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17 Nov 2013, 8:11 am

Alycat wrote:
8O


How about it? You not impressed? ;)



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17 Nov 2013, 8:18 am

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Alycat wrote:
8O


How about it? You not impressed? ;)
That would raise some questions since I don't think he drives and doesn't seem violent.
I want more than just sex. I want a proper relationship. That would suggest it was going to be another guy who only wanted sex.


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17 Nov 2013, 10:52 am

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But then, I'm probably just a bitter old 26 year old.


Can I be bitter too? Please please please?

I have plenty of Bitrex to go around!


You don't want to get bitter. I happen to be a bit moody sometimes (nawwww, really??! !!) and I find it hard to control. It shouldn't be an excuse. But it is, and I'm using it!

Unrelated...how the HELL do you get rid of these horrible, horrible adverts like Toys R Us from the bottom of the page? They're driving me nuts. I've just had one open up, *shudder*.


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17 Nov 2013, 11:17 am

I realize its a little late to say this, because your post is from 2007, but I gotta say it.... hasn't anyone ever told you to not fish off the company pier???? You don't stick your wick in the company flame. Or in your case, your flame around the company wick.



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17 Nov 2013, 11:23 am

I'm glad nobody ever told me that one...



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17 Nov 2013, 11:56 am

smudge wrote:
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But then, I'm probably just a bitter old 26 year old.


Can I be bitter too? Please please please?

I have plenty of Bitrex to go around!


You don't want to get bitter. I happen to be a bit moody sometimes (nawwww, really??! !!) and I find it hard to control. It shouldn't be an excuse. But it is, and I'm using it!


I've passed that stage. It really has. I'm practically pissing bitterness.

There is no way I'll discuss it, but you are absolutely not the subject of it.



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17 Nov 2013, 12:15 pm

They call all the ladies out. They’re in their finery. A hundreds jewels on throats. A hundred jewels between teeth
He will love you look a brother, while he glows through the room.



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17 Nov 2013, 12:18 pm

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I realize its a little late to say this, because your post is from 2007, but I gotta say it.... hasn't anyone ever told you to not fish off the company pier???? You don't stick your wick in the company flame. Or in your case, your flame around the company wick.
It's not from 2007, that's when I joined the site!
So because I met him at work I can't like him? In my chosen profession a LOT of couples meet at work.


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18 Nov 2013, 9:39 am

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Taking a person of the opposite sex that you aren't dating to the beach in the UK would seem odd no matter what time of year.

True, although then again at other specific times of the year it would seem odd regardless of who you were with.



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21 Nov 2013, 10:54 am

Update: I invited him round to my flat (apartment) in December to watch a film version of a book we've both read. He has accepted. However, he probably still thinks it's just a friend thing.
I don't know whether I should tell him how I feel or keep quiet.
I was thinking of saying something along the lines of 'I think you should know how I feel but I am aware you probably don't like me the way I like you. I'd rather be friends than nothing, and I hope it doesn't make things too awkward'.


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21 Nov 2013, 11:04 am

Alycat wrote:
Update: I invited him round to my flat (apartment) in December to watch a film version of a book we've both read. He has accepted. However, he probably still thinks it's just a friend thing.
I don't know whether I should tell him how I feel or keep quiet.
I was thinking of saying something along the lines of 'I think you should know how I feel but I am aware you probably don't like me the way I like you. I'd rather be friends than nothing, and I hope it doesn't make things too awkward'.


Oh well done! I don't think he will think it's just a friend thing, men never do. I have tried to invite men people out as just friends and they always think I meant it as a date.

But either way, I wouldn't say the above. It's a bit too in your face too much and doesn't leave room for misunderstanding which is what NTs love - this is why everyone is so vague all the time - gives them a get out clause.

What film is it? Whatever happens, do not have sex with him straight away!



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21 Nov 2013, 11:11 am

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Oh well done! I don't think he will think it's just a friend thing, men never do. I have tried to invite men people out as just friends and they always think I meant it as a date.
Are you sure? He wont just see it as a friends thing? I want to kind of tell him I like him without actually telling him if I can, because although I can't see why on earth he'd like me, if he does I'd hate to miss out.

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What film is it?
It's actually a made for TV film based on an author we both read. It's kind of Christmassy, hence inviting in December.

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Whatever happens, do not have sex with him straight away!
I wasn't planning on doing so. That'd end up with the sort of relationship I do NOT want.


We chat mostly every night for a few hours (waaay past my bedtime) and I'd be so sad if that stopped just because I liked him and he felt awkward about it. He's really funny and good to talk to.


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21 Nov 2013, 11:48 am

Alycat wrote:
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Oh well done! I don't think he will think it's just a friend thing, men never do. I have tried to invite men people out as just friends and they always think I meant it as a date.
Are you sure? He wont just see it as a friends thing? I want to kind of tell him I like him without actually telling him if I can, because although I can't see why on earth he'd like me, if he does I'd hate to miss out.

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What film is it?
It's actually a made for TV film based on an author we both read. It's kind of Christmassy, hence inviting in December.

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Whatever happens, do not have sex with him straight away!
I wasn't planning on doing so. That'd end up with the sort of relationship I do NOT want.


We chat mostly every night for a few hours (waaay past my bedtime) and I'd be so sad if that stopped just because I liked him and he felt awkward about it. He's really funny and good to talk to.


Yes, I am sure. Don't be a doofus. Would you be chatting to a guy for hours every night waaay past your bed time if you weren't interested in him?



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21 Nov 2013, 11:52 am

leafplant wrote:
Alycat wrote:
leafplant wrote:
Oh well done! I don't think he will think it's just a friend thing, men never do. I have tried to invite men people out as just friends and they always think I meant it as a date.
Are you sure? He wont just see it as a friends thing? I want to kind of tell him I like him without actually telling him if I can, because although I can't see why on earth he'd like me, if he does I'd hate to miss out.

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What film is it?
It's actually a made for TV film based on an author we both read. It's kind of Christmassy, hence inviting in December.

leafplant wrote:
Whatever happens, do not have sex with him straight away!
I wasn't planning on doing so. That'd end up with the sort of relationship I do NOT want.


We chat mostly every night for a few hours (waaay past my bedtime) and I'd be so sad if that stopped just because I liked him and he felt awkward about it. He's really funny and good to talk to.


Yes, I am sure. Don't be a doofus. Would you be chatting to a guy for hours every night waaay past your bed time if you weren't interested in him?
No I wouldn't. I haven't heard doofus in a long while :) I am starting to wonder if maybe he likes me, but I'm scared to think that and get it wrong, as it'd hurt a lot


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21 Nov 2013, 2:44 pm

well, you could always not make a move or say anything and wait for him to do something. if he doesn't - at least you are still friends?



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21 Nov 2013, 11:16 pm

Yeah. Just relax, enjoy your time with him, and let things flow smoothly and naturally. Whatever will be, will be. Though, to me, if you guys are chatting online for hours, it already sounds like you've got something going on between you two. It's also a good idea that you don't want to have sex too soon, before getting to know him.