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25 Jan 2013, 11:14 pm

diniesaur wrote:
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However, if you feel the need to say something, just say "hey I hope our having sex doesn't change anything or make things awkward". But don't go into how good it was....


Yeah, that's kind of my instinct--although I ordinarily wouldn't know any better than to go into all kinds of details or whatever. I think I will do that, but not talk about it being good.

But what if he says he wasn't very good like he did before? Then, I'd feel the need to correct him. Is it okay to say "yes you were" or would even that make it seem like I was trying to do it again?


Hmmmm....that's tough. I can totally understand you wanting to correct him. You could say say you enjoyed it and quickly try to move to another topic a.s.a.p. try to stay in control of the conversation. If you start reminiscing you run the risk of him saying "wanna do it again"?
What happens if you both end up asking in unison wanna do it again?


I can only assume that if you are both asking then you both want to and it's gonna happen! The bigger issue here is whether or not the two people know what's going on. Meaning, if this is a friends with benefits arrangement or is this going to turn into a relationship. I was in a friends with benefits situation (as mentioned earlier). I knew I didn't want this type of arrangement but I was foolish enough to think that this would turn into something else. Even though he said "I don't want a relationship" several times. Anyway, bottom line is I think the OP may have issues with handeling this type of situation. Some people are able to have sex and not need anything more. But it's tricky and you can end up hurt if the two of you have different expecatations.


I don't expect a relationship at all. I'm happy to be friends! Dating is way too scary for me at this point...

Oh, and I asked him if things are "weird" now because of us having sex and he said no. I asked if we are still friends and he said we are. I'm happy about that! Ordinarily I would want to try to see him again as soon as possible but since we had sex I worry that he might get the wrong idea.


Well you got your answer! Take it at face value and don't dwell on it!



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26 Jan 2013, 12:31 am

Play video games, watch anime, and don't worry about it.


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26 Jan 2013, 1:32 am

AspieOtaku wrote:
Play video games, watch anime, and don't worry about it.


.....yeah you can do this too!