Im in love with someone who has Aspergers

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Quite possible, but not very likely. I'd imagine about 5% of online relationships actually turn into something meaningful in the real world (though that figure is a pure guess).

As for Caramel's situation, there is far too much opportunity for misunderstanding.

The evidence is second hand.
The meaning of "on/off online girlfriend" needs clarification.
He might be lying to escape peer pressure.

And what has she got to lose by asking?

Except a group of jealous Aspies trying to bugger up this guy's chances in order to improve their own, maybe?

Last edited by sociable_hermit on 07 Dec 2006, 4:12 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Get knotted. I'm not jealous... much.

There is quite a bit to lose if not done properly but, it is still her decision. I only gave my take on this.

Also, why would we want to help screw up a perfictly good relationship/friendship on purpose? You just shot at her for making assumptions why are you making them yourself?

I highly doubt anyone has an alternative motive here and I do believe we all want to help Caramel

QFT.

I was joking there, as Tequila has acknowledged. However there was a serious point to the joke, which is that it isn't always the world's best idea to rely on a bunch of potentially sex-starved Aspies for relationship advice when you are an available female.

I'm not saying anyone here is really trying to sabotage things - yet - but it's only a matter of time before hellznrq turns up

QFT

I wonder how the bug-eyed sex-maniac would kick off? Now there's something to think about.

ROFL!

Erm....

In the style of Borat, I would guess.

"This man is gay or he has a very small penis. Come to the United Arab Emirates and be f***ed in the ass like the b***h that you are. You know you will love me, just as hale_bopp does."

Ok I am scaring myself now.

Don't write the guy off! If you can tolerate the heart-pain of being his friend, do it! For the following reasons -
1. We all need good friends we can trust, not just lovers/partners. That means you can use a friend and so can he.
2. You think you "love" him, but you don't really even know him. Love, long-term, is a complex thing that takes time and patience to develop. If you take the time to be friends, true love may grow for both of you.
3. Being a nice, warm, friendly, local body is probably better than being the one out in cyber-space!

I'm not saying confess your love to him, or even try to weasel your way into his affections. I'm just saying stay friends with him and get to know him better, while you make other friends and look around. And don't put up with any kind of abuse - mental or physical. I believe you deserve better.

hey caramel and all the brothers and sisters of the hood.

how we all hanging today hope it good.

caramel, as an aspie i hate it when people just get on my back again and again. the thing is he dont understand love to the full extent. no aspie does. come to think of it no body does. just be direct, not confrontational but talk to him, quietly watch the body language and just talk to him. dont give up. the online girlfriend might be a ploy to get to see what you'll take off him. its not his been horrible. its just tryna investigate what manner a person you are. i do it all the time to co workers and teachers. it just tryna investigate people. i mean i watch people when we are watching a movie and i learn all i can from body language. dont worry, just give it time and be as understanding as you can.

take a pepsi and chill out in the back row of the cinema and then go out for a bit.

brother devil

It's true.

You've still got a pretty good chance, Caramel.

Go for it... but in a nice way, so that you'll remain friends whatever.

At the end of the day, even if men ARE solely obsessed with sex (which isn't a concept I necessarily agree with) your CTRL button is going to be a lot more interesting than hers.

well that's probably the best thing for many of us out there S.H.

if not then all women would be with other women, and what kind of society would we have then.

lol life does go on...but i kinda liked him and i imagined (as dumb females often do! ) of what our babies would look like ahahaha....Hopefully you're right... i'd hate to die with 8 cats and a bowl full of butterscotch candies that nobody eats... Yeahhh you're right.. he wasn't too too too bad but i guess as kids growing up we both have a lot to work on with our personalities... we both got raised by parents who didn't have it together so we have to scramble now and get our whole lives together...lol that
would be nice finding somebody here (in fact i met my first boyfriend- the one i was talking about- on myspace lol)

hahahaha i'm based in NY....lol i like caramels tooo...hahaha wait am i hitting on myself? ahaha

lol i don't know why any of you would do that lol.... i'm a plain short, curly haired girl with caramel skin... why would anyone want that? lol i've seen some of the chicks on a thread on here and they are prettyyyy stunning...lol

lol and you still are! ahahaha