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02 Oct 2013, 7:16 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
if she's virgin better to go without penetration


Butt I hear Arab ladies have a workaround...

...butt, butt, butt.



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02 Oct 2013, 7:17 am

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I'm far past the point of needing an instruction manual. What I need is for her to be willing to let me touch her boobs!

You don't want to touch her boobs until you've actually penetrated her. Boobs elicit an autopilot objection. That's why you finger her with her clothes on to get her more turned on...then you remove her pants because no guys do this BEFORE touching boobs...she doesn't expect this, so won't have an autopilot objection. Once you've penetrated her (with a condom of course), she's accepted that you two are having sex, THEN you can remove her top and touch her boobs. :)



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02 Oct 2013, 7:17 am

Shau wrote:
She's not a virgin. And you're getting warmer and warmer!


Malaysia?



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02 Oct 2013, 7:20 am

Philippines?



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02 Oct 2013, 7:20 am

Shau, you should get familiar with how to respond to objections. If you're not prepared, you'll freeze up and lose the opportunity. That is, if you intend to get intimate with other women. You may get lucky with this one girl since she's been hanging around so long so it's possible she may not have any objections.



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02 Oct 2013, 7:20 am

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You don't want to touch her boobs until you've actually penetrated her. Boobs elicit an autopilot objection.


It's been my general experience with women that if they're already keen on you, they're not gonna care about you touching their boobs. Hugs ---> Kissing ---> French Kissing ---> Boobs/Ass/Legs/etc ---> Sex has always been my normal route.

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That's why you finger her with her clothes on to get her more turned on...then you remove her pants because no guys do this BEFORE touching boobs...she doesn't expect this, so won't have an autopilot objection.


This is pretty novel, admittedly, and novelty does wonderful things for a woman's libido. Interesting advice, thanks!

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Philippines?


Getting colder.



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02 Oct 2013, 7:21 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Philippines?


Not Thailand? They're quite liberal, there.

I hope you know that she's female and not Ting Tong.



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02 Oct 2013, 7:23 am

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Not Thailand?


Very close now.



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02 Oct 2013, 7:28 am

Shau wrote:
Ctrl_F4 wrote:
You don't want to touch her boobs until you've actually penetrated her. Boobs elicit an autopilot objection.


It's been my general experience with women that if they're already keen on you, they're not gonna care about you touching their boobs. Hugs ---> Kissing ---> French Kissing ---> Boobs/Ass/Legs/etc ---> Sex has always been my normal route.

That's probably because you've spent days/weeks/months with her so she doesn't have a need to object. Women object when things move quickly. They may still object when you take things slowly, but if you've been a really nice guy and she knows with certainty that you'll stick around, she's likely to not object. I usually sleep with women on the first, second, or third date, so the "normal" route isn't as efficient. And I think it's silly to take things slowly.



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02 Oct 2013, 7:30 am

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Shau wrote:
I'm far past the point of needing an instruction manual. What I need is for her to be willing to let me touch her boobs!

You don't want to touch her boobs until you've actually penetrated her. Boobs elicit an autopilot objection. That's why you finger her with her clothes on to get her more turned on...then you remove her pants because no guys do this BEFORE touching boobs...she doesn't expect this, so won't have an autopilot objection. Once you've penetrated her (with a condom of course), she's accepted that you two are having sex, THEN you can remove her top and touch her boobs. :)



Umm... are they really that mindless? Like if you touch x before y she decides sex but if you youch y before x then no sex? Sequential buttons? She either wants sex or not.



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02 Oct 2013, 7:30 am

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That's probably because you've spent days/weeks/months with her so she doesn't have a need to object. Women object when things move quickly.


If you say so man. Normally they don't. At least in Western countries they don't. Hell, you can bed a lot of Western girls on the same day you meet them.



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02 Oct 2013, 7:30 am

so it was warmer to Bangladesh?



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02 Oct 2013, 7:32 am

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so it was warmer to Bangladesh?


It's extremely warmer to Thailand.



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02 Oct 2013, 7:33 am

Vietnam!! !



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02 Oct 2013, 7:34 am

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Vietnam!! !


Nope.



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02 Oct 2013, 7:36 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ctrl_F4 wrote:
Shau wrote:
I'm far past the point of needing an instruction manual. What I need is for her to be willing to let me touch her boobs!

You don't want to touch her boobs until you've actually penetrated her. Boobs elicit an autopilot objection. That's why you finger her with her clothes on to get her more turned on...then you remove her pants because no guys do this BEFORE touching boobs...she doesn't expect this, so won't have an autopilot objection. Once you've penetrated her (with a condom of course), she's accepted that you two are having sex, THEN you can remove her top and touch her boobs. :)



Umm... are they really that mindless? Like if you touch x before y she decides sex but if you youch y before x then no sex? Sequential buttons? She either wants sex or not.

Women are not mindless. They just have autopilot responses (a.k.a. knee jerk reactions) to certain stimuli. For example, when a homeless man asks for change, most people say "no" without thinking. Or when someone asks how your day is going, most people have automatic default answers. People have automatic responses too in the bedroom. The clever homeless man will ask for change in a different way so it doesn't engage our autopilot response. The skilled conversationalist who's really interested in how you're doing will ask the question in a completely different way. And our aspie hero here will not be triggering her autopilot responses by choosing a different path. There are books on sex, e.g. Karma Sutra; this is no different, except you don't have to go to Barnes and Nobles!

When women want sex, but it's the first time and there's some uncertainty in the air, it's easy for her to back out (a.k.a. rationalization) because there's a lot of emotions in the air. Kind of like when you're invited to a party, you want to go, but you're also nervous so you contemplate not going. Or when people get married and they suddenly get cold feet at the last minute.



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