I am losing faith in women

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Before you can walk you must learn to crawl.

You need to focus on not giving people bad vibes. Your too combative and you think people are stupid and immoral. Anyone who gets a sense of this is going to run away

You need to try make friends and give them good vibes before you think of getting a girlfriend

Good thinking.

Heading off to the deaf games starting from tomorrow for couple of weeks.

Now I am graduated from Wrong Planet.

Enjoy life and make sure smile at people when you walk past them

Yes, kraftiekortie, it is pointless to say that, and very frustrating. Although there is a lot of truth in the saying, it is not even really true. After all it is O.K. to have a romantic interest in somebody if this person is romantically interesting for you. A lot of good relationships are driven by some kind of romantic attraction, and often there is also some asymmetry, so one of the two feeling more attracted to the other, which itself might evolve and change over the time. It is just that it is no good to do as if there was (MUST be) a bigger attachment than there actually is.

To Ecomatt91: You have to let people go also in the little matters, if you want them to feel comfortable with you; it will make you relate better to people if you develop your capacity of letting go. There are some buddhist meditation techniques for that. I am actually not really familiar with them, but my ex-boyfriend who is having pretty much the same issues you have was quite relaxed because of them when we met, and it helped him - at least for a while (he got psychotic when I wanted to leave him and engaged very nastily in a custody battle over "our" son).

Maybe so, but as others have pointed out, nobody is always right, and being closed-minded enough not to even consider the possibility that you might be wrong about something will see you coming off as arrogant.



In many cases, NT women just aren't in a position where they need to worry about adapting to people with extreme communication difficulties. It's unreasonable to expect them to bend over backwards for you, purely because you want them to. It's unfortunate, but when NT women have the option of choosing someone without communicative difficulties, why would they choose to harness the extra effort that comes with someone who has communicative difficulties? It just doesn't make sense.

If you want to maximise your chances of finding someone, I believe your best bet would be scouting the deaf community. You'll find people who relate to your struggles, and you'll be able to communicate in sign language, which would probably be easier on both of you. It makes more sense to hire a lawyer who's already been through law school than to stand around at a university campus, looking to hire a student who may want to study law.



If the '20 somethings' aren't winning their own game, why is it you complaining and not them?



This seems like a pretty over-dramatic thing to say. It seems like you're blaming women for not wanting to entertain your communicative difficulties, instead of realising that they're as entitled to their preferences as you are to yours (i.e. not being interested in girls who drink alcohol).

I get that your situation sucks, but it's not the whole female population's fault. For people to be romantically interested in you, you must be enticing to them. That means that the positives they see in you have to outweigh the negatives. Do you think you leave a more positive or negative impression on people?

*never mind*

its good to have standards and preferences but I think your standards are getting in your way, because you're not willing to see women as human beings with complex internal lives much like your own. maybe she drinks more than she should, maybe you are incredibly emotionally unstable. if you can't meet people in the middle then you need to get one of those real dolls because then at least she won't do anything you don't want her to and you can trust that she won't.

this is what she is meaning with your thinking, ecomatt91.