The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
It wouldn't be tolerated from a guy even if it was said in the same words of the OP.
Lazar doesn't represent the guys here.
Also aspies aren't known as social creatures and charming, AS is a deficiency of social skills so how comes she's into social men while she claims to be into aspies?
Makes.No.Sense.
Idk I've been called charming. I also desire social, although I'm not good at it. and my idea of social is small groups not concerts or bars like many nts consider it.
charming is more of an romantic kind thing then social. so i think like nts there are no doubt charming aspies and those who aren't charming.
darkphantomx1 wrote:
Most aspie guys are not charming in the traditional sense. We're definitely not smooth talkers or womanizers either. I like to separate aspie guys into two broad categories.
The first set of aspies are the ones who can talk about their interests all day. They're the guys who are more extroverted and tend to be quirky when you talk to them. For instance, if all of their NT peers like to engage in small talk about sports, music etc, they would be discussing Minecraft or whatever they're interested in. They may come off as aloof, nerdy, weird to other people who don't understand them. They also tend to not be aware of how others think of them as well. As a result, they are prone to being bullied and disliked by "normal people" who do not appreciate their uniqueness.
The second set of aspies are more on the shy side. These are the guys that come off as shy and uninterested when you talk to them. They're not necessarily uninterested, it's just that either they don't know what to say or that talking to others doesn't feel as comfortable for them. Talking isn't their natural state. These type of aspie guys are more likely to be shy around strangers and maybe around girls they like, but once you get to know them they break out of their shell and start to talk more.
I would fall somewhere in between. I'm shy but also desire to be simi social. I do try to start conversations with people.
like a bird dreaming flying but can't cause was born with one wing too short. super shy with girls though.
Lazar_Kaganovich wrote:
darkphantomx1 wrote:
I don't sense any trolling at all.
Besides I always give people the benefit of the doubt before I accuse them of being a troll. Unless its quite obvious they're trolling.
Oooookay
Perhaps not trolling, but bein' a tease. She cannot be *that* clueless if she's NT and posting in the
Love and Dating forum about how she's into aspies and has a racy photo. But whatever; suit yourself.
well if that was so wouldn't it be the good kind of teasing? women use teasing as a way of flirting no? at least that's what I've been told.
I think a handsome, successful, aspie would be the ideal mate for nts. they met most of their requirements except maybe being social, then add that its more likely he'd be super loyal and kind to them.
though I may place too much good in loyalty, and kindness.