^^^men's capacity to make money is just not THAT attractive to all women. some women like that, so for those women, a man with a high earning capacity will be attractive. but that isn't most women, it's a select few that want to have that kind of man.
it's really just not so simple as that. with people marrying later, and women capable of creating their own secure nest eggs, they just don't need to find men to take care of them like they did a couple of generations ago or more. this isn't something hardwired into them, it's a cultural tendency that has shifted for the most part.
if you want to find women who care about men's money, then it's definitely in your best interests to make a lot of it. but most men do fine without going down that road. otherwise... poor men would be overwhelmingly single, and they aren't.
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Right, I wanna point out again that I said wisdom and not university degrees. What woman wouldn't want a wiser man as her mate? Most, I'd wager, and that wisdom comes best with age (good genetics and parenting as well, of course). It'd probably be a more valuable trait in women if being older didn't tend to correlate with being less fertile.
i have to also point out that older parenting for men also correlates to lower sperm counts/less motility in sperm, erectile dysfunction, and higher rates of disabilities in offspring (such as autism), so it seems that there are similar issues across the board.
also, men don't become wiser than women as they age, so there is no reason for women to value it in men as opposed to the reverse. and women can earn their own wisdom through experience and education, as already stated. wisdom in both genders seems like it would be an objectively valuable trait for parenting, not just something special for men. men are no longer gatekeepers for women in society, so women don't have to live vicariously through them anymore.
by the way, it's all borne out by research:
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Men seek youth and beauty, while women focus on wealth and status — evolutionary psychologists have long claimed that these general preferences in human mating are universal and based on biology. But new research suggests that they may in fact be malleable: as men and women achieve financial equality, in terms of earning power and economic freedom, these mate-seeking preferences by gender tend to wane.
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That means, basically, that the more equal men and women became, the less emphasis men placed on youth and beauty, and the less emphasis women put on wealth and power. These findings were borne out by the 37-culture survey as well; although it showed a definite gender difference in mate-seeking preferences, it also showed that these gender-based differences narrowed in countries with more equality. Further, it found that the top few most desired traits were shared by both men and women: most people first look for intelligence, kindness and sense of humor, even before men mention beauty or women mention wealth and status.
http://healthland.time.com/2012/09/07/w ... z2LqZiWPXI
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