What is the purpose of online dating if people are too far?

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I don't think there are people who go and try to find somebody specifically on another continent. It's more like when you meet someone special, and love hits you, you'll have choices to make. If you want to make it work, you'll make it work. If you find it more important to live where you are, and you'd rather find someone else two blocks away than to move to your lover, or wait for them to move, that's also a respectable viewpoint, but then your love is probably not deep enough.

I think a long-distance relationship has its advantages, too. Of course, you need a lot more trust, and a lot more commitment online than face-to-face. When you don't see your lover every day, you need to be a lot more open and trusting and telling about your things, because your significant other simply doesn't know. I know that many people wouldn't accept such a lifestyle for several reasons, and they are totally right in their own terms. I only say that if you manage to do what other lovers would never do, it'll mean that your love is really true and it's worth every price.

I'm not saying that a long-distance relationship is better than a regular one. I'm only saying that love is something we don't have control over, either if it's around the corner, or 1,000 miles away. We either accept it with all its benefits and sacrifices, or not (but hey, that's a sacrifice, too - you sacrifice love for convenience). I know that I love goofygoobers so much that I'm willing to give up my life as it is now in order to be with her later, and I know it'll be worth it.

Last edited by AusWolf on 22 Apr 2016, 9:16 am, edited 2 times in total.

You might want to notice the quotes I put around the word aggressive. It wasn't meant literally. I used it because someone else previously did, to point out that what I described next is the closest thing to aggressiveness I see in her picture, and it wasn't intended to blame her.

Unfortunately most attractive women do as they know their attractive and therefor think their better then 98% of guys. Those who don't think that way are caught up in it as it's impossible to know they'll different then the other attractive women.

Why wouldn't you want others to feel that way? We're just worthless sub humans 0.o

I do read things literally, sorry for misunderstanding.

Yes, Allie, you look aggressive; l can see your large canines... we need garlic necklaces and belts now!!

Shhhhh don't give it away

Garlic is good against vampires, mosquitoes and libido.

But you can only meet somebody from another continent by using online dating, and then you really don't know a lot about each others because you haven't met IRL. You don't even know if it's a real person, and if it is, if anything they say is true or not. You can't trust photos either because it's easy to use somebody else's photo. That's the primary reasons I want to meet girls IRL first, and then possibly continue online once I know they are real, that they have some essential traits I can only validate IRL and thus are compatible.



You might not see somebody that lives close by very often either. It's more or less a choice both people make about how often they want to meet. So you can decide to meet rather seldom when you live close too, but you cannot decide to meet often IRL if you live on different continents, unless one of you move.

In conclusion, online dating is not for everyone, and if you have difficulty finding others in your area on dating sites, real-life truly is better.

1-2 hours may not seem like 'much', but I've always thought that's if you live in a large city/metropolis area.

Otherwise if a person is 1-2 hours away a few towns over, why would you drive on a la cross-country style road trip to meet a stranger you've been talking to for 3 or 4 days, who for all we know may not even be a real person (or lied on their profile/fake pictures).

So, how then might I go about meeting someone my age in my own city?

Like I said, I thought online dating would broaden my potential, but there's actually so few people who live here online it's ridiculous.

Perhaps putting Tinder (which I haven't been on in like three months) on ridiculously low distance settings will help. As long as a reasonable amount of people aren't looking for just hookups. It'll also take longer just to get any people to show up.

I set Tinder on low distance before, and it took forever to get people to pop-up.

Anyway, there's not many people, let alone women, let alone teenage ones at that, on the internet that live here. Near here is another story, but not here. Unless it's, of course, a dating site.

BTW, Plenty of fish has just 30 pages of members with their location listed as here. There's 10 people per page. 10 x 30 = 300.

Assuming 50% are women, that's quite a hefty and diverse dating pool of 150 women. And that's assuming you'd date every single one of them. Assuming you are both attracted to and/or compatible with at least 10% (and that's being generous), that's a nice selection of 15 women on that entire website. Do remember, plenty would be too old for you, some too young, plenty would have personalities or a look you just aren't attracted to.

However, sometimes it doesn't depend on how high your standards or are not, sometimes your dating pool potential just may be a low number. Even if we assume you'd like 20%, that's still only 30 women.

So real-world is my best bet.

What can a 17 year old do for fun solo (because I don't have any friends here to hang out with)?

But no, actually, it wouldn't be solo due to my agoraphobia. I'd probably be with a family member.

Mall? (i only shop when i need to, but heck, I'm willing to window shop with my fun uncle for the heck of it and just screw around for a bit). Coffee places (the coffee here's sh*t)? What do people actually do at coffee places solo? I see women and children, aka housewives, and elderly, but not many young men or women. Do they read? Contemplate philosophy while on their lunch break from work? Or just look like an unemployed bum sitting around doing nothing?

I frequently see young adults and teens kill time outside a shopping centre smoking cigarettes with a big crowd of friends. Where's the fun in mindlessly idling outside some establishment like a young unambitious type?