Men, what do you think of women who are quiet and shy?

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I would love to have someone talkative, at least once she gets to know me.

Ok so I am a collage student studying to be a caregiver for the elderly.. One day in class our assignment was to shave a guys face, so guys from a different class come in and let us shave there faces. The guy I shaved was very cute and sweet and even made jokes to make me feel more comfortable.. Ever since then I see him in the halls and he always smiles and says hi or he will make small talk asking how I Am... Does he like me or is he just being friendly?

It's irrelevant to what I think of her. Her true character is what matters.

I've been attracted to highly social women and ones who were bookworms.

As a man, it's pretty much essential to be highly social for anything to work.

Being shy is a dealbreaker for 99% of women.

I don't think I could respect someone who does not put in the same amount of effort into being open as I do. While some of the more outgoing people I've known have had a tendency to be self absorbed, I think that being completely closed off is more so. That and hiding behind your gender and saying it's ok to not put any work in just because of it.

I can deal with most types of personalities, as long as the person is awake mentally. Shy girls are great, in my experience. They have a lot going on inside their minds and sometimes, if you're patient they share it. Depending on how long this process takes I might lose interest, no matter how much it's worth the wait.

I'm shy and most people are either scared to approach me or confident. But I think more people would want to talk to me if I were outgoing. I don;t care though, I don't like random people talking to me.

Huggable and someone who needs comfort!

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I tend to be attracted to shy women (probably because I feel intimidated by outgoing women), but if she never opens up at all then it is not possible to get to know her.
I think a mixture of both is ideal... someone who isn't loud and obnoxious, yet she knows how to speak her mind. I don't even mind if she is a little sassy at times...

They are very hard to talk to. I have now idea how these men get these shy women to date them.
Oh, I have no issues with shy women at all.

If you're asking about attractiveness- it makes little difference. Shy quiet ones probably are slightly more alluring to me. But its not a trait that impacts attractiveness much one way or the other.

But if you're an aspie guy who has trouble reading social cues then the shy ones are even harder to read than the non shy.

Ladies Ive clicked with tend to be outgoing and people oriented- kinda opposite of me.

I approach quiet women much more than friendly outgoing women, since learning of aspergers syndrome.
In fact, I now avoid the noisy ones I used [ like most men] to gravitate toward
But I have since discovered a more meaningful genuine experience, and possibly someone who is aspies friendly or even on the spectrum themselves

Almost a lost sister, if they are truly aspie/adhd/gonzo... you could say
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I would love a shy and easy-going type as long as she enjoys romance and intimacy! But it may a problem finding one as most might be too scared to use a dating site. It might be more likely to happen through a friend or relative of her's that knows me on facebook or in real life.

sometimes it can be tough because if the girl is shy, quiet, not that talkative, it can make things confusing, it can make it hard to interpret if she is actually really shy, or just not interested

It's all about the personality for me. Confidence or lack of confidence is a non-factor for me when it comes to attraction.

Not going to work -- because I'm quiet and shy and refuse to submit to asking women out. I prefer to be the one with the power to do all the rejecting. So if a woman was quiet and shy, I probably wouldn't notice her.

Shy and quiet is fine as long as it isn't a pretext for being passive aggressive and 'closed off'.