Sleep in the the same room, or two different rooms?

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Same room! What's the use in having a boyfriend or girlfriend when you can't snuggle up to them while you sleep???

I recently had to share a twin room with rabbit in a caravan and there was a set of draws in-between the beds, it felt lonely.

I like my own space in the day time, and I would love a room that was just for me but sadly my apartment is tiny. I like sharing a bed with my partner, and I can't sleep when he isn't there.

I can't share a bed - I just sleep so lightly it's impossible. I get sleep-deprived, and end up either tearful or enraged.

I feel something of a failure for this. People should be able to sleep with their lover, shouldn't they? I want to be "a real girl" who can live full-time with her partner and sleep in a bed with him.

Of course I know that this is all social pressure. I am who I am - why try to adapt myself to a role that I cannot fill? It'd be like telling people who love sharing beds that they should be able to sleep happily apart.

So much of my life has been wanting to be like the other boys and girls, and feeling great relief when I felt I was being normal. But I'm not normal - no one is, really, and certainly none of us is NT.

So much of my life now is about trying to unpick all those shoulds and norms, and accept myself for who I am. The (figurative) voice in my head still says, "You're wrong you've failed you're wrong you've failed." I try to say, "No, I'm not wrong. I haven't failed. I understand why you're saying this, self. But it doesn't help any more. This helps now."

So, in short - I have my own bedroom.

i'm 18 I don't have to worry about this.

I have no idea what I would do. Whatever my partner wants I guess...

Sleep in the same bed.

But I do want my own office to chill in.

If I was in a relationship, I'd prefer to live in completely opposite homes until very close to the wedding, and then separate bedrooms until after the ceremony. It keeps the temptation at bay.

I couldn't handle sharing my room right now, which is one of the reasons I'm single. If you cannot share such things, you have no business getting into a relationship if you ask me.