Aristophanes wrote:
Ok, Software, what's your response to this:
"Hey SoftwareEngineer it's your 15 year old neighbor, I just wanted you know I have feelings for your 9 year old daughter. Its not like a crush, I can't imagine myself having an "intelligent" or what appears to be intelligent to me conversation with her, I feel like when she grows up she is going to be BEAUTIFUL is what I think. And I keep thinking about how nice it would be to be with her when she's 18 and above, what do I do?"
What's your response to that, assuming it's your daughter he's talking about?
I'd have two responses: 1) I'd have essentially the same chat with the boy, as what I wrote above; 2) I'd keep an extra eye on the boy around my daughter.
The best route is good mentoring and advise, regardless of relationship or age. I have many friends who have faced very similar scenarios. It's always a bit unnerving for a father to see his daughter showing the promise of being an attractive young lady. And, the first time his daughter goes out to do yard work in a bikini is terrifying. Most dads handle such situations with friendly mentoring. A lot of dads I know see such things as teachable opportunities - they do what they can to help the kid understand their feelings and make the right decisions. That said, if the boy actually started to make a move on my nine year-old daughter, I definitely would have a strong response.
Post edit: BTW, tt the same time dads are having chats with their sons and other boys, mothers are having similar chats with their daughters regarding the prospect of being attractive. The issue is somewhat symmetric. So, smart parents mentor on all fronts, rather than pre-picking the villain and victim.
Last edited by SoftwareEngineer on 03 Jun 2014, 3:58 pm, edited 2 times in total.
03 Jun 2014, 3:20 pm
