The_Face_of_Boo
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14 Jan 2013, 3:07 am
That plus expensive! Equality apparently doesn't override, "guy always buys first date".
Yeah, and it's not really a "who invited the other" issue, even when the girl invites the guy; It is still expected from thr guy to pay all or at least half, it's a gender-related "etiquette"; most girls never pay all regardless how the date happaned. Period.
And never suggest half-half because they *will* suspect you're a cheapstake lol - let her initiate the suggestion.
My policy though: If she insists to pay her half (in *genuine* way, some do pretend it but it's a s**t test, like my before last date was used to do), I insist to pay all
; regardless who's the inviter and the invitee. I just hate the type who feels entitled to never pay no matter what.
14 Jan 2013, 3:15 am
[me, joking tone:] You get the next one? She giggles, smiles, then writes a text while I pay the bill, "I just didn't feel any chemistry."
Fortunately that was only 3 dates in a row... maybe someone will come along with a C-C-C-COMBO BREAKER!! 
14 Jan 2013, 6:44 pm
; regardless who's the inviter and the invitee. I just hate the type who feels entitled to never pay no matter what.Why insist to pay all? Aren't you reinforcing the belief that the man should pay, thereby encouraging her to not bother offering in the future?
When I offer to pay my half, I almost always get argued down, so sometimes I just can't be bothered because it's not worth the hassle. I find it a type of "game" and it's tiring and stupid.
The_Face_of_Boo
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17 Jan 2013, 7:26 am
; regardless who's the inviter and the invitee. I just hate the type who feels entitled to never pay no matter what.Why insist to pay all? Aren't you reinforcing the belief that the man should pay, thereby encouraging her to not bother offering in the future?
When I offer to pay my half, I almost always get argued down, so sometimes I just can't be bothered because it's not worth the hassle. I find it a type of "game" and it's tiring and stupid.
The belief exists whether we like it or not. I am talking about a first date tho; the later dates are totally different matter. Sometimes I feel doing it, sometimes not.
And oh; if the girl really believes in half-half, she'll suggest it again in the 2nd date or even invites back.
Update: Sunday the 2nd date will be, not Sat.
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20 Jan 2013, 4:53 am
She texted me this morning "yellow or red dress?"
almost fell from bed rofling", how cute.
20 Jan 2013, 5:00 am
almost fell from bed rofling", how cute.Very nice
What colour did you pick?
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20 Jan 2013, 9:49 am
almost fell from bed rofling", how cute.Very nice
What colour did you pick?
Told her to go for yellow this time, red for the next time.
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20 Jan 2013, 9:53 am
20 Jan 2013, 3:37 pm
almost fell from bed rofling", how cute.Very nice
What colour did you pick?
Told her to go for yellow this time, red for the next time.
Smooth!
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20 Jan 2013, 4:27 pm
almost fell from bed rofling", how cute.Very nice
What colour did you pick?
Told her to go for yellow this time, red for the next time.
Smooth!
Well, it's about time to learn!! !!
She's texting me all the same after the date, which is a very good sign.
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21 Jan 2013, 5:00 pm
almost fell from bed rofling", how cute.Very nice
What colour did you pick?
Told her to go for yellow this time, red for the next time.
Smooth!
Talking about using smoothing technique, it is how I asked her out first time, during our convo, she was trying to guess something about me and she guessed it right, so I was like "Ok, for that, you win a prize!", she was like yay what it could be and I was like "an lunch invitation in [her fav restaurant]!" - and so how it happened.
Omfg, I AM becoming smooth
