid, using, sometimes abusive guys over and over, passing up or simply refusing to date good guys.

That said; you have to step back and remember that this one might be different. Don't judge a book by it's cover and do unto others as you would have them do unto you.


I used to have a hard time not being cynical but I don't anymore. Now that I've gotten myself into toxic situations, I'd feel like a hypocrite.



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04 Jun 2012, 6:49 am

thewhitrbbit wrote:
It's very difficult at times not to be cynical. I have seen woman after woman date stupid, using, sometimes abusive guys over and over, passing up or simply refusing to date good guys.

That said; you have to step back and remember that this one might be different. Don't judge a book by it's cover and do unto others as you would have them do unto you.


but...that's the sort of people women go for?


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04 Jun 2012, 7:23 am

Don't you understand? Women actually engage their PMS jets and home on to the nearest abusive male they can find. That's how the world works.



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04 Jun 2012, 7:58 am

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Don't you understand? Women actually engage their PMS jets and home on to the nearest abusive male they can find. That's how the world works.


I think there must be a biological or bio-psychological explanation as for why attractive ladies choose abusive boyfriends.

I think I read about it in a biology textbook, according to this broad, evolutionary view of love, we instinctively select mates who will enhance the survival of the species.

Men are drawn to classically beautiful women - ones with clear skin, bright eyes, shiny hair, good bone structure, red lips, and rosy chiiks - not because of fad or fashion but because these qualitites indicate youth and robust health, signs that a woman is in the peak of her childbearing years.

Women select mates for slightly different biological reasons. Because youth and physical health aren't essential to the male reproductive role, women instinctively favor mates with pronounced "alpha" qualities, the ability to dominate other males and bring home more than their share of the kill. The assumption is that male dominance ensures the survival of the family group more than youth or beauty. Thus a fifty-year-old chairman of the board - the human equivalent of the silver-backed male gorilla - is as attractive to women as a young, handsome, virile, but less successful male.



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04 Jun 2012, 2:07 pm

I'm withdrawing and going within myself... My life is stable without trying to make more out of this thread then what it portrays.
I'm gullable in so many ways that I can be too much of an easy target.


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04 Jun 2012, 2:30 pm

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I think there must be a biological or bio-psychological explanation as for why attractive ladies choose abusive boyfriends.


Most of the attractive women (95%) I know are in long-term relationships with perfectly sane men. If most women over 18 still prefered wannabe gangsters, wannabe skaters and similar people (the guys who et the most girls at high school) humanity would degeneate into what we saw in Idiocracy in a matter of 3—4 generations.

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Women select mates for slightly different biological reasons. Because youth and physical health aren't essential to the male reproductive role, women instinctively favor mates with pronounced "alpha" qualities, the ability to dominate other males and bring home more than their share of the kill. The assumption is that male dominance ensures the survival of the family group more than youth or beauty. Thus a fifty-year-old chairman of the board - the human equivalent of the silver-backed male gorilla - is as attractive to women as a young, handsome, virile, but less successful male.


An alpha male is a pack leader; in our society the alpha men are few and far between and in a regular town, the alpha men are the charismatic priest that even atheists look up to, the guy who owns the local factories, the best soccer/NFL/whatever players (if they're in the elite series, that is) and the mayor.

I somehow doubt that alpha status is more important than looks, strength and so on, as the latter indicates a good set of genetics an offspring will need. Furthermore, being able to provide isn't important seen from a biological perspective (it's a modern phenomenon that arose with monogamy), as humans didn't live in modern day families the way we do until very recently. Take a look at how chimpanzees live, for instance.

An alpha chimpanzee is the first one who gets to mate (and the first one who gets to eat), but if one of the females would rather mate with a younger and stronger male (which isn't uncommon), he's gonna have to accept it.



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04 Jun 2012, 3:01 pm

Uri wrote:
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Don't you understand? Women actually engage their PMS jets and home on to the nearest abusive male they can find. That's how the world works.


I think there must be a biological or bio-psychological explanation as for why attractive ladies choose abusive boyfriends.

I think I read about it in a biology textbook, according to this broad, evolutionary view of love, we instinctively select mates who will enhance the survival of the species.


Yep, also abusive guys are usually very charming until they get control over a woman and hollywood portrays "bad boys" are hard-hearted feom tragety and can be soften by the love of a woman. That makes it easier for women to fall for abusive guys.

But not all women are like that. Try not to let ur cynicism get in the way. U will unintentionally drive off nice girls who like nice guys.



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04 Jun 2012, 5:39 pm

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Try not to let ur cynicism get in the way. U will unintentionally drive off nice girls who like nice guys.


^ This, 100x over!



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04 Jun 2012, 5:53 pm

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Try not to let ur cynicism get in the way. U will unintentionally drive off nice girls who like nice guys.


^ This, 100x over!


yes, exactly. Even if most women really do act that way, and I don't believe they do, the negative attitude will only serve to alienate the few with whom you might be able to make a connection.


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05 Jun 2012, 9:09 am

Kurgan wrote:
DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
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It's very difficult at times not to be cynical. I have seen woman after woman date stupid, using, sometimes abusive guys over and over, passing up or simply refusing to date good guys.

That said; you have to step back and remember that this one might be different. Don't judge a book by it's cover and do unto others as you would have them do unto you.


of course, you're a "good guy" aren't you


How do you know he's not?

What he said was immature, but you're linking him to a derogatory internet stereotype that isn't common in real life.

(This started out as a nice thread BTW. A good idea from metaldanielle.)


I have a full time job, own my home, own a car, don't beat or abuse women, and have managed to develop adaptions to most of my AS Issues. So yeah I'd say I"m a good guy. :)



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05 Jun 2012, 9:45 pm

^^^
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05 Jun 2012, 10:16 pm

*Returns hug*


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06 Jun 2012, 4:29 am

thewhitrbbit wrote:
Kurgan wrote:
DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
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It's very difficult at times not to be cynical. I have seen woman after woman date stupid, using, sometimes abusive guys over and over, passing up or simply refusing to date good guys.

That said; you have to step back and remember that this one might be different. Don't judge a book by it's cover and do unto others as you would have them do unto you.


of course, you're a "good guy" aren't you


How do you know he's not?

What he said was immature, but you're linking him to a derogatory internet stereotype that isn't common in real life.

(This started out as a nice thread BTW. A good idea from metaldanielle.)


I have a full time job, own my home, own a car, don't beat or abuse women, and have managed to develop adaptions to most of my AS Issues. So yeah I'd say I"m a good guy. :)


Yeah, totally unlike the guys those stupid women are dating amirite. If they were smart they'd date good guys, nice guys, guys like you.


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06 Jun 2012, 6:01 am

Wasn't this topic about someone supposedly feeling sad for lonely people? I've lost track.


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