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ZakFiend
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12 Aug 2012, 4:00 am

Many aspies are low energy, highly sensitive people. So they don't any energy into the search or developing themselves because it's literally painful. Their over-sensitivity and their lack of energy is what keeps them alone mainly. That and some aspies have a massive reality distortion field (i.e. they are incapable of seeing their own flaws and fixing them) so it makes such an endeavor pointless for many of them.



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12 Aug 2012, 5:01 am

ZakFiend wrote:
Many aspies are low energy, highly sensitive people. So they don't any energy into the search or developing themselves because it's literally painful. Their over-sensitivity and their lack of energy is what keeps them alone mainly. That and some aspies have a massive reality distortion field (i.e. they are incapable of seeing their own flaws and fixing them) so it makes such an endeavor pointless for many of them.


You sir, have not seen this aspie trying to solve a special interest related problem. That, is an energy level unseen outside of a gamma-ray burst :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:


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12 Aug 2012, 6:55 am

I know I'm young but after having being on the verge of having a relationship twice I can see a pattern forming. Just how all my friendships end with the other person distancing themselves and me trying to desperately hold onto the friendship, I see all my possible relationships following the same pattern; the other person will be interested in me but never enough to actually ask me out, then I'll spend weeks/months antagonizing over it and in the end be too awkward to ask them out. I'm just worried that this will happen for the rest of my life. What makes me feel really bad is the fact that there are people out there and relationships I could have but I'm just too awkward to make them happen. At the moment though I'm holding out hope that if I go study engineering at uni I'll find a nice nerdy guy.


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13 Aug 2012, 2:51 am

I think for us just finding a good match is harder, since we are so "special" 8) .



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19 Aug 2012, 10:22 pm

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All the time. It's especially prevalent whenever I see a couple being happy together... I just want to feel what all these couples feel, and yet I won't ever get that opportunity.


Make enough money and you can feel that and better.



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19 Aug 2012, 11:16 pm

NatureLover wrote:
Do you feel like you're just never going to meet that special person that you hope will make you happy? I feel this way when I'm just laying in bed or when I'm bored. I want to socialize but I can't. My lack of eye contact and unique interests really sends the wrong message to people. I did have this guy who liked me, but he probably thought I didn't like him...I just didn't know what to say.
Do you get that lonely feeling at times, even if you don't want to?


Yes. Ive already accepted the fact that Im going to die alone, and no matter how hard I try theres nothing I can do to change it. Its rather depressing when I think about it.