The REAL reason why you don't have a girlfriend/wife

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19 Jun 2013, 2:36 am

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Seven of Nine??
:oops:

From Star Trek.

Just Google "Seven of Nine" and "is irrelevant" together and you'll see what I'm talking about.

I know her, that's why I've blushed :oops:

she was.... my teen fantasy :lol:

Seven of Nine is awesome. I totally want to be her.

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19 Jun 2013, 2:41 am

Who_Am_I wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Who_Am_I wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Seven of Nine??
:oops:

From Star Trek.

Just Google "Seven of Nine" and "is irrelevant" together and you'll see what I'm talking about.

I know her, that's why I've blushed :oops:

she was.... my teen fantasy :lol:

Seven of Nine is awesome. I totally want to be her.

Seven: Your pupils are widening by 50%, your blood pressure is increasing, your Oxycontin level is increasing. You're ready for mating, assume the position.
Me:

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19 Jun 2013, 5:10 am

OP - Do you have a gf/wife? If not, what's your reason?

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19 Jun 2013, 6:00 am

If this was meant as a personal attack on guys exclusively, you failed big time, bucko.

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19 Jun 2013, 6:37 am

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OP - Do you have a gf/wife? If not, what's your reason?

Because I simply don't want one right now.

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19 Jun 2013, 6:39 am

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If this was meant as a personal attack on guys exclusively, you failed big time, bucko.

You personally interpret it as a personal attack.

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19 Jun 2013, 6:41 am

Who_Am_I wrote:

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Oh yes, a disorder that causes significant impairs in social skills will have no impact whatsoever on romantic success. Of course.

Says the person who never tried, or tried a few times and gave up after.

Says the person who has actually been in a relationship before. So much for your assumptions.

Januaryman, you are correct, I'm not a lesbian.

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Diagnosis is irrelevant.

Thank you, Seven of Nine.

"Has actually been". Why isn't this "Is actually in"?

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19 Jun 2013, 7:58 am

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Diagnosis is irrelevant. Most people on here however use their diagnosis as an excuse to just sit on their asses all day and b***h on WP about how much their lives suck because they aren't in a relationship, and they blame it on AS, which is completely false, yet it prevents them from taking action.

hold on there. There are alot of aspie men that actual do go out there, and do try to get dates but fail.
not all dateless men are the shy or nervous around women type. Not all are computer nerds, who sit on the computer all day complaining
on WP. and not all dateless men are only chase after supermodels.

People here are stuck on the shy and lazy type, but yet seem ignore guys like me and others, who do go out and put up in effort
to met the ladies, so please, don't think we don't ever try.

Which is good that you're doing so and that you keep doing so while learning from your mistakes, and if you can't learn from what you did at the moment that was wrong, you can certainly receive feedback from others observing or continue to educate yourself on the subject of seduction.

Always change "but" to "and".

They do try to get dates BUT fail.
They do try to get dates AND fail.

You being one of the people who actually go out and try to get dates, which one sounds better? I'm rooting for the second one, because it sounds more like you're going out and trying to get dates AND failing, indicating that it's a normal part of the process of going out and getting dates and you will keep trying and learning.

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19 Jun 2013, 9:08 am

I'm so glad to read this post.
I know shy/awkward guys who have girlfriends or wives. I know confident guys who don't.
I also know a lot of people (guys and girls) who complain that they don't have partners, and yet they aren't doing anything to actively change that. Sitting around waiting for someone to throw themselves at you does not usually work.

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19 Jun 2013, 9:22 am

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well, thanks for being nice. you are not calling me an entitle, misgoyny jerk.
which alot of dateless men are called.
to be honest, I am not use to positive feedback. when talking about dating issues.

and your not doing the whole ''women owes you nothing speech''
which is also cool.

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19 Jun 2013, 9:27 am

that another insults dateless men get alot, the you are entitle.
Yes, guys who want to get date, but can't or fail it,
are called ''entitle jerks'' .

the old fashion ''you can't get a date, because your an entitle jerk,
and women can sense that a mile away''

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19 Jun 2013, 9:38 am

I see no insult in the main post.

Talking on a high horse? yes, but I don't see insulting/personal attacks.

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19 Jun 2013, 9:46 am

MacDragard wrote:

Who_Am_I wrote:

MacDragard wrote:

Who_Am_I wrote:

Oh yes, a disorder that causes significant impairs in social skills will have no impact whatsoever on romantic success. Of course.

Says the person who never tried, or tried a few times and gave up after.

Says the person who has actually been in a relationship before. So much for your assumptions.

Januaryman, you are correct, I'm not a lesbian.

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Diagnosis is irrelevant.

Thank you, Seven of Nine.

"Has actually been". Why isn't this "Is actually in"?

Because the REAL reason is that she got her bf way before reading your posts, hence why she failed maintaining the relationship, the poor unlucky girl, if only you came earlier to WP.

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19 Jun 2013, 9:51 am

the real reason i'm single... hmm, lets see...
1) social fobia: i dont like to speak unless spoken to, and even then the "bad vibes" are obvious even to myself...
2) high sentitivity: i cannot be comfortable in any social situation, i get overstimulated by comversations, music, regular light levels, tremors of people walking by...
2.5) a light form of both audio and visual eppilepsy
3) incompatible interests and hobbies to my peers: i wont have anything to talk about even if i managed to initiate a conversation
4) heavily different perception: many of the 'basic' conversationstarters are useless in my mind, i cant shake that feeling-> more uncomfortable vibes
5) emotional scars from trying to connect, disregarding the above effects.

try and dismiss that with your positive outlook talks, none of the three you mentioned are a reason for me, actually, those you opened with are among the few that i *don't* have issues with...

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19 Jun 2013, 10:56 am

AdamAutistic wrote:

the real reason why i dont have a girlfriend is because i am homosexual

ROFL. And that very same reason is why I in fact, do....

As for the people taking the original post as a personal attack, there would seem to be an element of projection onto the self going on here.

Get out there and go for it folks. If you get a no, you're no worse off than you were ten minutes previously.

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19 Jun 2013, 11:07 am

izzeme wrote:

To sum up what you said in a more simple form, the reason why you are single is because it is the identity that you have created for yourself. Your identity is that of someone who isn't sociable, is incompatible with the interests of others, and does not enjoy conversation among other things. A "positive outlook talk" will not work for you if your identity isn't a positive one. What if I were to give a "negative outlook talk"? Would you dismiss it as much as the positive, or would you accept it? If you were to accept it, you do so only because in your world of identity you are attracted to the negative.

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