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28 Dec 2012, 6:01 am

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Celebrity*

Careful Kjas, you will get arrested by the spelling police if you persist. :P


Well then they're long overdue, because everyone knows I can't spell, regardless of which language it's in.


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28 Dec 2012, 6:33 am

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Wolf and boo went full ret*d. You never go full ret*d. especially when attention seeking. But i guess negative attention is attention too.


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28 Dec 2012, 6:57 am

You people are wasting your time with your warnings; Lilya *will* go for the guy; he's a total alpha in every way and she won't be able to resist her instinct. Stop being delusional.

Lilya, good luck with him.



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28 Dec 2012, 7:04 am

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You people are wasting your time with your warnings; Lilya *will* go for the guy; he's a total alpha in every way and she won't be able to resist her instinct. Stop being delusional.

Lilya, good luck with him.


And we can all watch as she then comes back crying...



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28 Dec 2012, 7:31 am

Tequila wrote:
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You people are wasting your time with your warnings; Lilya *will* go for the guy; he's a total alpha in every way and she won't be able to resist her instinct. Stop being delusional.

Lilya, good luck with him.


And we can all watch as she then comes back crying...


That's not very nice...

He may be a ladies man, but he certainly knows how to treat one in a way they feel wanted. That's something that can't be said about a lot of men, especially these so called players who think cocky and confident is the way to go.


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28 Dec 2012, 7:40 am

Tequila wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
You people are wasting your time with your warnings; Lilya *will* go for the guy; he's a total alpha in every way and she won't be able to resist her instinct. Stop being delusional.

Lilya, good luck with him.


And we can all watch as she then comes back crying...



Maybe, maybe not.

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28 Dec 2012, 7:43 am

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Thank you, Kjas :)

Thanks for sharing your experience.

I'd much rather see people just as people, but I dislike a lot of aspects that could follow from his position. I do value my privacy and I dislike the fact that he does seem to be proudly a ladies man.

If it would have been my way to begin with, I would have just had a traditional date with a person who seems like a very charming guy. Right now the whole situation feels somehow twisted, but tempting at the same time. It's never been my desire to "use" someone and I don't want to be toyed with either. I do respect him as a person and quite honestly, I like him as a person, even though I keep reasoning to myself that I shouldn't fall for him. I can't see him treating me as an equal partner, especially when I've already allowed him to have it his way.


I too, prefer to see people as just people.

And while I can, and do that as much as is possible, there are times when you have to confront reality. And the reality is that the rest of the world doesn't see it that way - even though you do. If you date a celeberity, if you date someone who is extremely rich, or if you date someone from an elite family, you have to consider the realities of the situation. And he has already made it clear that what the public thinks comes before you - which forces you to put what they think ahead of you too, if you want to continue being with him.

I don't think you used him and it's understandable that you don't want to be toyed with. He's been up front about what this was and what he wants. Have you? Not just to him, but to yourself?
It feels twisted for a reason - it's like trying to have something with him but there's another thing there that you always have to be mindful of (the public), creating artificial limits where there shouldn't be any.

If you know he's not going to be respectful enough to treat you as an equal, then wouldn't it be better to leave before you fall for him? I'm not saying right now, enjoy it while it lasts or for as long as you can safely, but keep a close tab on your feelings so that you can still extract yourself when you need to. There's nothing wrong with enjoying him as a person, as long as you don't get yourself hurt in the process.


Thank you, Kjas...

Those are all very good points.

I genuinely enjoyed the time I got to spend with him, but I certainly am worried about getting hurt in the process, one way or another.


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28 Dec 2012, 8:08 am

Kjas wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
Celebrity*

Careful Kjas, you will get arrested by the spelling police if you persist. :P


Well then they're long overdue, because everyone knows I can't spell, regardless of which language it's in.


What location are you exactly? I ask because I recall you having something against Aussies so was wondering ...



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28 Dec 2012, 9:30 am

بقص أيري إذا ما رح ترجع تضهر معو



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28 Dec 2012, 9:34 am

inta az3ar bas ana bwefe2 ma3ak :P



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28 Dec 2012, 10:51 am

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inta az3ar bas ana bwefe2 ma3ak :P



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28 Dec 2012, 11:00 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
MCalavera wrote:
inta az3ar bas ana bwefe2 ma3ak :P


النتيجة واضحة، كل واحد عم بيضحك علتاني هون


Ce forum est destiné à être uniquement en anglais, vous imbécile. ;)



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28 Dec 2012, 11:17 am

Tequila wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
MCalavera wrote:
inta az3ar bas ana bwefe2 ma3ak :P


النتيجة واضحة، كل واحد عم بيضحك علتاني هون


Ce forum est destiné à être uniquement en anglais, vous imbécile. ;)



What you sounded saying above: "This forum is destined to be uniquely in English, you imbecils."


Very epic :-|



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28 Dec 2012, 11:30 am

Voi kiesus mitä älykääpiöitä täältäkin löytyy :P

Back to the topic, please :)


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28 Dec 2012, 11:44 am

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What you sounded saying above: "This forum is destined to be uniquely in English, you imbecils."

Very epic :-|


The translation went something like "This is an English-only forum, you moron."



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28 Dec 2012, 11:58 am

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I'd much rather see people just as people, but I dislike a lot of aspects that could follow from his position. I do value my privacy and I dislike the fact that he does seem to be proudly a ladies man.

If it would have been my way to begin with, I would have just had a traditional date with a person who seems like a very charming guy. Right now the whole situation feels somehow twisted, but tempting at the same time. It's never been my desire to "use" someone and I don't want to be toyed with either. I do respect him as a person and quite honestly, I like him as a person, even though I keep reasoning to myself that I shouldn't fall for him. I can't see him treating me as an equal partner, especially when I've already allowed him to have it his way.

the problem is that i think you are not seeing him as a regular person:

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If I've ever had a celebrity crush in my life, it's a certain A-lister in my country who I also happened to meet a couple of weeks ago at a charity ball.


there are many many many many many many many charming guys out there who are also very good in bed. what makes this one different is that he is famous, so you felt like you already "knew" him before you ever met him. that's a byproduct of the media machine. that glamour is bound to wear off - perhaps once he farts in bed one too many times, or when he pushes past you to give an autograph, or finds someone new (see "ladies' man", above).

you could have had any number of wonderful non-celebrity men to have a fling with, but you picked one that fulfilled a longstanding fantasy. perhaps you like testing out the feeling of being the less-famous person in the bedroom, or maybe you just needed to get it out of your system. i am sure that you know on a certain level that this thing is built on smoke and mirrors, but the longer you spend with him the more real/less glamourous he is going to become (and conversely, the more you may try to cling to the notion that you can build something substantial out of this, in spite of his protestations).

my advice would be... never have sex with a famous person you used to crush on, but it's a bit late for that. so i'd say cut all ties now, before this gets silly.


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