A Self-Made-Man girl discovers that life as a man is harder

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I think aspie men have it harder in life than most people see. I think people don't see how much aspie men get harrassed or assaulted by other men. Especially because male culture is such where we don't talk about those things so much or expect support/sympathy as much as women seem to get from each other. Not to compete with women, but I think a lot of women are unwilling to see the issues vulnerable-looking disabled men men face.

Btw, there's one thing that I think Norah didn't get it totally right, is that sex is totally a bodily function for men, but it is not, in fact it's partly mental too, much more mental. I don't think that Norah checked the guys' pants to see if they were really aroused - hugging and kissing the stripper doesn't mean he's really aroused down there - so she got it all wrong.

When I went to a strip club once, and it was my only time, with a bunch of guys.... I didn't get aroused, not even a bit - the girls were simply so outrageously fake in their attempts of seduction. When walking home, the guys looked at each other and asked, 'did you even got aroused?' - and everyone were like "nah, not at all" - there were even who paid for sex and said they didn't even cum.

I believe in women's oppression, but I've never related to the man-splaining stereotype. I've spent my life around loud, outspoken women. A lot of these women sound like they are not taking responsibility for being shy people themselves.

Indoor, women yelling at men (in every small matter) happen more often than men yelling at women.

" I listened to them talk literally for hours about the most minute, mind-numbing details of their personal lives; men they were still in love with, men they had divorced, roommates and coworkers they hated, childhoods they were loath to remember, yet somehow found the energy to recount ad nauseam. Listening to them was like undergoing a slow frontal lobotomy. I sat there stunned by the social ineptitude of people to whom it never seemed to occur that no one, much less a first date, would have any interest in enduring this ordeal.”

"I recall this one date who kept talking about her ex non-stop, about his family, his work, his brothers...I felt life I was on a date with him, not with her."

this describes a couple of women I have dated. Luckily, I have also known women who were more clear headed and able to put their past to rest - or at least bring it up when relevant without obsessing over it. Better conversation and more two sided.

There really is no benefit or privilege to being a straight man in 2015 other than we can take a piss anywhere really conveniently, there just isn't. I don't think most women can appreciate that I could probably go the rest of my life without a single member of the opposite sex ever showing interest in me, it's on me totally to find anyone and I imagine its the same for a lot of men. Being on the spectrum it basically handcuffs in us what most other men and women consider masculine, I'd say most of us are in store for very lonely lives. I've thought about how things would be different if I were gay or a woman and it just seems like a much less miserable existence, there are still some barriers but at least then you don't feel totally unwanted to the world. I'm not a sociopath, I can't manipulate or trick anybody.

Men are the disposable sex, if we cut the male population by half and it wouldn't make a difference and would probably increase the quality of life for the remaining men.

This might sound like the most simplistic advice ever:

But you HAVE to put yourself out there.

You have good intellect. Girls/women will respond to it, especially as they proceed through their 20s.

Simple as it may sound, "putting yourself out there" has proven well beyond my ability so far.

I like how these posts always go in a direction in which you'd think there are no autistic women...after all, all women are the same even the ones with autism and other neurological and/or mental conditions have it 100 % easy, all they gotta do is look pretty and a viable boyfriend will come along...obviously this is how it is for all women.


Anyways remember there are autistic women and women with other conditions who struggle just as much if not more with relationships than your typical male. And what the f*** is a self made man girl? Did she undergo a sex change...or just dress like a dude....maybe her uh 'costume' wan't very convincing and that has something to do with the difficulties she found in picking up females whilst digusied as a male. Sure historically it has been males who make the first move, that trend can be seen even today...though its not unheard of for a female to initiate anymore...but its been ingrained in society so long its still more or less a 'norm'.

Sure might be hard for your typical autistic male to find a model quality, drop dead gorgeous blonde with lots of friends and an impressive social life that wants them for a boyfriend, but no it is not impossible for autistic males to 'get girlfriends' might not get one that will serve to hide your akwardness and raise your social status by being 'hot' but you could look for someone with some common interests you actually enjoy spending time with or attempt to meet people in venues that cater to your interests.......But of course I know many guys would rather have a drop dead gorgeous blonde with large boobs who dresses sexy and is ready to drop them as soon as something better looking, with more money or offers a better time comes along then someone they really bond with who maybe isn't as visually 'satisfying'. Of course i am generalizing some...but this thread is already full of generalization.