JBO wrote:
wtfid2 wrote:
Pabalebo wrote:
21 is nothing. There are happy guys on this site in their 50s who haven't. I'm 22 and I'm just barely scratching the surface of the dating game now.
they arent happy, they are just accepting and coping with their sh***y lives. How can anyone be happy knowing that noone wants them? Even if they were asexual the feeling of rejection would still hurt them.
also, you have done things with girls before so not to be an ass but it's an insult that you categorize yourself with the op just because you havent lost your virginity.
lastly, saying he has time is bs too. He has time to meet an old hag, but his youth is fading he will never meet a hot young thanggg.
Very unlikely that "no one wants them." More likely that they just couldn't recognize when people did want them, they give off a "don't talk to me" or "cold" first impression because they don't know they're supposed to smile and make eye contact and make stupid small talk, they have unrealistic expectations, etc.
They also may or may not be unhappy. You can't say someone's life is sh***y just because they aren't in a relationship... Maybe love is the #1 priority for you, but that isn't necessarily the case for everyone else. I've never been on a date and that fact doesn't bother me at all. I'm obviously interested in relationships because I'm reading this sub-forum, but I'm not sure if it's actually something I would actually want to be part of really.
Also, somebody once said, "Don't marry a woman because of her looks - they all end up looking like Yoda anyways."
I think even aspies know that you should make small talk with girls. Ive met some aspies, and they were odd but they were not afraid to talk. Girls can come on pretty strong, and if you havent had any interest by girls by your 18th bday chances are you are not all that desireable tot he masses.
Im not saying someone's life is sh***y if they arent currently in a relaitonship, but if someone has never had the chance to be in one EVERRRR and they also WANT to be in one, and they see EVERYONE AROUND THEM being in one, then no amount of college degrees, flashy cars, sucessful careers or even large social groups will make their life complete.
You may be happy, but that is because you dont really have an interest in this stuff...i on the other hand would very much like a gf, and one i am attracted to. Im not looking for a super model, but looks are very important to me, and i need a girl i atleast get sexually aroused by...average girls are fine by me. Id choose a kind intelligent average girl over a 10/10 girl with a terrible personality, but id choose a 5/10 rude girl over a 4/10 girl with the best personality. You can hate me for saying this but i dont feel wrong for this..and im atleast honest.
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AQ 25
Your Aspie score: 101 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 111 of 200
You seem to have both Aspie and neurotypical traits
19 Jul 2013, 11:04 pm
