Virtual Sexists
Women police themselves more than any man in every culture. Do you know in countries that practice female circumcision it is usually the FEMALE relatives that administer it? The biggest sexists are other women, ones that can be probably described as the most socially successful.
It's two sides of the same bitter coin gals, get off your high horse
Blaming women for internalised sexism makes as much sense as blaming kidnapping victims for developing Stockholm Syndrome. When there is a vastly imbalanced power dynamic, you can't really blame those with less power trying to work with the system being imposed on them the best they can in an attempt to survive having less power.
No group has power, individuals have power, we don't have a big patriarchy club meeting to discuss this months oppression. As mentioned, women compete with each other much the same as men if not mire so following the same logic of this thread then would it be wrong to link the radical man-hating feminists to unsuccessful undesirable bitter women? Internalized sexism is a funny term, that's like a feminist version of calling someone a Uncle Tom and makes about as much sense. I believe women have played a great deal in shaping our society and culture, I guess that makes me a misogynist shitlord.
If you're not willing to see that being male has had advantages because our culture for a long time was set up to not recognise women as people who should have the same rights as men and that still effects how men and women interact with each other to this day, then there is no point in trying to have a conversation with you. If you're not willing to acknowledge reality there is no hope for decent dialogue. You're not interested in understanding women's lives--you're interested in scoring points. It's very tiresome as a woman to have to try to reason with people who refuse to be reasonable because I don't have a penis. And you're all closed-minded to women in the same way, so women end up having the same conversations over and over again with guys that go nowhere because the guy they are talking to really doesn't care to try to understand where you are coming from because you are female and they can't deal with their own bias. So tiresome...and this is why we often give and up and just don't bother trying anymore with you guys. We are wasting words on you because you don't want to listen, and many of us are just not going to bother anymore.
You do not ever have "dialogue" with anyone, you do this almost every time somebody disagrees with you. You are a very poor debater and resort mostly to ad hominem retorts with the occasional link to a blog post, you've literally posted probably a hundred different iterations of this post. I don't know if you have a penis or not(your profile says you're male) but it doesn't change how I interact with you. Would you prefer kid gloves? I am glad you speak for every woman, you like to do this a lot. Why is wrong to hold someone accountable for how they interact with another person? I see women as fully sentient individuals responsible for their own words and actions, I guess I didn't know they were less than that. Critical theory is Marxist pseudoscience, no I won't agree with your argument before you make it.
This is what happens when people embrace an ideology: They disregard their critical thinking skills and resort to rhetoric, ridicule(of their opponents), ad hominems and other logical fallacies!
Ideologies are like religions. People subscribe to them because they need something to believe in. Regardless of what this ideology is, leftwing or rightwing, their behavior is the same.
Ideologies are like religions. People subscribe to them because they need something to believe in. Regardless of what this ideology is, leftwing or rightwing, their behavior is the same.
At the risk of making myself somewhat unpopular with you, I would suggest that it is much more difficult to spot this in oneself, than in someone else.
Women police themselves more than any man in every culture. Do you know in countries that practice female circumcision it is usually the FEMALE relatives that administer it? The biggest sexists are other women, ones that can be probably described as the most socially successful.
It's two sides of the same bitter coin gals, get off your high horse
No one's on a high horse. That's your perception of people.
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Ideologies are like religions. People subscribe to them because they need something to believe in. Regardless of what this ideology is, leftwing or rightwing, their behavior is the same.
At the risk of making myself somewhat unpopular with you, I would suggest that it is much more difficult to spot this in oneself, than in someone else.
That's certainly true.
In the past when I was in my teens and early 20s I got suckered into these ideologies until I started to look at the world around me and realize all the inconsistencies and began to ask questions. That's how you spot it in yourself: By always questioning everything.
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Women police themselves more than any man in every culture. Do you know in countries that practice female circumcision it is usually the FEMALE relatives that administer it? The biggest sexists are other women, ones that can be probably described as the most socially successful.
It's two sides of the same bitter coin gals, get off your high horse
No one's on a high horse. That's your perception of people.
Your perception is that I am talking directly to you or anyone in this thread or on this forum, it's a generalization just like the one this thread was started on. No one is on their high horse in the entire world? I don't believe that.
There are gender specific advantages to being female at times.
For instance, my experience is that if I cried at the same things women often do, I would be seen as emotionally weak, unmanly, and possibly unstable(which I am but not for that reason), usually by the opposite sex.
As a man I can't express certain things in a way that is socially acceptable, but women can. That's a pretty big advantage psychologically right there.
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For instance, my experience is that if I cried at the same things women often do, I would be seen as emotionally weak, unmanly, and possibly unstable(which I am but not for that reason), usually by the opposite sex.
As a man I can't express certain things in a way that is socially acceptable, but women can. That's a pretty big advantage psychologically right there.
As a woman, I am treated very differently (negatively) when I express anger than when a man does. It is socially more acceptable for men to express anger than women. There are two sides to the sexism coin, and patriarchal ideas of toxic masculinity and weak femininity hurt everyone, not just men or not just women. We are all effected negatively from sexism and would benefit from social and emotional equality.
Well, in my experience, at least, the women I've come into contact with only parade equality when it's convenient for them. Want the same wages a man gets? Yeah!(I'm not saying women shouldn't get this, it's just an example) But as SOON as there's a dog corpse needs buryin', it's all, "Be the man and go bury that dog!"
So, you know, whatever...
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So, you know, whatever...
Maybe you need to get out more, and meet some new people.
So, you know, whatever...
Maybe you need to get out more, and meet some new people.
Prolly.
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It's easy to see why either sex, would direct their anger towards the opposite sex, especially if they have had bad experiences. I've seen plenty from both sexes. People need to realize that everyone isn't a bad person.
The problem I run into alot (on here, and IRL), is that women are ok with you giving your opinion about another male, but when you tell them anything they don't want to hear, you are suddenly deemed sexist, or have a bad attitude towards women, and are given rude responses. If another woman gives the same opinion/advice, nothing is ever said about it.
For instance, my experience is that if I cried at the same things women often do, I would be seen as emotionally weak, unmanly, and possibly unstable(which I am but not for that reason), usually by the opposite sex.
As a man I can't express certain things in a way that is socially acceptable, but women can. That's a pretty big advantage psychologically right there.
As a woman, I am treated very differently (negatively) when I express anger than when a man does. It is socially more acceptable for men to express anger than women. There are two sides to the sexism coin, and patriarchal ideas of toxic masculinity and weak femininity hurt everyone, not just men or not just women. We are all effected negatively from sexism and would benefit from social and emotional equality.
When a man gets angry these days, like me for example, people see him as threatening(particularly women). And in relationships when the guy gets really, really angry and lashes out the woman becomes frightened....My ex threatened to call the police on me when I blew up at her with a furious shout after 20 minutes of insults and provocation on her part. So how do people treat you negatively when you get angry? Do they see you as dangerous and call the cops saying you're a psycho?
Where I come from and where I live, men are expected to keep their cool except under the most extreme circumstances. Expression of anger is viewed as a sign of weakness because a man's *strength* is supposed to come from his ability to be in control of his emotions.
There's little doubt the best way to show strength is to crush your opponent like a bug without losing your composure.
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For instance, my experience is that if I cried at the same things women often do, I would be seen as emotionally weak, unmanly, and possibly unstable(which I am but not for that reason), usually by the opposite sex.
As a man I can't express certain things in a way that is socially acceptable, but women can. That's a pretty big advantage psychologically right there.
As a woman, I am treated very differently (negatively) when I express anger than when a man does. It is socially more acceptable for men to express anger than women. There are two sides to the sexism coin, and patriarchal ideas of toxic masculinity and weak femininity hurt everyone, not just men or not just women. We are all effected negatively from sexism and would benefit from social and emotional equality.
When a man gets angry these days, like me for example, people see him as threatening(particularly women). And in relationships when the guy gets really, really angry and lashes out the woman becomes frightened....My ex threatened to call the police on me when I blew up at her with a furious shout after 20 minutes of insults and provocation on her part. So how do people treat you negatively when you get angry? Do they see you as dangerous and call the cops saying you're a psycho?
Where I come from and where I live, men are expected to keep their cool except under the most extreme circumstances. Expression of anger is viewed as a sign of weakness because a man's *strength* is supposed to come from his ability to be in control of his emotions.
Yes, when you're a woman and you get angry people call you a crazy b***h, people shun you. Most places I've heard about, men getting angry is acceptable and normal--it's one of the only emotions that are considered normal for men to express openly and to act on (with the exception of horniness maybe, if you can consider that an emotion). Anger is manly and masculine, it makes you seem more dominant and powerful when you are male. When you are female if you show anger all you get is scorn and contempt, you get mocked and called hysterical and unstable. People (usually men) ask you if you're "on the rag".
For instance, my experience is that if I cried at the same things women often do, I would be seen as emotionally weak, unmanly, and possibly unstable(which I am but not for that reason), usually by the opposite sex.
As a man I can't express certain things in a way that is socially acceptable, but women can. That's a pretty big advantage psychologically right there.
As a woman, I am treated very differently (negatively) when I express anger than when a man does. It is socially more acceptable for men to express anger than women. There are two sides to the sexism coin, and patriarchal ideas of toxic masculinity and weak femininity hurt everyone, not just men or not just women. We are all effected negatively from sexism and would benefit from social and emotional equality.
When a man gets angry these days, like me for example, people see him as threatening(particularly women). And in relationships when the guy gets really, really angry and lashes out the woman becomes frightened....My ex threatened to call the police on me when I blew up at her with a furious shout after 20 minutes of insults and provocation on her part. So how do people treat you negatively when you get angry? Do they see you as dangerous and call the cops saying you're a psycho?
Where I come from and where I live, men are expected to keep their cool except under the most extreme circumstances. Expression of anger is viewed as a sign of weakness because a man's *strength* is supposed to come from his ability to be in control of his emotions.
Yes, when you're a woman and you get angry people call you a crazy b***h, people shun you. Most places I've heard about, men getting angry is acceptable and normal--it's one of the only emotions that are considered normal for men to express openly and to act on (with the exception of horniness maybe, if you can consider that an emotion). Anger is manly and masculine, it makes you seem more dominant and powerful when you are male. When you are female if you show anger all you get is scorn and contempt, you get mocked and called hysterical and unstable. People (usually men) ask you if you're "on the rag".
My point is that male anger is seen nowadays as dangerous and menacing(and especially when it comes from men of color or men with mental illnesses) because it is associated with violence. People are dismissive of female anger but part of the problem, and I don't know how you behave personally, is that many women do not make an effort to control their emotions because women are not expected to be strong or stoic. Sometimes men, and even other women, get tired of dealing with this and call her a "crazy b*tch". Either you're hanging around some really nasty people or you're someone who is very reactive emotionally.
It is only acceptable for men to use anger when they are in a position of authority as a way to intimidate their subordinates into compliance without questioning. I've seen examples of men getting extremely angry in public and people are noticeably fearful of him and in some cases the cops show up to check if everything is alright. Haven't you heard of the infamous angry black man stereotype? Society says he needs to be locked up!