Anyone who lost their virginity before/in college pls help

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Perhaps I was not the right thing to call you a dork, I am sorry. It's useless. If I see you calling women "sluts" again in such a casual manner I'll just report you.

Lmao idgaf what you do bro.

Don't get so cocky gtx584. Remember you started having sex when you were 18. Most girls and guys lose it about 2 - 4 years earlier.

Before you start bragging remember that when you lost your V Plates you were older than average.

Most often this. It's unfortunate. Then we get hysterics crying about college rape culture. Sure, it does happen, date rape I mean, but most often it's a young woman regretting her decision to have sex with someone and trying to save face because she's given a way to with no concern it's gonna f someone's life up.

Good work buddy. Once you get the first one out of the way your confidence should increase.

I was going to suggest what so many suggest against- drinking and/or drugs. Not to the point where eitehr of you are incoherent (Id not drink if I were you as it could impact performance). But a few drinks or tokes would go a long way in just making you/her relaxed.

If you in fact, are a good looking guy as you claim, keep in mind that a chick may be as intimidated by you as you are of her. It's not about saying some magic words. It's about portraying a confident, not over the top manliness and letting women notice you, then approaching the ones who appear to. Meeting a girl in this situation and NOT banging her would be wise. Just getting to the point where you know it's possible and maybe making out etc. Then meeting on a date where you've already both gotten a little bothered will assure you get it.

I also had an acquaintance many years back who got laid very often by many attractive women. Guy was uglier than sin too. His theory was playing the percentages. This guy literally, and I mean literally asked every single girl he found attractive to hang out. He'd have the driver pull the car over so he could get out and talk to a girl walking down the street. He was turned down the vast majority of time. But that level of confidence got him a few successes too. Think about it- if you could have 2% of the women you approach but fearlessly approach any attractive woman you see, thats alotta success. You can easily ask 20-30 girls a day. Thats at least one potential girl every day or every other day.

Personally I've been a serial monogamist myself, so this is a theory I share having witnessed it's success more than having employed it myself. However the theory is a sound one that's hard to deny.

Wow what a baby. I hate word nazis like that.

On the other hand, they'd be less motivated to "save face" if slut-shaming weren't so popular. The fact that the guy doesn't usually need to "save face" betrays the double standard.

I am not a word nazi (???), I just don't see why he should use such rude words to refer to people. Btw Godwin's law, lol.

The double standard is one of the reasons why I don't like it. The guy of the post had casual sex too, but he keeps calling her a slut. Looks like men are cool if they sleep around, women are sluts. It's just hypocritical to sleep around and then call them sluts. He also bites the hand that feeds him.

Last edited by Peacesells on 02 Sep 2015, 7:32 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I'll try to keep it at that: If someone calls a girl a slut but yet still has sex with her, then we can call that guy a manwhore.

Right!

Why not Ladies and Gentlemen?

I personally believe the word "slut" to not be as rude as it once was. While, it's certainly each person's preference to decide for their own, the fact is female promiscuity is far more accepted than it was a few generations ago. When I hear a woman referred to as a "slut", I more visualize a woman who is very uninhibited sexually. This could also be promiscuous, but could also just be a woman who's very skilled and diverse in the bedroom. I would use the term "whore" to explain an overly promiscuous woman. But I guess its semantics and personal ideals.

But reporting the guy over that would be a word nazi, cmon. I say this as a very fowl mouthed person who thinks people are WAAAAY to sensitive about words. So maybe Im too biased.

I'm not sure about the word slut because I'm not a native English speaker, but it seems rude to me. Btw the guy was already calling them sluts early in this thread, before his experience. I don't really have anything against casual sex, but there's no need for such a foul language here, especially since, as others pointed out, it can be quite hypocritical.

Try to make friends with circles that have girls in them and don't try to think about sex too much, or they'll think you're weird if u blurt it out too soon. If u want to understand female sexuality, read some romance books. You'll find that they like things to build up gradually. With guys, we can just f**k right away. Thats why porn doesn't have a story line. Women need pretext though. Theres a kind of formula, and it can help u feel the situation out.. They like commitment, a guy who listens and is observant. You can kind of tell if a girl fancies you or not too. Try to make sure the girl likes you beforehand too., as much as you can. I wouldnt feel so pressured to lose virginity though. I think the culture puts way too much emphasis on this. but find someone you're really compatible with, who smiles a lot when your around, laughs at your jokes, shares interests, and take it from there. Again, don't blurt too much out at once. Ive been with girls that are easy, and you really don't want this. These kind of women are trouble. You can get roped into something you dont wanna be in. Some of them are really needy as hell. Where a condom too, and read all about its proper usage well before hand. There is indeed a wrong way to use them. Just a few minutes of research on this could help enlighten you immensely. The last thing u want is being stuck with a crazy or incompatible woman through a kid.