Why I don't have a GF (and what can I do?)

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So it looks like there may be hope on the horizon for me! This girl I met @ Anime Expo 2011 in Los Angeles......... I think she and I may have something together! Stay tuned.....

Just something to think about, we often complain about girls falling for bad boys, while you shouldn't be a back up plan, if she is burnt out from dating bad boys, you might have a small window of opportunity.

I agree with this and also want to add something. You're emotionally burned from having ASD (or maybe its co-morbids). So it makes little sense to require perfection in a partner. Compared to the aspie community at large, I am relatively successful with women only because I deliberately target women with flaws that parallel my own.

Good advice. My girl is FAR from 'perfect' and that's why we get along so well. We both understand each other's struggles in life. As I've said my GF had the single worst 'full' dating profile I have ever seen yet I took a chance and met her. The rest is history!

the hardest part is initiating the pursuit without being desperate

Just need to, well, not get cocky......... at this point.

I will let you all know what happens. Watch this space.....

it would be a dream come true if i met a future girlfriend at a Pop-Culture Convention

So I am happy to say that I found someone else, though! I plan on meeting her at Anime Expo 2013 in L.A.; it's a different girl, as an aside.

Indeed; love is an amazing thing <3

Yeah it's so sucky that we are continually told that if we aren't the center of objectification and look a certain way by our genders dichotomy we should feel bad. It goes both ways just look at marketing of products that are gender marketed like razors and such like the nono! which more or less serves the same purpose as a man's razor except its gentler and a more feminine color... yeah ofc I'm going to feel self conscious because I don't feel the need to use such products despite how keenly aware I am of the NATURAL BODY hair on my face and then told Im not pretty because of it or told to cover it up with make up.

Of course you don't get this somehow "easy" opt out as a male to be who you are without someone or something telling you you're not masculine enough. Women sadly do that too but not intentionally however that doesn't make it okay to assume we as women are okay with an easy cop-out of being seen as insecure and lacking self esteem.

If you're going to date us respect us don't use our vulnerabilities against or targeting us in that way because that just makes it worse when things go south. Just look at people who struggle with their lives because of such issues and turn to dangerous habits of coping with it.

To the assumption on appearance status = sexual reproduction
Btw Biological Essentialism by gender basically discriminates and forces women into another false dichotomy that is socially constructed and is actually very diverse (Just look at the LGTBQA aspie community because they do exist) .Btw not everyone who has sex wants offspring.

I don't want to be considered rude here but please as an Aspie myself and Female I do not feel that was a great way to phrase such comments and especially to be clumped into a group that way, just FYI. Have a good day.

3 years later and you're engaged and soon to get married.

I guess you found "the one" in LA.