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I think that you are....
an A**hole, Mr. Boo. 21%  21%  [ 8 ]
saying nothing wrong, Mr. Boo. 50%  50%  [ 19 ]
saying nothing wrong but you're a**hole either way, Mr. Boo. 29%  29%  [ 11 ]
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06 Jan 2013, 2:25 pm

BanjoGirl wrote:
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It depends on the kind of relationship, but ...


Exactly. No relationship means no obligation to commit just yet.


In fact when you are on a dating site, you date several people to "evaluate and compare" them, and generally the other person is doing the same. Obviously you must tell, just in case.

I suppose this is how a lot of people that use dating sites dates. When you don't date online the situation is different, as you don't have a "cast of candidates"...


Girls often have a 'cast of candidates' even those I meet offline.

I was always the one with the least candidates compared to them.



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06 Jan 2013, 6:33 pm

It's ok to "date" a few people at once, but if you find yourself drawn to someone, you need to stop seeing the others. I'd say if your on the third date and things are going well, you need to cut off the others.

It's almost inefficient in a way to only date one person at a time, especially for an aspie.



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06 Jan 2013, 6:34 pm

Just try and play it safe; but it's what thewhitrbbit said.


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08 Jan 2013, 1:54 pm

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I would not go out with a person who would consider several people at once in that manner.


I agree with you :)



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08 Jan 2013, 2:48 pm

But those I dated were considering several people at once in that manner and we were being fully transparent. :roll:

You people never tried online dating then.



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08 Jan 2013, 2:55 pm

49% Assholehood, yoohoo!!



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08 Jan 2013, 7:05 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
49% Assholehood, yoohoo!!


It's actually 50%. Add up the votes. Just saying.